Certain music does it for me i try to put fav on i have got to turn it off .i will try again next time i go out. Xx
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KtG, I was always prone to feeling faint. Only actually fainted once and that was at the very last gig Genesis did. It was only about 10 mins in but I could feel a faint coming on so sat down. Its usually all I have to do but it didn’t stop. I put my head between my knees and I could feel my husband trying to give me a sweet, him thinking it was low blood sugars. The next thing I knew there was a woman holding my hand, my husband telling the St Johns ambulance I was coming round and would be fine and someone else thrusting a lemonade into my hand. I was so embarassed. I thought I was only out of it for a few seconds but apprently it was quite a few minutes. I was quite rude to the people who were trying to help as I didn’t want the fuss.
Mine is usually low blood pressure - its your body telling you to take more care. I hope it doesn’t happen again.
I love the song Solsbury Hill. The song I nominate is the Boomtown Rats - I don’t like Mondays. When I met David I was head over heels for him. We would meet every evening and at the end of the night park somewhere quiet for a smooch. We would often fall asleep and wake in the early hours to a flat battery. We got so little sleep that we said we had to have one evening per week that we didn’t see each other. We chose Mondays. This song was out then and I thought it very apt. In practice we spent most of Monday evening on the phone to each other, just as well we were married in 10 months.
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No we do not want you have faint again .that is why we must take care of our blood pressure. That reminds me we were in london looking around went for a meal and suddenly my wife collapsed everyone was panicking the problem was sister had all running around when it was hot forgetting my wife was a diabetic. That was a very scary situation not very nice.so we all have to take care.which is hard while we are grieving. Xx
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Debsie, oh I enjoyed listening to that and Ktg’s song. I don’t have a song that I could nominate. We had such different tastes in music, never really had “our song” he only listened to music during the night, always folk or pipe music. I like most music, especially ones I can sing and dance to.
Coffee and more chocolate time now. Xxxxx
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Hi Lizzy - I’d love to just be able to wave a magic wand for you, and for all of us too. Sadly I’m not a good magician - so can only supply hugs of support.
I had a lovely day with lunch at my best friends house. They are wonderful at cheering me up. I arrived quite down and near tears, but 10 minutes later we were laughing and joking together. With lots of talk about Mary too - in a beautiful sensitive way. I took them a selection of items of Mary’s I thought they’d like, to choose one from. They chose a little China shoe with ‘Mary’ written on the side, which was the one I felt was the nicest for them.
Good luck. Nigel xxxx
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I have to skip tracks, but have my music on all the time when I’m driving. The one that got me a bit today was Shania Twain and ‘You’re still the one’. But 500 Miles by the Proclaimers is one of our favourites. Just before the funeral, a cousin in Ireland sent us a video with Mary singing it. Then when we went to the panto before Christmas, they used that very song with slightly different words. Very emotional. Especially as they also told a joke - which we had happen to us in real life, on our honeymoon in Paris.
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KtG You need to be looking after yourself, and getting yourself checked out by your GP. I’ve been looking at the hundreds of messages we received on social media. I’ve not looked at most of them before - wow, what lovely things people said. Tears now - but I did expect that really!!
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Nigel, I will accept the hugs, I need as many as I can get just now, thank you.
It’s wonderful you have a lot of good friends, it sounded like a lovely afternoon. I can’t honestly say I have any friends down here like that. I would have given my husbands friends quite a lot from the man cave but with the lack of support I’ve had from them they will get nothing. I’m still so disappointed in them. Real friends are so important to get us through this period of grief.
Well I have done something rather naughty, I’ve booked a viewing on that flat in my home town tomorrow morning. My daughter is coming with me. She would love if I moved into this village again. Not building my hopes up (well not too much). Just need to see the size of it mainly. Even if I can’t go for this one, I will know what it’s like if another one comes up.
Just want to say a big thank you to everyone for putting up with my ranting yesterday. It was just one of those days.
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Lizzy, I love looking around houses. I hope you don’t love it too much. You sure know who your friends are when you need them. A good rant is very therapeutic. We all feel for you. I think we should all put a bottle of fizz in the fridge waiting for the day we can celebrate with you.
I had an unexpected trip to Cambridge. My son was going and I tagged along. What was the nicest bit was the journey there and back. I had a lovely chat with my son without his 2 boys continually demanding attention. I didn’t have anything to shop for as I’m trying to get rid of ‘stuff’ not buy any. But it was a change.
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Just woken up .the first thing i said what are we having for dinner you cooking or is it me .then i started to have a few tears xxx
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Oh, good for you Lizzy - that’ll stand you in good stead when the time comes, assuming this one isn’t the one for you. When your daughter gets a message like this, just after Mary had died, you know who your friends really are!
What more can I ask from them!
Yesterday was another day. Tomorrow morning will be fun!
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Oh gosh Dave. Been there too - too many times! xxxx
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Yes not very nice .i was scary in a way .but nice just miss her xx
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Bottles of fizz are in my fridge 24/7 Debsie! One out, one in. What a nice surprise trip. I’ll bet you both enjoyed the day, as much as each other.
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Just made myself a ham batch and a cup of coffee very nice x
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Why is this tv crap trying to find something to watch bloody rubbish on xx
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Oh Nigel, that is so lovely, I am in tears reading it, what a wonderful thing to write.
I remember looking on Facebook just before the car came for us the day of the funeral. It was from a young girl who we have known since she was 14, she is 30 today. It was the most beautiful tribute to him, she had such a way with words, she always sat with us when we were in Turkey. I used to wonder why she sat with older people but she loved listening to our stories, such a caring girl. She had me in tears before the funeral. A true friend indeed.
There are such a lot of nice people in the world, it’s only when something like this happens in life, we find out who they are.
Xxxx
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I hadn’t even seen it before today, as it was in a special WhatsApp we set up to put the tributes into from wherever they came. I couldn’t look before now! And what a true friend indeed is that ‘girl’! The kids all have so many really good friends that have stood by them, some since primary school. Many were often in our house on a regular basis when they were younger. So nice that they all got on so well with us both, and Mary’s mum and dad too, who welcomed them with open arms. xxxx
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Debsie, That was nice going in the car with your son, that would be me, I will go with anyone to get out the house.
I bet it was good having a chat with him as well. My son just called me, that was a surprise, he isn’t one for chatting for the sake of it. He is on holiday with his in laws for a birthday celebration. They are in a cottage and was trying to figure out how to work the log burner. lol, well I do come in handy for somethings, a few months ago I wasn’t allowed to touch the fire, but hey, I must be an expert now. 
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These flats have been in my head for a while, my friends have been telling me they are a great place to live, they know a few people in them. It may be the only way I can afford to move back to this village. They have all been watching the market for me. It’s a big step, not having a garden of my own but again I’m not that keen on gardening, I would need to get rid of all my garden furniture and stuff. They do have benches dotted around. Maybe I’m scared as it is for older people. Is this my last house? I am 71 but don’t feel that age, in fact when I phoned the estate agents she did tell me if I knew these flats were for over 60, I laughed and said I am quite a bit over 60. Maybe I have a young voice. I would have liked a two bedroom but there are only three small bungalows in this complex. I know one is rented so that only leaves two. Och,! no harm in looking. I spend my life looking at houses online. Time I started looking for real. I am only a few months away, it’s good I know the area. This is real downsizing. I need to get this next move spot on.
Keep that bottle in the chiller, mine is already in. 
xxxxx
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I am totally lost today .missing her so much i will never adjust to life without my wife even after 5 months still can not get used to life without her.xx
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