I am only 5 months in and am all over the place when busy ove no time to grieve and thi k I’m coping but then when I’m not busy I am cry all the while and feel so low and depressed I have started going to a bereavement counselling group to see of it helps sort my head ouy
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I resonate with you there you are not the only one
i talk to Brian all the time. i have his urn on the sideboard
it is the planet Saturn as he loved space
i watched my first Marvel film without him and chatted to
him through it. its only eight weeks
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be good to that Ian
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I have a box containing my wife’s remains (crushed bone actually, not ashes). I don’t have any strong feelings for it, I’m going to arrange for a small memorial stone near the crematorium that will contain the remains, so the family will have somewhere to go to visit and pay respect to my late wife.
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this is my Brians urn. When i go our ashes are going in the plot with my mum i cant post picture on for some reason😢
Yea ill try set it up at some point
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I have told my children that when I pass I want my ashes mixed with Barrie’s so we will together again in eternity, but they could take a bit of me (sounds a bit weird) if they wanted to do/use some of my ashes for something in particular like I did with my Barrie’s, I feel at peace thinking in time we will be together again.
I have had to get through 2 1st’s this week, Monday 24th would have been our 47th wedding anniversary and yesterday 26th marked 1y since I lost my Barrie, it was awful and painful, I had treated myself to some flowers for our anniversary made up with the same flowers I had in my wedding bouquet, my daughter came round for a little while which was nice, then both my son and daughter came to spend the day with me yesterday, I don’t really know how I have got through this first year, there have so many low/bad days/weeks even, and it still only feels like it happened recently, I just wish I knew how long these bad days will last, I know I will always miss him and yearn for him but I’d just like to get through 1 day without a single tear.
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@Freedomlass I totally understand. It was a year yesterday that my darling Sharon passed… (I’m going to do a posti in a minute for others, to maybe help with what I learned), Dennis
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6 months has passed and I still haven’t done it, I seem to feel that I’d rather keep the remains close.
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@Freedomlass When I go, Sharon’s and my ashes will be mixed together and blown in the wind off ***** (illegal) castle where we first knew we were in love. Together forever throughout all eternity.
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Denr, you made me smile with your rebellious act of love - your combined ashes blowing in the wind from a secret castle. Wonderful image!
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@JJBee thanks, yes - that is what Sharon and I both want… Together forever through eternity.
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Oh boy am I there in Spades right now. Thank you Casey.