It was guilt thinking I could of done more. Like nag her more to get her new pains sorted out. She had fibromyalgia as well which we both blamed for the new pains she was getting. Turned out that the pains were her cancer. And by then it was already too late. But they lied and told us it was non aggressive knowing full well she was going to die. That was one of the apologies we got. It robbed us of time with her.
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Put in a complaint with PALS as well
Ive put in a complaint with PALS and my solicitor has now received his medical records, ive told them we want an apology and not bothered about the money.
Im just looking for an apology, I’ve kept my promise to my husband and that’s all that matters
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Seems as if we’ve all been failed in some capacity by the NHS the whole system is broken. We have all been left with what if’s. Unfortunately whatever we do now won’t bring them back 
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Good morning all .here we go again other crappie day having
My 2nd bereavement councillor today .lets hope she helps me.the first one helped lets hope we all have a good day. Xx
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Hope it goes well for you x
Im having my second one tomorrow
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Good luck .2nd one for me.there are some questions i wanna ask.i lets i get the right answer. When i go here my heart beats faster today i miss her more xx
So do i .looks cold outside wrap up warm i think big coat heeeheeee. Any other day same stuff. Xx
Well going to get ready .lets hope it is a good session. I have got some questions i want to ask her .i had a horrible nite last night must of had 3 hrs sleep.maybe i was thinking about going to bereavement councillor could gave been .lets hope we all have a alright day . Bye for now xx
Just back bereavement councillor i was a good one today .i feel better after i have spoken to hear she is nice and friendly. A very good listener xxx
That’s good! I’m glad it makes you feel a bit better xx
Yes she does as i keep saying people thinking having bereavement councillor it is worth giving it a change .well it is sort of working for me xx
I maybe would contemplate it in the future, but at the moment I am not ready to sit in front of someone and talk about Mark, its easier on here to talk to people who are having the same feelings of sadness and worry, but so glad it is working for you xx
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Yes it is easy on here i agree .that is what i first thought. Talking to a stranger. But it is different she gives you advice that is all i can say .had my 2nd today. Xx
I just feel i need someone to answer for this and apologise i know it wont change our situation, i miss lee every second, some days are slightly easier yesterday was not 1 of those days
I find the evenings so long i have a routine where i cry then eventually go to sleep.
I work for the nhs funnily mental health and yes the nhs is broken and is failing so many people and thier loved ones x
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I need to look into counselling do i just call the sue ryder team to arrange this and is there a long wait time?
I hope your second session went as well as it could
Totally i will look into pals and the advice of contacting our local MP
There is a bit of a waiting list at the moment, @Llw. You can apply for counselling on our website: Online Bereavement Counselling Service | Sue Ryder
Cruse has volunteers who offer bereavement support: Get support - Cruse Bereavement Support
Your GP can refer you to counselling, too.
Take care 
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