Yeah it’s precious to keep things, I’ve got a piece of hair from mam, dad & brother in a cylinder on my key ring, always close to me 
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Everything you said there I agree with, we live on our past memories and it’s not easy to create new ones as we have no one in our lives to create new ones with. Not sure it would matter as we won’t have that connection again. It’s not possible, we have different connections but not that true strong bond.
Definitely whatever kind of upbringing you’ve had it’s what’s programmed into you, when you’ve been used to a family and it’s no longer there your in a bit of a limbo, floating around without a purpose it’s a case of finding a new one and creating new memories, which I’m sure will come in time for everyone who’s grieving
I think it’s complicated for all of us, I not been out much recently just the hospital. There’s another singles night coming up on Feb 20. I not booked it, because Myeloma is a problem. I need more a friend and support at the moment. The tears flowed today a little, I’m surrounded by memories of my old life. I lost so much recently, I wouldn’t feel like competing with other men at a singles night. I realize I got to move forward somehow. Just I’m not sure I’m in a position to do so at the moment.
Life’s a pit for me at the moment, I try my best to climb out only to be pushed back into the hole. Fridays I go to hospital, was there 3 and half hours today. Come back to missed call from CAB and more rejections from the Imbecile Council. I have a payment plan for Council Tax letter from December, so that should do the job, well you would think. I mean it has a Council Tax Reference number and I thought less then 3 months then it’s classed as recent. But they saying for the new year I not even received one for 2025. I can’t do everything it’s just too much and I’m suppose to be doing this Stem Cell Transplant 10th March. I think the best outcome would be joining mum, I’m sick of this world and the greed I’m convinced there has to be something when we done on this planet, something better.
Id try not to worry about the council tax, set up a payment plan they can’t take what you haven’t got. You need to focus on your hospital visits and looking after yourself. Things like that are bottom of the list. It prob sounds easy for me to say that but I’ve been there too. Ring cab up on Monday and take it from there
Might build up evidence over the weekend and take it all in on Monday. The Council are making it hard for me, because they can. I have to be careful because it feels like they don’t want a resolution to all this. I do need to get this sorted out for peace of mind. I find it shocking that the impression the Council is given ng me that money comes first over life. I couldn’t live with myself if I took that on board. All this is contractadicting with what awaits me regards my illness.
Even though I don’t feel ill, I am.
That’s been done by CAB, but it’s not helping with me regards parking fines. It’s making me reluctant to carry on with those payments. Read earlier that people are refusing to pay Council Tax over some local elections being cancelled. This government is going to far, it’s going to collapse on itself. A Labour member leaves the party every 10 minutes too. I cancelled my membership!
That’s the way the world is now money talks, corrupt councils taking back handers, it stinks but theres nothing anyone can do about it. Life is unfair to start with just try not to let them beat you down they not worth it, where are you supposed to park your car if don’t mind me asking ? Is there a spot you should use
Residential, I’m trying to connect phone to printer at the moment so I can start getting stuff ready for CAB.
They know exactly what they doing, Honey Trap! to exploit me of money. They Council Tax document is last year, but they ignore my emails to send a current one out. They need taking to court! or exposing, But we now know Labour are as corrupt as the Torys.
The truth is Tik Tok is the best social app. It’s were the truth is and more importantly it probably makes you cry as people post nastalic stuff which revokes memories of your childhood and how things used in this country. Like Cannon and Ball, loved them as a kid, nothing today is like it used to be. It’s all gone and all we are left with is our memories.
I’m not on TikTok but I like X
I’ve had a very busy day i think you get days where you just throw yourself into housework to keep busy, I forced myself it’s easy to just sit and wallow at times, achieves bugger all though. I’m watching a series at min on channel 4 app called “this is us”it’s really good about the highs and lows of family life, resonates with me some things and makes you smile too it’s really good.
I used to love weekend tv when a kid , bullseye and 5,4,3,2,1 dusty bin haha ! Kenny Everett was a hoot too loads really
I hardly watch TV these days. But the Cannon and Ball show was a must. That ran for 9 years! I did my spiritual group tonight had a reading, and names the medium said was Joan and Ivy. Joan was a old school friend of my mum and Ivy and her partner were friends we met up with in Blackpool. They lived in Reading down south. This spiritual thing is a bit like going down the rabbit hole, the further you go the more interesting it gets. Tonight medium was very professional talking to my friend I found out she been doing it for 30 years.
That sounds really interesting do these mediums charge ? Only asking coz not sure how these work online, is it Facebook ?
It is Facebook, but I’m in a spiritual group and you have to be invited to the session by the owner of the group. Normally I suppose they would, but for the group no. I got really lucky with the owner of the group. But it’s opening it things up for me. You got to have a open mind to start with, but I’m convinced there’s a afterlife. I think a lot of things that been taught via religion is wrong and possibly false. But there is something and it might be more fun then on the earth realm as they say.
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I class myself very lucky to have met Isabelle on FB. Back then I was very lost I didn’t know my future and I was grief stricken. I remember one day I woke up and just started crying. I even had a tarot reading done on FB, I didn’t know my purpose in life. I didn’t know if I was suppose to be with mum or not with the diagnosis of Myeloma. I was overwhelmed with so much, I didn’t know where to turn. I was totally lost, it happened by accident I wasn’t looking for a spiritual path even though I was part of other groups because of another person. We have to deal with death as it’s our destiny. Back then I was part of a 80s group and I remember a posting about CB radio and I thought maybe I should get one and go back to the old times because they were the best and I was happy back then. I just wanted connection and something to take my mind of mum, it was eating me up and I just craved to go back to better times. So I joined CB groups and started posting stuff asking questions. Isabelle replied and it went from there, I told her I had lost my mum and I was struggling to come to terms with that. She asked me if I would like to join her spiritual group, I had nothing to lose so I agreed. It’s just gone from there really, started doing the Saturday video sessions, I was skeptical. At first I didn’t get anything and I wanted a message from mum. But I presevered with it and kept doing them. I was worried at first if I did get a message would I break down in tears and I was worried how people would perceive me. But I kept going and I’m glad I did. There’s so much we don’t know and I want to learn more about it. We never stop learning and I think that’s for a reason. One of the reasons we exist is to learn but it’s knowing what’s right and what’s bad for us ? Spirituality teaches we have unlocked potential and shows and guides us that what we been told isn’t the truth. Death isn’t the end, ten commandments is man created and not the word of God why would we be punished for having our own opinion ? that’s not what we are here for, but our fellow humans like to punish us all the way through life. Were here to learn and no one learns through punishment, we learn through knowledge and knowledge is power!
You have to believe in something helps with the healing process, and if this works for you then that can only be a good thing, having support around you is really important whatever form that is
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Absolutely agree, I’m lucky to be part of a spirituality group and to be invited to live sessions. A reading will lift you and gives you a buzz, it’s important more so then here. But people need to find their way on here on a mental and emotional level, it’s not easy! But if you get help through spirituality that your loved ones haven’t left you, but have moved to another realm, it helps. Nottingham City Council is now stopping people laying flowers at graves of their loved ones, or removing them. My war with the Council continues over parking!