I’ve got to stay there next week to sort things out…I could live there in theory but it’s too upsetting.
My Mum and stepdad died within. 8 months of each other. I’m fine now with Mums stuff, so I know that although I will cry sorting out his, it will get a bit better in time.
My MIL lived in a council place and they had to get it all out in 2 weeks, it’s cruel. I understand the need but it’s very hard for those grieving.
Sending a hug to everyone struggling, we will recover in time 
Just keep talking to others thorpuppy it does help a little I remember sorting things out at my mum dad house and it was very hard I still don’t like going down you walk in and it’s empty it’s just a house now not a home
Snowhite it’s starting to feel like this…not their home, just a house 
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Spuffcat in time we’ll all be fine just keep going it’s all we can do they wouldn’t want us to be sad but it very hard
I had the same thing said to me having just lost my wonderful dad who I miss so much I called cruse and they were helpful they said he was my anchor its so true lost without that
Snowwhite…Spuffycat…Tracie…Josie…you guys are so right. Today I went to my dad’s house to go through more things with my stepmom. I was going through old pics my dad had with me as a little child, even my mom was in a few of them, I totally broke down, I had to go outside and sit and have a good cry. I miss him so much. Eve n though he built the house before I was born, the house feels so empty without him there. 
My dad was my anchor as well, I called him for everything, and talked to him almost every day. My heart is broken. Hugs to all of you…
Love to everyone
Thank you, it’s comforting knowing we are all going through this together. Cruse are really helpful, I calm them regularly x
Sending you love too that must be hard to go to the house without him there I cannot comprehend that at the moment my dad has always been there waiting for me to arrive and smiling it seems impossible
You are right they would not want us to be sad they would want us to carry on for them
Our mums died on the same day! The date just jumped out at me as I’m scrolling through this, looking for strength. It is helping. Like others have said, our mums love us unconditionally and are our anchor.
I’m 59 and am utterly lost, lonely and empty without my Mum. I’m lucky I still have my dad but I was always closer to my mum. It’s even hard admitting that!
I do have a partner but our relationship is fragile after over thirty years. My partner had a breakdown last year, three deaths, her mum, her brother which was expected as he had cancer then suddenly her sister six weeks after her brother. So for the last three years I have been treadwalking in treacle and then I lost my mum. Who gave me so much support and encouragement, who wanted me to hold on in there. So I can’t tread that treacle anymore. I am floundering. Life goes on it’s true. But for me it’s stopped with mum, 29th December 2021.
It is the loneliest feeling even though I have children and grandchildren the pain goes so very deep I still feel lost without mum and its nearly 4 years buts its easier now but with dad being so recent I keep wondering if only mum were here to talk to me she would help
My dad told me when mum died 4 years ago that she would live on inside me and that I had to “live” and not to grieve too long I know easier said than done
This might sound nuts but I never really seen much robins but now they come everyday today I seen a white butterfly in my head head I like to think it’s sights from mum and dad I even wave at the robin how mad is that
It’s not mad at all a sign she is with you I have had white feathers appearing in my plant pots and on the window ledge this happened before when my mum died its comforting if you believe it will comfort you
When does it get easer josie
I think you don’t notice things lessening over time I think when my Mum died I was grieving so badly but as time passed I was able to think of happy memories and connect with her, she came to me in dreams which comforted me I found doing things she liked or listening to songs she liked it doesn’t bring her back but I believe their spirit lives on
That’s really lovely they would want us to live our best life
I have the same feelings feel lost without my dad and now mum she passed in June 2022 so it is still extremely painful I don’t know what to do I know I’ve got to go back to work but can’t face anything at the moment xx
I was of work for a couple of months but when I went back it help a bit it took my mind of it for a couple of hours mixing in with people I felt I was just rattling around the house with nothing to do you might fell a bit better if you go back it gives you a focus you’ll always miss them that never goes away