I still get tearful for no reason it just happens but I found my youngest daughter cold as when I spoke to her on the phone I was feeling a little low and lonely and she just asked me coldly why are you crying, your doing really well and it’s been 4 months during which time she has not been to my home to see me nor has my eldest daughter. I feel they expect me to just pick up and carry on like nothing has happened so I stay at home and just continue. Does anyone else have this kind of situation.
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No one has actually said that but certainly made me think it. It is 15 weeks - and his sister expressed her surprise but nothing more ….
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I haven’treally seen much of my adult children. My eldest works all over the world. My daughter lives about 90 mins away. She may as well be 90 hours away. After the funeral I hardly heard from her. It was awful. I went to visit recently and she found me crying and upset. She ignored it. If I say I am sad or missing her Dad, she doesn’t comment. I felt very alone and wanted to come home. I have a son who lives locally. I see him occasionally. As a couple we were self sufficient and were the ones to offer help. This is a very lonely life now.
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I too am still married to my wonderful husband and always will be. I have never taken my ring off since he put it on my finger 31 years ago and don’t intend to.
All your posts make me feel incredibly lucky not to have had such idiotic things said to me.
Nobody knows what this is like until they go through it and I don’t wish it upon anyone, except that it would mean they loved and were loved in return as much as we did and were. That I wish for everyone.
Karen xxx
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Lynb - their lives didn’t end when your husband died. They were able to carry on and continue to live their normal lives full of bright futures and dreams. Yours ended. They do not get it, at all.
Shame on them for not having any compassion for their grieving mother. I am so sorry. It’s only 4 months, you have a long way to go, but people do get tired of the crying and repetitive chatter. It kills their joy. Negative energy and all that.
No one understands unless they have lived it themselves. Simple fact.
May peace fall upon you.
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