It’s been two weeks since I found my husband unresponsive in his chair, I tried to resuscitate him, but failed, every day is a nightmare I miss him so much , we had so many plans for the future, he was only 58, I had no idea he was so ill, I cannot live without him I love him so much . How can I carry on?
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You can because there is something to live for. However small it seems, there is something.
You are valued as a person and add to this world that we live in.
I know that at this moment it all seems pointless, i can honestly say that this wont always be.
One day you will smile again and feel the sun on your face. You will be glad to be here to feel it.
Before that day just please remember that you do have a place and this life wouldnt be the same without you in it.
Sending you all my good thoughts xxx
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Olleyfamily, At this point, I’d expect you to be a mess. It’s so recent, you haven’t even had time to take in what has happened. I’m just over 10 weeks since my wife died suddenly and unexpectedly. She’d only gone into hospital with a chest infection. She was gone just a week later. I’m still asking the same questions and wondering what the future holds. There’s just so much to do too. But, at the moment, you need to just do the essentials. Of course there are lots of things to do, but most things will wait.
I found it especially difficult to comprehend what had just happened until after the funeral. I’d often been expecting her to walk through the door any minute until then. I heard keys rattle in the lock yesterday, and looked up expecting to see her come in. In fact I’d left the house keys in the outside door lock and they were blowing in the strong winds we had at the time.
I can say that it’s got a little easier as time has gone on, but I still have good, bad and horrible days. Days when I’m angry, days when I can’t function, but they seem a little less than before. Let your emotions out, cry, get cross - it’s all part of the road we’re travelling on. Baby steps, because eventually those baby steps will get to where you’re going.
Take care, much love. Nigel.
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Thank you for your kind words
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Just wanted to say sorry for your loss, i loss my beloved husband on 23rd November to cancer, its been 9 weeks now, he was only 50, we had been together for 22 years, i miss him everyday and struggling without him, the tears haven’t stopped since.
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Thank you, and I am very sorry for your loss too, it is so painful to lose someone you love so much, I too haven’t stopped crying.
My life changed in an instant and it’s hard to see a future without him.
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So many men dying far too soon. Mary was 76 but seemed to be going on 60, and that was far too soon as well! We need a health awareness campaign aimed at us men - we’re notorious for not getting checked out regularly by our GPs. Luckily Mary would badger me to go and I have a GP who Mary always said ‘walked on water’. For a devout Franciscan Catholic that’s praise indeed as only one person ever did that!
Look after yourselves, and tell everyone to get regular health checks. Love to all, Nigel xxx
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So sorry you are here in the same boat as us. I lost my Husband 13 weeks ago today he was 54. It all happened so quickly from being diagnosed with leukemia to passing 20 days later. My heart is broken and don’t know how to carry on life without . This is the worse pain I have ever felt
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Yes, too many men dying young, I woke up one morning and he was gone, I tried to resuscitate him, but I knew it was too late, my heart is broken.
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I am so sorry for you, it’s so painful, It is the worst pain, unbearable!
I send my love to you.
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So sorry to hear about your husband. It is a nightmare isn’t it. I had to do CPR too when my husband suddenly had a heart attack in bed next to me. For you its only just happened. You’ll still be in shock. I still am finding it difficult to believe over 8 months on. How could he have been so busy and active one minute and gone the next. However I don’t think its the end. I believe that he’s gone onto something else…a continuation in some way… he’s just gone on ahead of the rest of us.
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Sorry to hear that Lydia that must have been horrendous to deal with. I really need to believe in afterlife do you recommend anything to watch or read on this? Big hugs x
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I also believe in the afterlife, I hope my husband is on a new adventure and is happy.
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