Good to hear that Dave, I too am just back from Morrisons cause when I went to have my lunch I had run out of pate and only Morrisons Farmhouse Pate will do, tried others, horrible taste, imagine being fussy about pate 
Luckily I only live a few mins walk from Morrisons xxx
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U get what u like there are certain food i have to get from the same shop xxx
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Very true Dave xxx
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Georgi - now that does sound more like Mary and me! If I dared to start clearing anything away when she was cooking I’d have my head bitten off! We weren’t the “Bickers of Barnehurst” for nothing! Even the house here is named “Le Bickerage”. 
The kids bought us a slate heart with that on it on our silver wedding!
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Just treat it with the respect it deserves, Barbara, and just letting go of them normally stops them running instantly.
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Good to know 
think i will have ago might not be able to do the tall branches standing on a ladder with it might be a step too far x
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Yes on a ladder can be tricky. If you do that take extra care. You can always throw the thing away from you. A broken cutter is better than an injured Barbara any day! Maybe check how quickly it stops while not cutting anything, just letting go of the trigger should do that quickly.
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I am so struggling today. 5 weeks
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So sorry to hear that .think of all the good you done together. That helps me a little bit xxx
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Yes, that is such a tough stage. So soon that you can’t believe it’s happened and too soon to have come to accept the situation. I’m afraid this is going to happen so frequently for the time being. Gradually it will ease, even if the pain of losing your wife doesn’t diminish. I still miss my wife terrible - we all miss our partners greatly - but I’ve now accepted that the situation isn’t going to change and that I have to adapt to the horrible new life that’s been forced on us. We have no choice, no other option, but it takes time. I really hope you have family and friends to support you - that made a huge difference to me compared with some who don’t have family nearby.
You will get there - you have to - but it’ll be a slow process.
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yes thank you
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What a difference Nigel xxx
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I agree it is get better very slowly.
How are you .i am not too bad today .
Just coping just about …missing her every day. every hour just miss her xxxx
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A bit too risky, don’t know about you but balance isn’t what it used to be, no way would I do that on a ladder, take care xxx
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I’m good Dave - busy of course which I find helps. You seem to have done so well since you have been here. Still horrible days but not so many. Keep going!
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I am trying mate.just do not know what to do .friends on here are helping us all. Xxx
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Georgi,
I think my ocd has got worse since I’m on my own, I hate mess now, when I got back home, SILs daughter, grandson and daughter came in, my nice cushions were instantly all moved , they were moaning at how cold the house was, I quickly put central heating on and lit the fire, I just takes a while to heat up, I swear it was warmer outside than in my house. They keep their heating on 24/7 it’s always lovely and warm, it’s a new build and well insulated. Mine is too but I couldn’t afford to keep mine on, their bills aren’t too bad. I have solar panels as well but my bills are high for the size of this house. Oh I need to go into garden to do a meter reading, I shouldn’t have to do this as I have a smart meter. They couldn’t change my gas meter as they needed someone else qualified to do it because it’s old. I’ve gave up asking when it’s going to be changed. I will just send them a reading myself.
I’ve just had a pure chocolate fix for my lunch, mmm I really needed it. I’ve taken chilli out for dinner
All alone now, my case emptied, my tidy wardrobe full again with all the extra clothes, I now have four electric toothbrushes, need to bin the oldest ones. I have more chargers than I will ever need. House is so quiet, I need music or tv on. Fire is blazing and I turned the heating off, house is all cosy again.
I’m trying to just have a relaxing day but my eyes are seeing things that need cleaning or sorted, just minor things. SIL found out what was wrong with my Ring doorbell, the sensor has came off the lights above the garage, luckily I bought a new one but as I have not got high enough ladders anymore, he couldn’t change it. That’s a job for tomorrow he said. I don’t know what I’d do without him, my own son is hopeless at DIY stuff, I wouldn’t even ask him. He lives further away anyway. My daughter is going to tell them to get down here and help me pack when the time comes around. I honestly would rather do packing myself, I would manage it.
I still feel ok, but only just sat down, it might hit me later. One thing that helped was I had no nasty letters in the post, only the house insurance they said would auto renew but that’s not going to happen as it was in my husbands name.
I don’t know what to do as I don’t want to pay a years insurance in case I move and perhaps have to rent or stay with someone. I might ask if they can insure me on a monthly basis, I don’t know if you can do that.
Off to read the meter xxxx
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Lizzy. I had to keep the house at 24 degrees for Mary, but although I’ve reduced that I do leave the heating on 24/7, but have the thermostat set lower overnight. I find that less expensive than having to heat the house up from cold.
I was going to suggest radio or TV but if you don’t want music or news, how about some sort of chat show in the background?
You do have a great SIL don’t you! But I understand wanting to pack for yourself - I’d want to do that and even having the girls round to help sort things doesn’t always work for me. It’s not done the way I want - and that can be frustrating! By the way I’ve sold three things on eBay and Vinted this week. Luckily they’re all happy to wait until I get home this weekend! A slightly faulty but brand new fleecy jacket and two vintage Paddington Bear quilt covers, one with a pillowcase too. Well pleased - and it has given me the impetus to do more now.
I’ve decided I need to grout the tiles before I reinstall the macerator and toilet, but it looks like the macerator is going to fit OK with little or no plumbing alterations. If there is it might be just two straight joints, so that I can turn the pipe slightly. 
Even if you pay for a year’s insurance they should refund part if you cancel mid term shouldn’t they? Even Mary’s car insurers did that - despite a claim whilst she was in hospital. Or you could do as you suggest and pay monthly, so you can stop the DD when you move.
Good luck. xxxx
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