We had 3 grandchildren, and my wife always stressed that if she died she wanted to be a legend to them, and all 3 think of her that way. She loved spending time with the Little People, as she called them.
She loved playing with tgem and talking to them. She invested in them, because she said all they wanted was your time and your attention.
She taught me a lot before she passed, and she made me a better man and person.
I am glad the grandkids all remember her with love, as she thoroughly deserved it.
Hi Jacrobthorn
Thats a beautiful thing you wrote can imagine how proud you were of your late wife.
I was watching a video the other day of my late wife building a tower with jenga pieces
With my grandson .
Its lovely to remind ourselves of the way the time and the smiles they all had together is so comforting not forgetting the great special times you both spent together. They were our LEGENDS 
Hi Yanko
Yes i was immensely proud of her…and i still am. Thing is she was just so natural about it, that she didn’t see herself as anything special. But she was to all those who knew her, especially me.
I don’t really want just the memories, but that is all i will have sadly. Just like you and your late wife. Tragedy doesn’t even come close.
I try to be positive and think I am lucky to have grandchildren as lots of widows don’t or they live miles away.
I had our old pet cat the first two years of being a widow.
She died on the second anniversary of his death three months ago. I have now got used to her not being there now and was grateful for two years I had my old cat to soften the loneliness but she was 13. None of my other cats lived that long.
I hesitate to replace her as I was struggling to care for when she was old. But it is more lonely.
The crocus that my husband planted are popping up. And the daffs and tulips.
I have a 3 year old grandson who lives in Manchester, ive not seen him since my husband was in the hospice, my daughter didn’t want to bring him to her dads funeral which I understand.
Maybe one day I will go there to visit them, but it will be the first time without my husband.
My family are scattered around and none are living more than a few hours.
Both of us don’t come from where we live, now I ask why did we move here, as I’m stuck in a place that I now don’t want to be in.
Hi Poppet1973
There must be some local help available to you. What area are you living in, perhaps there are people on here who might be able to help you?
Hi Poppet1973
I totally understand your situation i was living in Cornwall when i lost my wife .
Beautiful place but just wasn’t the same without my wife.
So i sold up and moved back to manchester to be nearer family best move ever now im not isolated from them.
And can see them anytime.
I know its a big thing moving but think of the bigger picture and how better you will feel knowing there only a stones throw away.
Yes at one time years ago had a yen to live somewhere nice. Sometimes I wish had but can’t have it both ways.
Today I went to an old friend’s memorial service.
Met people hadn’t seen for a while.
Gave me a lot to think about.
Interesting to see how she did it.
She planned her own service and eulogy. She certainly lead a full life. Was brave.
I am too old to face moving but I struggle now to cope. My husbabd died over two years ago. Living a long way from the coast
is tough thinking about wish more accessible.