you are doing the right thing trying to sort out the papers and other things to make things easier for the children.There is so much for us to think about and only us now to deal with things, so mush responsibility too.It can really take a lot out of you physically and emotionally trying to sort things out.I will have to do a new will now, i have no children just cousins and my wifes sister.So much to think about.My dear wife and i had began sorting her dear mums things out as she passed here at home in 2022.My dear wife was my world, my everything, so loving, caring, kind and gentle.I am often in a daze walking around the house still looking for her.I talk to her a lot which does help me, i know it sounds silly but we have to do whatever we can to help us on this awful journey we find ourselves.Take care.
Hi Marissa, Iām 67 and sat right in the middle of the age range so youāll fit in perfectly. In Halkidiki, 6 of us were the last ones back each night (found a great cocktail bar) and I was the youngest!
4 of them had met on a previous holiday and now all 6 of us are meeting up on another Solos trip in September which tells you a lot about the nature of holidays.
As far as I can tell, group sizes range from about 15 -25, and tend to have a significantly larger number of women. In Halkidiki there were 3 m and 21 women - not always that unbalanced though, Crete was 10/5. People seem to have come from a variety of backgrounds from a truck driver to a Cambridge professor. The main thing though is that everyone seemed to get on in a warm, friendly and supportive environment on both trips.
If you check out the Solos website youāll be amazed at the range of options available worldwide - from weekends in York to a women only tour of temples in India!
I was very anxious about going somewhere on my own for the first time since losing my wife but the tour leader made sure all of us were supported and made everything work. - all very low key though and we could all join in as much or as little as we wanted.
I actually laughed for the first time in nearly a year.
Admittedly, Iām biased - Iāve now got 3 more trips scheduled for this year! Itās a very long way from where I was before I first went with Solos.
Incidentally, on the subject of ālong wayā Iām in North Yorkshire now but lived in Dorset until I was 8.
I have actually spent a couple of hours tonight talking to someone I met on the Crete trip who lives near Weymouth .She said she liked being able to fly from Bristol; apparently a lot of other companies tend to fly from Gatwick and Heathrow.
So much for a quick reply. Itās 3am and I canāt sleep.!
Hello from a Tyke of three weeks! But brought up a Southerner
So much helpful information about the holidays Thank you
Iāve joined 4 different groups since I lost Paul but Iām going to brave the bereavement group again today I find it hard to cope with 15- 20 very sad people all at once but if it gets too much Iāll turn off my hearing aids! Iām there for the coffee and chat afterwards
I like it here because we can just drop In When the mood takes us and when one person is down there is usually someone else feeling stronger
Iāve put out the flags as it would be Pauls birthday today then Iām going to my son for the weekend
I know Iām very lucky First to have met Paul but also to be able to visit family
I hope you all can think of a little treat that your nearest and dearest would like you to have this weekend xx
Thanks for all the information on Solos. You sound as though you have met a good bunch of people to go on holiday with. I would feel very anxious, like you, the first time. But everything is hard right now. But youāve given me some hope.
ive seen lots of ads for solo on FB and i see riviera travel are doing solo river cruises,there seems to be lots of positivity on here for future travel,tough as it is we are trying hard,i know my husband would be proud,as is my son.i have holiday booked with my friend tracy in june(corfu),but maybe i will try a UK based break with solo in the autumn. food for thought and just doing the research keeps the mind off āstuffā. we have another storm bowling in off the atlantic today today, @Redsquirrel25 mentioned doing something this weekend for our loved ones,im going to ourāhappy placeā birthday lunch for one of his best friends whos 82ā¦fingers crossed no more trees down/flooded roads tomorrow. take care everybody if you are out and about. x
i did that ālittle something specialāfor adrian at the weekend,went to his friends birthday lunch,we were all very relaxed.yesterday i battled flood waters,gales to get home,it was exhausting,on reflection i should have stayed another day,but i really felt the need to be home,empty house syndrome hit today,i think its the tiredness ,shame to have wobbly/tearful day when things have been going quite well,just proves the fragility of our lives,the power of grief,im so glad i had some time with special friends at the wkend,the good days are so uplifting,and there are more good days than bad now i think.
Everyday is up and down isnt it .im glad you are feeling more good days .its strange isnt how emotions affect us .when we feel better we think this is itā¦but no .
i was talking to a lady last week whos husband died in 2011,she was young and now has been in a relationship with a widower for 3 years,she says she still has āmomentsāwhen she feels āan empty pain,and so does her partner,they are really happy,its not āhave we done the right thingā ,all very odd the bit of brain that controls emotions,so no good beating myself up because today ive a pocket of soggy tissues at 16 months,expecting too much again?
You are not alone so many of us are going through the loss of our partners or loved family members. Try to keep positive and let your feelings out no matter what they are . So many of us are in this horrendous situation together . I wish you well be kind to yourself and take one day at a time.
Iām in the soggy tissues club today too. Itās only 8 weeks since my husband died suddenly and totally unexpectedly but Iāve been feeling a little bit braver last couple of days. Then today I cried before I even got out of bed and the tears have continued all day. No particular trigger, just facing another day without him. Tomorrow Iām scattering his ashes in woodland at crematorium. Will I still be crying? Just canāt guess. Maybe Iāll be too exhausted. Every dayās different. Thinking of everyone on here whoās going through this awful grief.
Well Iām just back from scattering my beloved husbandās ashes in woodland (all approved!) and thank you to everyone who said they were thinking of me. I didnāt cry, in fact I felt some kind of peace. I took him round our house one last time before I set off. Goodness, what traumatic things we have to face in the midst of grief. Love to you all
would like you to have this weekend xx