Yip same here Dave no sun xxx
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Debsie I haven’t bought prescription glasses for about 4 yrs, I just ask the optician the equivalent strength for off the shelf specs ( I like TKmaxx theyre always have nice ones) then I don’t have to worry if I break or lose them as they only cost £3.99 or last ones were £5.99 pushing the boat out there lol! Only for reading I need them, optician actually put it on the prescription for me lol! He was new only been in Aberdeen 3 mths he was from Birmingham.
As for being absent minded I have been like that since losing my husband, not sure if its grief or just old age, as long as its not dementia after working 36 yrs with the elderly I have a very real fear of getting that, horrible condition that robs the family as well as the elderly person and can last many years xxx
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Georgi, waking up like that makes it tough to start with let alone looking after him! Good job he was tired though.
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So will I Dave after the wee man goes home, a few things I need, meant to get yesterday when out with my neighbour but on they way back her leg was bothering plus it started raining so we just came straight home, I’m also not in the mood, when you sleep in I find it puts you off the rest of the day xxx
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I know Nigel its been a while since he had a nap when I have him he’s usually full of beans and runs me ragged but I’m enjoying the silence now with tv off its been blasting out Miss Rachel all morning, by lunchtime her voice grates on my nerves lol xxx
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You need St Anthony to help there Debsie - unless you actually did take them to the opticians!
I was struggling to find the last two edge pieces from the puzzle last night and gave up. I was sitting at the kitchen table and all the bits were in a big bowl, so finding them wasn’t easy. Then, just now I sat down on the other side of the table for my lunch and noticed a puzzle piece on the floor. One of the two missing pieces, but there wasn’t just one piece there were two - both the edge pieces I was looking for. How on earth? JUST those two pieces - no others - out of nearly 500 pieces. It’s crazy. My anniversary present from Mary? I don’t know!
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Debsie,That is so so true xxx
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Wow Nigel, it’s a sign xxxx
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Georgi I need glasses for far vision and for reading. I had my cataracts operated on 15 years ago and that means you can no longer focus your eyes. I can actually read without my glasses but because of my astigmatism it is so much clearer with prescription ones rather then then off the peg ones. Last year was the first year my prescription hadn’t changed in 53 years. Before the cataract operation I had -13.5 contact lenses and could only see blurry shapes without them. The lense they implanted in my op meant that for the first time in many years I could see when I woke in the morning. It was the greatest gift on earth. Unfortunately my eyes still continued to worsen but only slightly. I do hope my prescription is the same this time too. No one can seem to explain to me why they just got worse every year where other people seem to stop before they are 30.
I think everyones worse nightmare is dementia. And if I had to watch my husband go down that route it would have broken my heart. I do hope it doesn’t happen to me for my childrens sake. He would not have coped with a disability either. If he had survived the sepsis it could have caused permanent damage. I know he would not want to live with that.
I hope you have recovered from your childminding. They are all angels when they are asleep. My son enroled his 5 year old in the school holiday club this week. He is very shy and did not want to go, but came home buzzing. School club is much better for him then sitting at home watching cartoons all day. And much better then me trying to entertain him.
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Nigel maybe she was hiding them from you, or got so frustrated at your inability to find anything. 
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She’s probably frustrated at the mess I seem to have created, especially today. I’ve had to get to the pipe access points to check the waste pipe isn’t blocked and I had to move stuff to get to them. Do I really need 7 ice cube trays when I’ve got an electric ice maker? I don’t think so!
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Debsie, My eyesight has continued to change every year until the last couple of years, as did Mary.
Mary was petrified of getting dementia, as her father suffered from that - although we didn’t realise at the time. That caused her some depression later on. I know Mary would not have wanted to be paralysed in any way, she was already disabled due to the asthma and COPD, and arthritis but was still mobile. Add in the effects of the stroke and the possible sepsis, and she’d have been unable to cope long term. Her world would have been turned upside down and intolerable for her. No singing, no driving, no independence, possibly wheelchair bound. It doesn’t bear thinking about. Like you, seeing the person you love suffering so much would have been dreadful.
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Lizzy, the odds of just those two pieces falling on the floor is ridiculous, even if I had knocked some off the table. I can’t think of any other rational explanation!
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My grandson has swapped Miss Rachel for TractorTed. My daughter and grandson have chickenpox. The spots came out yesterday morning. Their flight to Africa was at 10pm last night. She cancelled and stayed home. Much love to all who are struggling.
Beautiful words as always Nigel xxx
It will be 9 months for me tomorrow. I could grow a baby in that time. I cannot process he has gone xx
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Mbg, what a shame. I hope your daughter is ok, it can be quite nasty if you get it when you are older. Its been doing the rounds here too.
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Debsie, my eyes have changed quite a bit when I got them tested a few months ago. I’ve also got an astigmatism in one eye and I need glasses for distance. My consultant said my cataracts are not ready yet to be done and new glasses would help a bit. I have never need glasses for reading either reading. But with my eyes getting worse I have to take my glasses off even to eat my dinner. My distance has definitely got worse.
Nigel 7 ice trays tut tut. I use the Lakeland ice box which gives fancy shape ice cubes, I love that one, I had one in Turkey and back home.
Off to watch the sun set, just had a wee sleep there xxx
Maria Ah what a shame they’ve had to cancel. Thank you for your lovely comment. 9 months, that seems a long time but I find time has gone really fast, and really slow at the same time. Can’t quite get my head around that. But you are right, it’s so hard to come to terms with them not being here still. I hope your day is as good as it can be tomorrow,
Take care. Nigel xxxx
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Lizzy - it’s already down to three identical ones. which I thought might be good for freezing things like sauces other bits for cooking? I’ve also binned lots of other things today - a big black sack is waiting for the rain to stop to take it to the bins! On that side of things you’d be proud of me. As to the mess - meh - not so good!
You’ll have probably noticed my upbeat tones tonight. That’s because I’ve had a good day. Happy and contented - which surprised me greatly. I put it down to all the lovely comments here, and from my family and friends at home and those who commented on my Facebook post. It’s all lifted my spirits tremendously. Talking of spirits, pastis in hand - cheers all!
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Mgb what a shame they have chicken pox and had to cancel their trip it always seems to be about at Easter.
It doesn’t seem to get any easier no matter how long they’ve been gone the life we had went with them and it’s hard to except we will never have it or them again . I am finding it really difficult today but i have good and bad days shopping always upsets me it’s trying to find a meal for one and all the other couples shopping together.
I’m now finding that my friends and relatives are not phoning or calling round so often it’s as if they think it’s been six months should be getting over it. Unless you’ve experienced it yourself no one gets how hard and lonely life is xx
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It is so sad. We had know eachother as friends for 50 years. From the age of 11. Lived together nearly 40 years. I just miss the kind, gentle, considerate man. His funny and quick wit. The lonliness is awful. My children find it difficult to talk about him. It is like he didn’t exist. I know they miss him, he was a wonderful dad. I stupidly thought the sunshine and warmer weather would make me feel better. I miss him just as much on the coldest day in December as I did on the sunniest day we had this year. There is no cure for this grief, just occasionally the symptoms are not so unbearable. Xx
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