I don’t blame you Scottish accents are quite broad xx
So sorry for your loss Tissue, that must’ve been horrendous and just so unexpected, these early weeks & months are the hardest thing to live through but it does get better bit by bit as you will have found by reading all of our posts.
As far as I know I am the furthest on in this journey and though I miss my husband terribly I have learned to live a new kind of life its just that its a solitary life, I have friends and family but I was never one for socialising much, we just were happy in each others company!
Stay on now that you have reached out because it will help you get through the bad days xx
Lizzy I love it, I’m with you why create work when theres no nd xxx
Geez Nigel I think Id only just left school that yr 
Oh Nigel I love a strawberry tart, we have a baker in Aberdeen, I believe it was the first ever bakers shop in Aberdeen, their strawberry tarts are just delicious the best in town I always say, my husband love them too xxx
Good night all sleep well if you can xxxxx
I can’t sleep, crying too much. I can’t believe I won’t see Mark ever again, it hurts so much.
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I know Flints it is the hardest thing we will ever have to accept, that they are never coming back! Sleeping for me was never great but was a lot worse when I lost my husband but I promise you it will get easier over time.
I know that doesn’t help right now, but maybe your doctor could give you something to help in the short term xxx
I know iti is horrible just relax take it easy .uwill sleep zz
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Yes it is Dave, I used to actually cry myself to sleep, it exhausted me xxx
I am now going to try and sleep good night all zzzz xxxx
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Goodnight Dave xxx
Thank you Georgi for replying, it’s been nearly 12 weeks and it seems worse today. My daughter has been very sad, she has things to take her mind off it when she is at work, but today I realised how much she is hurting.
I am struggling to help my two youngest who live with me, I can’t cope on my own, it’s too much for me.
Thanks for your advice. Take care of yourself. xx
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Thanks Dave, I will try, goodnight xxl
I used to give up and get up even getting tea and toast as if it was morning even if it was 03.30. When I am like that I get Alexa to play country music softly and try and go somewhere with Elizabeth like walking along Bournemouth beach from Durley Chine to the pier and up through the gardens. Hopefully asleep before we get to the end. We have done that many times, there is a Harvester right down on the beach at Durley Chine where we would have lunch before going on the walk. But I am almost a year down this hard road.
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Its hard to be brave for your family, but I think you just need to be there for each other and lean on each other for support x
I hope you can get some sleep tonight, maybe try a hot chocolate or hot milk it might help you sleep, but there is no easy solution is there? We just have to do the best we can to cope xxx
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Thank you, that’s a lovely idea, I will think of me and Mark walking over the mountains in Morebattle where we used to live, the children and even the cat came with us, sending love xx
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Yes I usually end up having a mocha with rich tea biscuits, it is hard in those early months though( 2yrs on May 1st for me ). Mayday has become a day I now dread xxx
Thank you, you’re right, we have to try our best, sometimes it just hits me, that it’s real and he isn’t coming back.
So grateful for your kind words, they help a lot xx
That reminds me of when we didn’t live far from my mother & father in law, when we walked up to the house with my daughter in buggy the cat would come too 
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