It’s been 4 weeks since my husband died still no answers.
Received the coroner interim death certificate and a email yesterday stating that the professor has finished with his heart!
Completely devastated confused and emotionally drained.
I’ve got to start sorting out his estate there’s a house in his name along with some debts.
I’ve returned the life insurance policy and also returned his death in service policy.
My question is has anyone applied and done probate themselfs?
I’ve read a lot about the hefty fees and also how easy it can be to do yourself.

Zozo, a few years ago I did probate because our son said I could so I did. Since I have talk to other people who have employed some to do it and it seems our son was right. One way or the other you have to sort out everything that they needed to fill in the form which for me was the hard bit. Writing to each company, filling in the forms and returning them. So my personal feeling is if you are positive and have the time it helps with the grieving. The probate form is the easy bit and I am not sure how anyone can actually check what you put, they are looking for big fraud.
I worked myself into a state when going to the office to swear on the bible and it was a non event. Hope this helps. S xxx

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Dear Zozo

I am going through Probate. Rushed head-long into getting a solicitor thinking the payouts would cover the legal fees only to be proven wrong. If you do go down that route shop around and check what is included. Having received multiple forms to check or part-complete I do not think it would have been too bad an effort for me to sort out myself. In fact I have landed up ringing some of the pension companies myself to sort things. The house is through Land Registry once probate is complete and costs around £40 I am led to believe. Debts and cost of funeral are offset against any monies that you may receive. But the critical question it appears when dealing with pensions etc is to get clear evidence as to whether the payment is being made direct to you as next of kin or to your husband’s estate. Probate is only interested in monies paid into the Estate. I found the companies were helpful in telling me if it were to the Estate and Probate required.

On reflection I should have started the process myself but at the time I was dealing with the Police and Coroner’s office and was overwhelmed.

At four weeks you will also still be in shock so take your time before you make a decision. If you think there is anything I can help you with in terms of the process then just private message me.

Sheila x

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Hi Zozo

I did the probate for my mum online and it was easy to do, but my mums estate was simple. There was a will and it was divided equally between my sister and I.

With my dad, we had to use a solicitor as he had not left a will and his estate was more complicated.

You are entitled to 30 minutes free with a solicitor. Maybe you could arrange this with one to get an idea of whether you could do probate yourself?



Zozo, just a last thought but hope it is still there. There was a phone line to the probate office and a really kind gentleman helped me twice when I wasn’t sure what to put into the form. The second time he apologised for not telling me before, That I had to write the money figures onto the form by hand.

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Hi Zozo,

I lost my husband back in March and I have just completed probate. I did manage to complete it myself, with the help of some family members. So the final cost was £250 ish, which you have to pay for probate. I won’t say it was easy but got there in the end. If I can be of any help please private message me and I will do my best to point you in the right direction.

The biggest battle is having to deal with all this due to a situation we would rather not be in.

Take care

Dee xx


Forgot to say, just so you don’t feel under pressure. You have 12 months from date of death to complete probate. They recommend doing it within 6 months if there is any chance that inheritance tax needs to be paid, because after that time you are charged interest


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Hi Zozo
I am currently waiting on probate, I did complete the forms myself, you just need to gather all the information together first. Mine was purely for one of the life policies who are insisting on it, My husband did not leave a will, so my application is ‘letters of administration’ (but the form online is still under probable) but the property was in joint names so I had no issue with that. I submitted the probate on the 16th of September and heard nothing since, it was £221. My husband has been gone 11 weeks and I am still waiting on cause of death from the coroner, I did manage to use the interim certificate for most things but the other life insurance and his pension will not do anything until we get a proper death certificate. To be honest it’s waiting for the cause of death that is the worst. I feel I am in limbo not knowing what happened to my love. He was 48, no illness, just gone within an hour, it is agony x

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Thank for your advice x

Thanks for your advice I’ve decided start it myself with many doubts that I can’t do it!
I’ve got great support around me who are willing to help x

Thank you for advice I’m going to try do it myself.
Sorry for your loss I know how you feel waiting for cause of death it’s the worse feeling week 6 for me now IM BROKEN X

Dear @Zozo
It’s taken me 10 months to submit probate to sheriff Court, I kept pushing it back as its the final thing to be done & I couldn’t face it.
The solicitor quoted me £1250 plus vat plus court fee £268 but I could hear my dear husbands outraged voice saying ‘all that money to get MY hard earned money over to you? No way!’
So I googled help with probate & found a great guy who specialises in this, paid him £175 & got a great service. All templates & guidance that is lacking on .gov websites was available & he checked all forms before I submitted. Couldn’t have done it without him.
I am Scotland so law differs, but I’m sure you’ll be able to find an English equivalent to the ‘my probate Mike Davies in Edinburgh’
I took the final papers & docs to court last week (postal service in our area experiencing severe disruption due to covid/staff shortages) & had to ,listen to a totally unfeeling robot clerk’s lecture on why personal visits to the office were not allowed due to covid.
I could have told her I know too well about covid, having my life totally ruined by it.
She’ll realise when she is faced with loss, meanwhile I’ll keep my powder dry until I get the forms I need, then I will lodge a few suggestions about the quality of their customer service.


Hi Zozo, just checking to see how you are doing?
Just to add I submitted my letters of administration on the 15th of September and got it granted and paperwork received Friday so it took just over 9 weeks. Also for all the form filling and cost it’s just a couple of lines on a bit of stamped paper :slightly_frowning_face:. At least I can submit to the insurance people now although they are quoting at least 4 weeks until they even look at it.
Take care x

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