I lost my mum 7 weeks ago, and she was my best friend I was with her everyday and I’m so lonely. I don’t have friends due to a past abusive relationship just 3 young children. I was a big believer in spirit ect, after my mum had quite a few signs from her dad, unexplainable stuff, like her tv coming on at 2am every morning, curtains opening themselves and lights coming on.
But I have had nothing from my mum, and I’m desperate for a sign shes with me. I’m starting to disbelieve and now thinking that maybe there isn’t anything after.
Has anyone else had any signs? Id love to hear your stories and hopefully have hope for something from my mum
I know many of us have had those times when we think something has happened that we can’t understand or are uncertain why it’s happened. There is a thread regarding this but I can’t find. Hope you have better luck but it is there. Sxx
Nade when my dad died in 2009 my mum said every night her bed would shake violently. After a few nights my mum said she shouted out if that’s you Bill stop it its frightening me after that it never happened again.
My husband died in August so far I haven’t had any signs I keep asking Jim to show me a sign he’s with me but nothing. Still hoping .
Hi Nade, my best friend is very spiritual she scares me with her connection and she has told me it can take a year for them to learn how to do it especially if they wasn’t very spiritual in this life so non believers. My beautiful mum died on Wednesday and on Friday my washing machine leaked for the first time ever and I hadn’t even used the washing machine since the day before she died. Mum would drive me crazy with washing, whenever she stayed with me she would just wash everything if it didn’t move mum washed it, it was her way of helping us and it would drive me crazy I would tell her off because I would have washing hanging everywhere. I’m certain it was mum because my mum had such a lovely sense of humour and I’m sure it was her way of trying to make me laugh. Mum really believed in the after life and spirits she always says the night her dad died an owl passed her window as she was driving down to him to try and get there before he passed, she was to late but she always says the white owl was grandad. I hope this offers you comfort. My mum pain free in heaven with all our loved ones that have passed is the only thing getting me through you must believe
We have always had signs in our family. One of my most vivid was being sat on a late shift at work sadly not on my own in the office when I could suddenly smell my Mum and feel her favourite cardigan against my face. I wish I had been in my own so I could have spoken to her freely and cried how I wanted to. Recently I keep thinking I can smell my Dad too.
I always look for white feathers and greet Robins. Whenever we see a Robin I ask my children who they think has come to see us.
My Granny has had my Grandad making some mischief before, plates falling off walls amongst other things.
I hope you get your sign soon!
I guess I and my late partner are what you call non believers, we had had many conversations about what happens when someone dies, my Dad was a non believer too, he died 16 years ago, I was very close to him and always thought that if it were possible he would send me a sign but unfortunately I got nothing.
My soulmate died in November 2021 and we had both promised each other that whoever went first would send a sign if it was possible but again nothing.
I’m glad that some people get signs because it must bring so much comfort to know they are okay.
One thing I know for sure is that my soulmate would be extremely angry to be taken so suddenly, he had so much he was looking forward to and it reinforces my belief that that there is no God because such a wonderful person was taken in the prime of his life, why would God be so cruel?
Sorry if that’s a bit negative but it’s how I feel. I don’t know why I’m still here because I’m only half a person now.
Muldool
I completely understand that! I lost a 6 month old daughter to SIDS and less than 3 years later my happy healthy mum, she was 70 but looked about 55 and was so young in herself, I thought she would live to 100, so I do not believe in God at all, because why would he take them both when there is such horrible people still here?!? But I do believe in signs, as my mum had so many with her dad, lights turning on themselves, her tv turning on at 2am every morning, and her curtains opening themselves. But now I haven’t had any signs from my mum I’m starting to doubt it, I was with her everyday, she knew what my mental health was like and we were more like bestfriends, so I hoped there would be a sign, I just want something like that obvious it couldn’t be caused by something else. It wouldn’t scare me, I would feel at ease. But I really want to believe.
Hi I’m. New… I’ll say hello first. My husband died nearly 3 years ago… Anniversary coming up. Anyway. My husband has come to see me 2 times now. Both times while I’m trying to sleep. Now I’m not a believer
in ghosts etc. But he comes into out room I can feel him touch me at stroking my arm. I feel his body walking by the bed. I call his name asking why do you keep doing this. I find it very upsetting. I think he comes because I’m not ready to let go of him we were very close, did everything together. I miss him so. Much. I think the only way that he will stop coming if I stand my ground and say. Tell him I’m fine tell him to be on his way. I will follow when it’s my time. All sounds strange. But I wouldn’t believe it. If it hadn’t happened to me. Any suggestions
I’m so for your loss, and I totally understand why you feel the way you do.
The thing I just don’t understand is why we have all these horrible and evil people who do dread things still walking around when some like Pete who was the kindest most loving person you could ever meet was taken away, it just doesn’t make any sense.
I would be thrilled to get a sign that he was okay but deep in my heart I know that there’s no way he would have been able to accept his fate, he would be livid.
I’ve been desperate for a sign since my partner passed unexpectedly three weeks ago.
I wouldn’t particularly say I was a believer but I’m definitely open minded. My partner never believed in life after death, he always said when you’re gone you’re gone so I can imagine the look of pure shock on his face if he had found out differently
I don’t feel him around me at all, it’s only been three weeks but I don’t get any feeling whatsoever that he’s still around. I feel like he’s gone and that’s it. I really hope I’m wrong. I’m waiting for his mam to tell me she’s felt him or that he’s visited her because she believes in it and she said she felt her late husband when he passed.
