Even though 6 months has passed since my beloved passed away i feel sad and crying a lot like ive got nothing to live for. Life isn’t the same anymore i so miss everything about by beloved. So miserable.
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I know what you mean. It was 6 months for me on 1st August. I keep on going and I’m also doing new things, but it isn’t really getting any easier. Somebody was really nasty to me yesterday, it was totally uncalled for and I’m still very upset about it today. Life is so hard and I don’t understand why.
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I understand.
It will be 6 months for me on Friday
The sadness and tears don’t seem to get easier
I will be going to a funeral on that day. There will be tears
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Tomorrow it will be 5 months since losing my wife and like you, @Duk45 , @SadGirlfriend and @Liro my life now is sadness and tears, I kept a journal in the early weeks and I look back at the anguish, desperation, loss and distress I was going through then and I do realise that now my feelings then were the absolute worse, I can cope with the sadness and tears, for how long? who knows but I now see that things will change, it won’t be what I want but it will be manageable.
Take care and don’t ruminate, it does you no good!
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Hi @swift
I’m trying really hard to carry on living, it’s what Roger wanted.
But its just so hard. Some days I’m ok and feel I’m coping.
Then I have days where I feel I can’t go on
I will be ok, I promised him I would.
It’s just going to take a while
X x
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Hugs to you all. If this is how you are all feeling at 5 months plus what hope is there for me . It was 9 weeks yesterday. Xxx
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Recently I’ve been thinking about putting some of his stuff away as my house looks a bit of a shrine. I’m getting fed up of all the reminders. That reads as disrespectful but I am sure he would have pulled himself together if I had gone. I’m not ready to get out there and start living properly yet although I do seem to do a lot more than normal people who aren’t bereaved. On 1st February 2025 perhaps I will turn that corner.
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Oh Jo
Just because we are still sad and cry, doesn’t mean we aren’t coping.
We will always miss them but hopefully that will get easier.
We just have to somehow build a life without them.
Roger wanted me to carry on living and he was worried about me. But I told him I’d be ok and I will be, eventually.
At 9 weeks I wouldn’t have believed it either. But for all the sadness and tears I am coping.
Love and hugs
Liz x x
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Awww Liro I am sorry you are still feeling so sad, reading yours and others post gives me hope that just one day I might feel ok , instead of tears abd sadness all the while.
Hugs Jo xxx
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Thank you very much❤️
Thank you very much for your messsge
Thanks for supporting message.
Sorry to hear someone was nasty to you sending you big hugs
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Another day, another morning, another batch of tears as yet again you wake to no one to talk to, 5 months today, I am coping but just miserable, having to unload on here as the cat has had enough and gone out!
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@swift These trigger dates always hit you, don’t they? My dog is like your cat, she goes into her other bed in a different room to me.
Yes another day of tears lonilness and longing just over 9 weeks for me. How I wish i could turn back time. Hugs Jo xxx
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Why are mornings so unbearable. I wake up every morning in floods of tears. The house is so empty. It’s only 8 weeks tomorrow since I lost the love of my life. I miss him soooooh much I can’t describe it. Life as I knew it and loved it has ended and I can’t ever see it being any different. I just don’t want to be here without my Bill. I love him so much… 
We did everything together and I’ve even had to find somewhere different to do my shopping as I can’t bear to visit places we went to, together.
The freezer is full of things he was going to cook. He loved cooking and was always planning menus for us.
The only light at the end of a very dark tunnel is to be with him.
Aww HarrietvI know how you feel its 9 weeks 2 days for me. Everyday seems like the one before. I do try and do things but then the tears start all over again.
But we have to go on find a new way of life as empty and lonely and most of all heartbreaking that is we have no choice. Hugs Jo xxxx
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