Hi , it’s been almost 11 months, and i feel worse than ever. The pain i feel is awful. He was my soul mate. Our wedding anniversary is at the end of the month it would have been 52 years. I packed up some of his clothes for the charity shop today, It was awful . I kept thinking he would need this shirt. It’s his favourite, i cant except that he is gone. Im thinking of you all , we are all living this nightmare. Take care everyone xx
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Hello hary, you have pointed out a number of experiences that resonate with many (possibly all) of us.
My husband died from stomach cancer 30th April this year. I did find some people we knew well difficult to navigate and people I didn’t know, easy. So confusing and unexpected and painful. That has started to settle down thank goodness (and I didn’t think it ever would, I was very angry), they’re navigating their loss and seeing me didn’t seem to be a way of them dealing with that, which was the opposite of what I wanted and needed, I wanted to see my husband’s friends, brother, anyone really that I could talk about my incredible husband to! I did feel very abandoned for a long while after his funeral. Thank goodness for lots of other fantastic, good people and also a lovely friend I have made on this site, we chat about our special husband’s, our thoughts and difficult feelings knowing it’s understood and not judged.
I’m not as eloquent as many on here, they articulate beautifully what we’re going through and it’s a safe haven when you feel alone. Sending you hugs hary x
Oh Ann69, I know, 
your Wedding Anniversary and of course the seasons changing it’s emotive. Take your time with his clothes, it can wait, there’s no expectation to sort things out this week, hold them for a wee while longer X
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Hi MrsC
You speak and write beautifully and from the heart. Im so sorry you are without your incredible husband and friend. Im glad Im not alone even if i feel this way. I pray for the time when and if i can remember our memories without the pain. Youve done so well with his personal belonging. As you say that Ive pathetically put on one of his favourite shirts i dont know when ill be ready to start thinking of touching his things. Right now its just lonely and trying to navigate all that’s happening and needs to be done is hard. Thank you for taking the time to reply. Its really kind and appreciated. Hugs x
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Sending a very big hug xx
I wore my husband’s trainers yesterday.
Apparently they are in fashion again. That amuses me. Really feels like walking in his footsteps.
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