Totally agree- a good way to look at things.
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Thanks Katy you too 
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Hi been feeling so sorry for my self the last few weeks , in my second year now finding very hard . We were married for almost 50 yrs and feels like I’ve lost half my self . So I decided to reach out and I came across the post saying it does get better . I look back and realise it is better than the early days . I’m able to function much better than I did and my husband would say you are getting better it’s always going to be hard but you carry on and live your life for me as well as yourself .thank you all for your positive posts . We can do this x
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Sounds so positive and encouraging thank you 
x
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Thank you. That’s really helpful and encouraging xx
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I’m so pleased for you that you’re in such a good place now. You are still very young and you have a long future ahead of you. I sincerely hope that you can find a future that works out for you.
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I lost my husband in May after a traumatic fight with cancer. I wasn’t ready for how painful the grief would be but it occurred to me this weekend that sadness is not something we embrace or are used to. So I’m trying hard to accept my grief and make it something positive, I enjoyed reading your post and I thank you for sharing. I hope that there is light in the future and that the loneliness will subside.
Gill
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I lost David on the 14th May, i am starting to get back ib to liiving again, i have joined jollie dollies and met some other widows through that and we go out for lunch and coffee. I have been out fir walks and other outings with family. It does help a lot as posting on here does. I still feel lonely and very sad and dissapointed but it is not as intense. We will always miss our loved one we just need to build our lives around the grief. But getting back out there with others is a good way back. X
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Oh @Dublingirl,
Thank you for kind words.
Feeling a bit rubbish at the mo as having a buy of a bit after the 6 months mark last week.
Always busy but honestly just going through the motions sometimes.
I will give myself a talking too and think of yr positive and comforting words.
Sending love
Ellie
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Thank you 🩷
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I hope things start getting better for you…it’s kinda like all of a sudden you get an epiphany moment, it’s really strange! It’s like I want to go see New things and get motivated again, learn who I am again 
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Hi I have been reading yours and other posts in this thread. Just after my husbsnd died and many months after i used to think I wanted to die. Not that I would ever contemplate doing anything but those thoughts of wanting to be where he was were there a lot of the time. Although I know I will never get over him dying, I have realised there is a future. I don’t know how to get there yet because I don’t feel as though I fit in anywhere now. But I will have to keep trying. I’ll do it for him and my family and most of all for me.X
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I’m sorry for your loss.
Thank you for those reassuring words. Its exactly one month today since I lost my husband suddenly, so I was having a bad day and reading your post comforted me somewhat x
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One month…so early in your grief you will still be raw, but reading these posts will help you and reassure you that we do get better with time. X
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Hi Katyh, I also found Sundays so long and lonely but last Sunday I went to a Meet Up group. It was called Friends and Coffee. The group meet twice a month on a Sunday afternoon in Glasgow just for coffee and a chat. It was basically a wide variety of ages - people on their own, some had lost partners but not all. I enjoyed a relaxed couple of hours chatting. They meet in a hotel and everyone was so relaxed and friendly. I will certainly go again. It may be that looking at the Meet Up website may offer something in your area if you are interested.
Wishing you well.
Candy
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I completely get you! Like you didn’t want to wake up! What’s the point! I’m so happy you have decided to push through and make a new life for you ,🩷🥰🩷🥰 keep going you’ll see the beauty again, it’ll just take time! Xxx
Hi @Candy
Thank you! I may have a look at some point! I’m quite happy at the moment plodding on 🩷 and am enjoying doing things on my out, been out for some nice walks etc.
I did how ever had an emotional day at work yesterday, the first day since i was back, really struggled with actual tears, think it depends what time of the month it is! But yesterday was a hard day, the hard day’s just pop around to remind us what we lost but I suppose we deal with it a lot better 🩷 xxx
Having a particularly bad day today - trying to not cry but it’s overwhelming- made the mistake of looking through photos and now I’m a mess - just over 7 months since my husband died suddenly - I’m constantly grumpy with my mum who tries to help but I can’t stop feeling like she’s still here and he isn’t - I’ve been through recently good times and generally coping and now I feel like I’m back to square one
So sorry for your loss.
We’re allowed to have bad days. I had an awful day yesterday. And I totally get it about being grumpy with your mum, I’m the same. No patience with anything or anyone!
Today is a better day for me. I took my dog out for a long walk - it helps to keep active. I stopped to chat to other dog owners walking their dogs. It felt good to talk to complete strangers who don’t know I’ve lost my husband and chat about completely different things other than my own grief (it’s 5 weeks for me today since my husband died)
We’re all here for you and each other.
Sending you big hugs.
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Thank you for your kind words and I know that there are bad and good days or even weeks I think it was the fact that I’d been away to a festival with my close cousins and had a fab time lots of laughs then I come home and feel so uplifted kind to my mum which is unusual for me at the moment that was two weeks ago and I feel like I’ve gone backwards as I feel so unbelievably sad - your hug means a lot hope you too are feeling ok it’s such a short time for you x
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