Thank you - you are so right about people not understanding if they haven’t been through it - I have a close ( single and never married) friend who messages me every day with things like " have a lovely weekend", " Happy Friday" - I can’t decide if she truly thinks I might have a Happy Friday or if she is just a cheer leader for me so I just ignore the messages as I don’t want to fall out with her - so sorry for the loss of your wife - 52 years - what wonderful memories you must have and that is what we all need to hold onto.
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Long time as i said we were married 38 years wonderful years. Xxxx
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Tissue, I am so sorry for your loss and very proud that you have had the courage to tell us your story. I find that helps a lot writing down how I feel. We all understand what you are going through.
Please keep chatting to us, tell us about your day, it’s good to keep in touch and welcome to our little online family.
Take care and sending hugs:hugs:
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So remember you wanna a chat come on here we are friendly on here helping we hope. Xx
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Thank you Nigel - I have been bottling most things up as although my family are supportive I know they get “concerned” and I don’t want to frighten them. I would never, and have never considered hurting myself, but they know how much he means to me so guess they just get worried. I’m so sorry that you lost your wife so suddenly - life seems so very unfair.
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Just getting ready to watch the football later. Big games on today xxxxx
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Thank you so much - you are all an inspiration and I can’t thank you all enough just for getting me this far - a hug is just what I needed x
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Everyone on here has helped me get over the loss of my wife .i thank them alll foor helping me. Xx
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Georgi, I like your accent, it can be difficult to understand, I think we would have to send messages round a table if we were altogether. My friend who now stays in Turkey came from Forres, her accent was lovely ye ken.
Hope the weather is nice for you today, beautiful in Ayrshire. The beaches will be busy, the shops were very quiet today, everyone enjoying the sunshine. I’m on my way home now, don’t think I could have shopped for another two hours till the next one came. Might even have my lunch outside altho I might find that sad. We would always sit for hours.
Only another 15 mins and I will be home. The only good thing about this bus is that it is an express bus. Doesn’t stop at all till it gets to my sad wee town.
The Aberdeen bus was just leaving the bus station when I was waiting for mine to appear, one day I will be on it xxxx
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I love a Scottish accent. Xx
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Tissue, it’s the release of that bottling up that will likely have caused the crash today, but it can just as easily be as simple as looking at a picture or a song comes on. There’s no set pattern to these crashes. I understand that family do get concerned about us. My family worry about me all the time, even about me driving to France alone and I just have to assure them that I am OK doing things I need or want to do, and that I’m looking after myself. I have to let them track me on their phones, and tell them if I’m going to be out late which seems so odd at 75!
Take things hour by hour.
Now that you’ve made that big step of starting your posts, we will all help as and when we can. You can talk about anything - just have a look at the things we’ve covered in the last 6 months!
Must get back to getting my plumbing working but I’ll be back on later.
Much love. Nigel xxxx
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I wish I had posted sooner instead of keeping it all in - Lizzie is right - its so much easier to write it than to say it - good luck with your plumbing Nigel - I am going to get myself in the garden I have some seeds that need sowing and its a lovely day so the duvet can wait for now - thank you all of you xx
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I am on the brink of madness .put some fresh bread in oven onlys needs 9 mins i had forgotten it .been in oven for over 25 mins. It is hard likeca hammer xxx
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Good luck tissue. Xxxx
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Sorry Dave - but that did make me laugh! I only realised a few minutes ago that I hadn’t had breakfast - or even a cup of coffee yet today! What are we like!
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I can use the bread as a hammer xxx
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Dave hope you enjoying the football, you sound a bit brighter today xxx
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Tissue, you are very welcome, this group has been a godsend for me as I have no one to talk to where I live, I hardly see anyone. My daughter comes over when I need a hand but apart from me going back to see my friends I never see anyone.
Take care xxx
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Tissue i’m so sorry for your loss it’s very early days for you six months for me i know exactly how your feeling grief is still raw and painful and just getting up alone and watching tv on your own and meals for one make you feel so lonely i still feel like that but the pain has changed things don’t feel quite so devastating now. My one bit of advice to you would be keep busy except invitations out and don’t worry about sorting his belongings and till you feel ready however long it takes . Everyone on here knows what your going through so keep in touch it helps xx
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Sorry for your loss, this grief is so very hard. This group has helped us x
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