Morning Deb, I hope you have a peaceful day with no upsets. It’s such an awful time for us all, particularly with first anniversaries coming up soon. Look after yourself.
Sending hugs xx
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@Jodel712 you are not alone and it’s fully understandable that you are still upset . As you said it’s the biggest loss losing a partner . I have done a lot these 6 1/2 months but it’s so hard without him . The house is so quiet and so is my life now
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Thanks love. Horrible children - thats whats upset me … callous and mean and im not talking to them again ! And they will get nothing from me for xmas either … not even grandchildren … if i see them - which i probably wont tbh - i will give them money otherwise they can all bog off ! All this generation seem to care about is money ! And what they can get out of you ! They dont seem to care about people …
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@Deb5 Wow, they’re strong words. But if people aren’t there to support you, sod them.
You’re not obligated to support (financially) anyone, just because they’re family.
Why settle for Wales? How about some where in Spain or perhaps Corsica? 
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Lol … well yeh … 
and no im not obliged to support any of them no ! They’re grown men and women with jobs … but somehow they act as if i have to spend all my money on them !! Can you get your pension in spain ? Tbh my sister is in Spain and you cant just automatically live there now we out of the EU … you have to get a visa . Probably too early days yet ! But i do wanna move … x
My family live in Ireland and i love to visit ,and id love to live in a warmer climate but wouldnt want to be on my own at least ive some friends here .We had lots of days out and holidays away all gone now id never had the guts to holiday alone .I lost him and our future and do struggle with any positives for the future .Love to all of you xxx
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No its hard from every point of view isnt it ? Ive had enough of it all ! The struggle ! The harshness of it all … the being without them ! Absolutely nothing is the same … 
i hate every minute that im alive without him … if there is a bloody god - why didnt he take me with him ?
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I know how you feel im the same we have been robbed big time all of us.It makes you angry especially this time of you xxx
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@Deb5. We all have to be careful and look after our money, especially now that we are on our own. We never know what we may need it for, private carers or nursing.
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Yeh inknow thats what my brother said. You may need it, especially now im without a husband! ! And i don’t mind doing things for the kids sonetimes but with their attitude i really dont like doing anything for them right now tbh … their dad would be livid with them and their behaviour ! I know he would. My mum has told me to just ignore them now and concentrate on myself xx
No its not !!! Xx
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@Deb5 i wish I lived nearer you so I could give you a cuddle and share a glass of wine . I can only send a virtual one xxxxx
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Replied in wrong box … hope you see it ! My lucy, my puppy , is 1 today !! Xx
@Jodel712 no I think a lot of people will appreciate your honesty, I do!
I’m finding very hard, like you say there is other grief & I feel I’m grieving not only for my partner but for the life I lost too. Everything has changed for me, new job, constant problems ever since she’s gone & that’s honestly not an exaggeration & now my own health problems which is worrying me because I’m off from work & can’t afford to be but I’m waiting for a heart monitor to be fitted & I’ve got a throat/chest infection that won’t go. The emotional pain on days is so unbearable because I don’t know what life holds in the future for me?
Love & peace being sent back to you 
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@Deb5 its not that difficult I’m sure your sister has friends there that could help you with visa . Someone I worked with has just done it with help from friends in Spain xxxx
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Mmmm … long way though … got my mum here - yeh my sister is in spain … xx
Hi Emz.
I feel for you. I too lost my husband of 42 years, just over a year ago after a two week illness.
I try to keep busy and have lots of friends that I meet for coffee etc but I am still very up and down. The past two weeks have been especially difficult. I think it’s the prospect of my second Christmas without him and like you say the feeling that a future stretching ahead of me without him in it seems pointless.
I just wrote a post earlier saying I feel so lonely and my grown up kids don’t seem to be there for me like I imagined they would. I feel very lost. I hope things improve for you and you manage to find some joy in the Christmas season somehow x
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Perhaps just a long holiday somewhere sunny would suffice! ) (though that’s always a bit hard with a dog. I think the longest we’ve been away without the dog is a couple of weeks).
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Ive just had a holiday in tenerife ! No wont be leaving my dog again ! It was awful … shes only just 1 years old last sunday … be right ! Im going out with my mum on saturday … just rough isnt it ? All of this. Had a really lovely walk on canal with dog tonight just before it got dark ! That was lovely so peaceful and quiet ! I think we need quiet at times like this xx
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