I’d like to think that if he was watching over me sobbing and feeling so desperately sad and angry at his passing, begging him for a sign then he would give me one. But he hasn’t and now I’m feeling that maybe deep down I know it’s not coming either. I’m not the type of person to see a white feather or a robin and take that as a sign because I’ve seen plenty of robins and white feathers before he died and it’s obvious I would have seen more even if he was still alive.
I’ve been thinking about going to see a medium but the amount of guesswork most of them put in makes me very sceptical of them too. I will give it a go when my head is in a better place though. I feel that with the suddenness of his passing I really need to know he’s ok and at peace, I don’t want him to just be gone forever. I think it’s far too easy to cling on to any little thing and take it as a sign when you’re going through the hardest time of your life and I’m not going to let myself do that. It needs to be an obvious sign or message that could leave no doubt in my mind it was him.
I ask for signs every day. Since he passed, I’ve heard ‘our’ song on the radio twice (it is very old and not played a lot), seen lots of white feathers and opened the door to a robin sitting on my fence, looking at me. But like you say, maybe I’m looking into it too much! I read somewhere that you should think of an obscure word or item and see if it appears. I did try that and it worked. Again, was I just hoping? I thought of a phrase yesterday (a random one) and am telling myself if I hear it within the next couple of days, then I will know. I went to a medium two weeks after he died and they told me it was too soon. I am so desperate to know he is ok. Try a phrase or word too, and see if it works for you and let us know!
I’ve already spoken aloud to him many times and told him I desperately need a sign so I know he’s around and at peace and that I planned to visit a medium. He knows I’m sceptical so I said make sure you mention this if you do try and connect with me through a medium. He often spoke about death after losing his dad suddenly and when we spoke about it we’d always joke about this one thing I’d forget to do if he passed away, it’s something silly so I’ve told him he has to mention that if he ever tried to give me a message. If he ever came through with that then I’d definitely believe x
I think the medium I saw was right - I think you need to give it more time before you go to one to connect. Let all this horrible situation ease off a bit and then go through your local spiritualist church (I did) to find someone reputable. Not one online who can look up all your social media for information! In the meantime, try not to be mega specific! Pick something weird or funny. Something you know would have made him laugh! I’ve done something in his honour that when I see a medium again, I want to hear about. Don’t know when to go again, but maybe 6 months? For now, I’m waiting to see or hear the phrase I thought of yesterday!! I did actually see a medium after a close family member died years ago and she told me what I said to them as they were in a coma. I believed it, but then I go through phases of thinking did they make it up! I hope for both of our sakes that our loved ones are well, happy and one day will let us know xx
Oh gosh I can’t wait six months, I think I’m going to try after the funeral. It would have only been six weeks by then but it’s worth a try and even if it’s too soon for him I have plenty of other family members on the “other side” who might decide to say hi lol. I’ve never really felt the urge to try to connect with my mam, she died when I was 21 of cancer but I didn’t grieve this way for her because I watched her fade away slowly over months. It just never entered my head to try and connect with any other family members so you never know.
I feel like I need a message off him as a blessing to live without him, I know it sounds silly because he’s gone and there’s nothing I can do about it but I always find myself wondering if there had been signs that were missed or had he been slightly off or different that morning and I’d missed it. We have a Ring! Doorbell and I keep watching him leaving the house and walking up the garden for the last time and I know deep down there’s absolutely nothing different about him that day, he’d been fine all morning but I think it’s natural to think like that. I just really need something to show he’s ok and at peace.
My Mum came through on my reading, but we were never close and I didn’t really pay attention to what the medium was saying as I was so focused on hearing from my love. I think I was too overwrought and should have taken notes! I was never going to believe anything unless it was from him. The medium said that she was sending her love and that was something my mother would never have said, so I just dismissed it all. I need to go back when I am calmer!
Yes that’s the thing, if they say something that you know your mam wouldn’t have said then there’s no way you can take the rest of it seriously. I could read my OH like a book, we’d see something funny sometimes and look at each other and laugh and I always knew what he was thinking. I’d know if the words or things that were said in a reading were coming from him. He had such a unique sense of humour and personality that he often left people gobsmacked that he’d said what he did, never anything nasty or personal or anything like that just so incredibly blunt and cheeky
He loved banter, he loved it when people would tease him and he gave it back tenfold. I know 100% that I’d know if it was him or not.
How much did you pay for your reading? I’ve seen some online ones for £37.50 but I’m just not sure. I’d pay ten times that if I knew they really could connect with him but obviously some people are scammers. It’s sad really that me or you could just start giving readings to people who desperately need some hope just to con them out of a few quid.
I paid £40 and it was over an hour. They did say some things I remember that made sense but as I say, all I wanted to hear was something from him, so I didn’t really take it all in. Next time I will take notes or record it!! xx
Look up your local Spiritualist Church and maybe go along to a service. It may help and you should be able to be introduced to a more reliable medium. All I want is to know he is ok and that we will meet again. I still can’t believe this has happened. It is so surreal xx
Take this as you will. I found a small pure white fluffy feather in the front curtilage of the house when I left home this morning, Good Friday. I picked it up and put it on top of Sandies ashes canister, then carried on out. Then later, on my way home from meeting a friend in a cafe, starting outside a small house for sale I briefly stopped at and thought about as a maybe future option for my new single life…there were many small pure white feathers literally every step of the way home. Another slightly larger pure white feather on our house front curtilage where the first feather had been…just one again… on arrival. Then when I went out to check a plant in the garden I am watching for Spring growth before pruning as per Sandies written instructions, another even larger pure white fluffy feather right in front of it. I put it on the plant. Can’t think of what birds would make such feathers, nor that there would be so many on my route home. I then went in and had a melt down.
