My wife got her angel wings last year. I have her ashes at home. I feel guilty that I’m not sharing them with anyone. I have now bought a plot to bury them in. I’m now starting to dread the thought of loosing her again. I’m torn on whether or not to do it.
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Hello, I was in a similar position, I wanted my husband at home with me but felt bad there was no grave for family to visit, but then i thought how often would they go? Even though I know my husband is gone I didn’t want to see his name in a graveyard so in the end i thought I was the one who looked after him so I’m going to be selfish (just for once) & keep him with me !
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I also couldn’t give him up, not yet. Maybe one day, maybe never. His sister mentioned a date to me, as we had agreed to go and scatter his ashes but I couldn’t do it, I wasn’t ready. When I told his family, they were glad and said that it was up to me and only me. I was relieved and thankful.
It’s the last thing I have of him.
I hope you can make the right decision for you.
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I have got my husband at home with me. He loved being at home and was so comfortable in his home which he decorated and laid every floor down. I talk to him often and have his photo above his urn.
His sister which I haven’t heard since the funeral 7 months ago hasn’t even asked where her brother final resting place is. I gave a small pouch of ashes to his best friend and I have got a necklace made out of ash so he is with me all the time. X
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Eaxactly same as me @Hazel.1966 my husband loved his home too and so his ashes still here with a picture in front - ( and i had his signed football shirt framed ! ) which is on the wall xxx
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@Deb5 when I go I want my ashes to be mix with my husband and scattered together. Never thought it would happen this early stage and thought we had years together 
Xx
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Aw … yeh same xxx
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Thank you for your reply
My husband was born in Fiji he wants his ashes scattered at famoly home.
We already scattered his mums ashes thrre in 2019. We only visited hus mums resting place in Feb this year. Did not expect that i would have to make this trip so soon he was only 63 not even at returement age.
I have his ashes here with me and not quire ready to take them to Fiji maybe in time i can part with them but not yet.
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I hope you aren’t under any pressure from anyone to scatter his ashes soon.
The decision must be yours when the time feels right for you. I am sure your husband would not wish you to rush to Fiji until you are ready.
You are not being selfish.
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My partner wanted her ashes separated - part scattered and part interred.
Struggling with splitting her ashes, even though these were her wishes
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I know my husband wanted ashes in Fiji but mentioned he wanted do some i the garde he so.loved at home. Not sure about garden as what if i move house later my dilemma is do i scatter all at Fiji or split i need to take my time to decide
Im confused
Sorry for the question …what does interred mean ? X
I had the same concern - her family want to inter the ashes on private land near a water way.
What if the land is sold for development purposes etc - there goes the precious memorial and ashes.
I’m going to inter the ashes at the memorial garden at the church where she had her service - at least I’m sure they will be there indefinitely along with the headstone - she didn’t specify a location.
If you inter the ashes in an urn, you can dig it up if you move - scattering needs a bit more consideration to the longevity
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Inter means bury the ashes with some sort of memorial
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@Galaxy75, there’s no rush, just take your time before making a decision.
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Oh yeh thats what i want to do with my husbands ashes … eventually … didnt know that was what its called 
It’s difficult
I don’t like the idea of splitting her up.
Toying with idea of 3 split - part scatter, part inter and part keepsake.
But very torn
Agree with Rome18 - not something to rush
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Yeh so do i … 8 months on i cant bear to part with my husbands ashes yet and actually i just noticed its exactly 8 months to the day today and still missing him …
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Dark day for you😞
I’m only at 8 weeks on Saturday😞
Can’t see it ever getting easier - adapt around it maybe
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