Part of something I found online. So very true. There are fleeting moments when I feel I’m coping but I’m not. I know Im struggling, that it’s all so new but each day brings something worse, the realisation hits me harder each time. All I really want to do is give up.
You don’t just lose someone once.
You lose them over and over,
sometimes in the same day.
When the loss, momentarily forgotten,
creeps up,
and attacks you from behind.
Fresh waves of grief as the realisation hits home,
they are gone.
Again.
I’m impressed that you’re even having good intentions Lynne, that’s a positive, even if things go downhill later. I’m too busy feeling sorry for myself that I can’t even pretend I’ve got any intentions of doing anything.
To psm23
Dont be too hard on yourself you have got to give yourself time to grieve and also to heal slowly dont rush yourself take each day as it comes talk to him on his photograph and ask him to help you along the way because one things for sure nobody can take away your feelings or memories. When i have a bad dare i always try to think of my late wife laughing at me when something goes wrong and although its sad i can reassure myself thats what she would do if she was still here.
PSHm3
You might be thinking that but what would
your beloved say to that.
Nearly five months since i lost her and my sister and have also had giving up feelings at the start of our recovery journey but i know them i know what i would be told.
Others with us this side would say the same keep going in their memory.
A deep breath chin up and take care
Thank you, I think you are the first to even ask that. It’s one of the reasons I joined WAY instead on Facebook because I felt like no one saw me on here. Thank you again. Just you asking me means so much
Hi Brokendoll
Your more than welcome would you like to talk about your situation who you lost and when and how your getting through things and dealing with things in general maybe we can get you over some hurdles your facing i am here to talk to you and other people will message you hopefully with some help for you
Yanko is right BrokenDoll, there are plenty of us on here who’ll be more than ready to listen to you - no matter what you have to say or how you say it.
I’m not good for much at the moment but I’ll always listen .
PSHm3
You might feel like you havent got alot to give but sometimes just being there to listen to someone is good enough and relating to what they say can help you and them with a bit of a coping mechanism.
Your going through alot aswell dont be too hard on yourself.
@BrokenDoll
Anything I can help with I’ll certainly try. We’re all at different stages in our grief so people will be able to offer help advice from their own experiences. You’ll do it love. Xx
Hi Nancy123
Dont be too hard on yourself you just have to take each day as it comes its like a hurdle race sometimes you can get over them sometimes you cant but you will get stronger and the race will become doable
Take your time
@Nancy123
I feel the same sometimes. I’ve been putting off phoning virgin media as last week I phoned it was that unbelievablely stressful I just lost it and couldn’t cope! I know I’ve got to do it just getting the guts together. Earlier on just coming back from a walk with the dog. Not been too bad some stopped me and told me they were sorry to hear about my partner. I just lost it. Sat here a bloody mess again. X
Since November, it’s either an issue w/ the credit card (someone hacked it to use at Amazon) or w/ taxes (IRS froze my refund last year after my husband passed and prob. this year, too). We’ve had 3 ice/snow storms where I live (in North Carolina, US) and we seldom get any so I was shoveling 4 inches of snow down my long, hilly driveway. My spouse did so much, even if he wasn’t feeling that good. Having to adapt is a long process it seems.
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