Hi all I am new to this site and this is my first post.
I am recently bereaved and so lonely I need contact with, help, advise and any suggestions on how how I can ease this pain I am suffering, I know it will go eventually but that doesn’t help right now and I am sure chatting with people in the same situation will help
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Hello nonsmoking,
I’m so sorry for your loss…everyone on here will be.
There’s nothing we can say to make it any easier, but what you can know us we understand and get how you feel.
I only found this community about a week ago. My lovely husband and best friend has been gone 8 months. It still hurts like hell.
You will deal with your grief in your own way. But I’m sure you will find some comfort from this site. I certainly have.
Hugs to you as you take small steps day by day, hour by hour. 
This is a horrid situation for any of us to be in. Unfortunately there is no timetable as to when we can expect to feel a bit more normal, everyone is different. I have found that being able to talk to people who are going through something similar helps and just accept that most days are dreadful. My husband whom I’d been with for nearly 44 years died rather suddenly in February and even though I have lost of friends and family around who want to help they can’t really relate to what we’re feeling/going through, which is why this site is a godsend. I now allow myself to cry when I want to, scream when I want to and socialise if I think I can cope. People mean well but it’s much better being able to talk to others who have been through something similar.
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Hi Cathphil
You understand what I am going through and baby steps is what I am going to do. She was my friend my wife my soul mate and we were married for 58 years and together for 63. She is a great loss and I will never get over her or forget her and the good times we had together. I am sure this site will be of great help to me in the future
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Hi Guineapig
You understand what I am going through. I miss the company and I am very very lonely. We were married for 58 years and together for 63 years. My family live in America so I don’t have anyone to talk to except on the phone which isn’t the same as having someone there with you. I hope this site will help me cope with the pain and suffering which I am experiencing right now. I know it will go but it doesn’t help knowing that right now
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Hi Nosmoking
I feel so sorry for your loss. 63 years is a lifetime and I can understand your great loss. Of course you will never get over her or stop loving her, why should you want to.
The feeling of loneliness is awful but I can confirm that it does ease in time. I actually like my own company now but I have had a lot longer than you to adapt.
I see you have two dogs and I can assure you they will be a great help to you as many of us have had to lean on our dogs for help and to heal us. I hope you can find the strength to take them on walks and this is also a big help in meeting people and having a chat. I have made friends by going out and walking my dogs. Your lovely dogs should attract attention.
xx
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Our two dogs , save me everyday without even knowing that they have.
The oldest, Treacle, 8 years is suffering his own grief. He spent all his life with my Phil, and through all of Phil’s illnesses. He still stares at the front door all the time looking for Phil to come home. It’s heartbreaking.
And Bobby , our puppy, 11 months, had only 12 short days with Phil. (Although we had met him when he was only 3 weeks old, didn’t come to live with us till 10 weeks) It breaks my heart every day, seeing Bobby growing up without Phil knowing him 
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People on here have been a fantastic help to me especially when I am feeling lost. Take it one day at a time x
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Totally agree with your comments good people on this site I need to take baby steps
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My 2 dogs Missy and Lily have been my saviours they comfort me and are always by my side as if they know how sad and lonely I am. I don’t think I could have got through this sad time without them. Sadly like yours they only had a couple of weeks with my wife before she passed, but I am sure they remember her
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My 2 girls Missy and Lily have been my saviours over this sad time always by my side comforting me as if they know how sad and lonely I am. I make myself get up and take them out which is a struggle some days and yes people do talk to you when you have a dog or 2. It’s early days for me but I am going to get over this and try to stay strong
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Hi Nosmoking. We all know what you are going through in this group. I lost my husband two days after Christmas and it still hurts. I manage to get through the days and have joined a couple of groups which meet weekly. Started off with a quiz club as we both enjoyed quizzes and only in the last month have I now joined a seated keep fit class. I do small things at a time, Go at your own pace and don’t let people tell you to move on. We are all different. We were married for 51 years and together for 55. I find evenings and Sundays the hardest. Anyone who was a fly on the wall would think I am going mad. I talk to my husband out what I have been doing for the day and silly things that are going on in the world. I know I won’t get an answer but sometimes it helps me to talk things through out loud. Especially if I am uncertain if I am doing the right thing. Take care of yourself
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Hi, I hope your doing okay. I’m also new on here as need to communicate with people who are going through the same thing. It’s difficult to process the fact we have lost our soulmates, it’s a struggle every day.
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Hello Bekind
We are all so sorry you have had to join our community.
I only found it just over a week ago…8 months in to my grief/pain.
I’m sure you will find some comfort in seeing that others ‘get’ how you are feeling. You can say what ever you want on here. No one judges, we all understand.
We all have our own unique ways of coping and dealing with stuff, but ultimately we are all on the same horrible journey.
Bug hugs
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Teddy n George guarding my gorgeous fantastic wife sue who passed away on the first of February this year
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Hi Cathphil
Thank you for your kind words it’s much appreciated. I have been reading some posts and of course in floods of tears as everyone is suffering. As you say we all know how each other feels although you think nobody else can be feeling how I do and yet they very much are…not that I take joy from that but it helps to some degree if you know what I mean 
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Martyn2
What a gorgeous photo 
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My two saviours
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