Parents

[Pinkie2]

Hi
I’m new here. Last year November the 15th, I lost my mum , and three weeks after her funeral my dad. Mum’s death was two days before my birthday, and I was given her cause of death on my birthday. Her death was awful, and I have had cbt therapy, but don’t feel it’s helped much. I feel so much anger towards a certain Pharmacy, who started the downward spiral to my mums death, and the way she was treated in hospital.
I don’t feel I’ve started grieving due to it.
I also had no help from my brother.

[Seaneen]

I’m so sorry for the loss of your mum and dad, @Pinkie2 - that is devastating. You might want to connect with @Larkygirl who also sadly lost both her parents very close together. They posted this thread earlier today:

Losing both my parents within 9 and a half weeks of each other

My dad went into hospital after a fall he had hurt his arm, he went in on 20th April and never came out again. He developed sepsic shock, they had to intubate him as the sepsis was causing him to become aggressive which was not my sweet dad at all, he was pulling out all his cannulas so they had to put him to sleep on the Thursday and told us they would try and wake him the following day but when we arrived at the ICU on Friday 26th April they told us he hadn’t produced any urine overnight slowl…

Please keep reaching out and know you are not alone.

Take care,
Seaneen

[Pinkie2]

Thanks for your lovely comment.
At the moment I’m trying to figure out how to reply to messages, so hope you see this reply

[Keith68]

So sorry for your loss, I hope coming here helps a little with you grief and the tough times that are ahead of you. I know it’s not easy and I still miss my mum and it’s been just over a year for me now. We was very close and I’m surrounded by memories every day.

[Pinkie2]

Sorry for your loss too.

[Larkygirl]

Thank you @Seaneen x

[Larkygirl]

Hi @Pinkie2 if you ever want to talk I’m here, I know exactly what you’re going through xx

[Pinkie2]

Hi there,
Not sure if we can privately message on here, but if not that’s ok. My mum also died of sepsis, but it wasn’t peacefully, she had no dignity, and there was a lack of care.

[Keith68]

I know a bit about sepsis as I had a popped ulcer in October 2020. I had to have surgery and blood test every day. CT scans, MRI scan! I know it’s fatal if it spreads to the blood. So I understand where you coming from regards the medical side. I can’t comment too much about the treatment your mum received in hospital as I don’t know. You can make a complaint to the hospital, you might want to look into this.

[Pinkie2]

I am thinking about it, just haven’t found the strength. I may try and channel my anger in that direction.
My mum ended up with sepsis because the hospital didn’t give her a laxative after being on an iron drip, after my brother told them she needed one. Her bowel split, and caused sepsis.

[Keith68]

You certainly need to do something about that. Get together with your brother and set out and plan the best course of action. It be easier to do with your brother then alone.

[Pinkie2]

Unfortunately my brother and I aren’t on good terms. It all started with Boots the pharmacy, then snow balled from there. There’s them and the NHS.

[Keith68]

You will need to make it with him, if you going to take the NHS on regards incompetence you going to need him. First you will need to write a complaint be professional as you want a reply admitting their mistakes and incompetence. Without this you have nothing to work with. But I do urge to make amends with your brother it be easier with 2

[Pinkie2]

That isn’t going to happen, I’ve tried over and over with him, over the years. He’s not good for my mental health