Not something I would think about doing. I wouldn’t feel comfortable trying it.I replied to a couple of adverts in a motorcycle and the replies i got really knocked my confidence. My gorgeous beautiful fantastic wife sue helped me rebuild my confidence after a bad first marriage and I don’t want to go through it again.plus I feel like I would be dishonouring sue by doing so .apologies if I’ve offended anyone but I cant face doing this
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I am truly glad for you but there is no way I could be with anyone else now. My husband, (we’d been together for 57 wonderful years and married for 54), died three years ago. I adored him and he adored me and the thought of being with anyone that isn’t him literally turns my stomach. You cannot improve on perfection, and he was perfect, including being very handsome! I envy people who can love again, truly I do, but I just can’t. He was me and I was him, and that’s how it will be until I die.
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I lost my wife 3 weeks ago…
Trying to ’ move on’ is getting harder…
Feel very alone now.
I remember trying to encourage my mother years ago with that ‘life goes on’ attitude
After my father died…
But it didn’t for her.
She had 11 years of sadness without my father…until she died.
I now understand what she went through, because it’s my turn now.
And people are throwing the same cliches.
It’s something only a widow can ever understand.
I hope my days ahead don’t drag out as long.
Life is just a solo routine now…
It was always a routine…
But a shared routine with someone I miss dearly.
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So sorry for your loss, it is 3 weeks since my husband died and I can agree that it’s the routine things that i miss so much. People ask what I am doing today, I just want my boring day to day things back that were shared with him. Not having to make out that I am fine just so they feel better. That sounds really ungrateful doesn’t it but how is anyone going to feel when they have lost their life partner. We were so happy with the pace of our life, we shared and got on so well. That is what I miss.
I just try to do at least one thing i enjoy each day, going to cut the grass today before the storms come tomorrow, that job I enjoy. Keep optimistic I hope you do ok today
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Yeh thats so true … just the mundane things i miss too … but he was here with me so it didn’t matter. Its so hard living by yourself isnt it ? I hate it ! I got my puppy who i adore but its hard without someone to share your life with … 
its just totally crap ! X
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So sorry for your loss. I lost my gorgeous fantastic wife sue on the 1st February this year and it doesn’t feel like its getting any better for me
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That’s very sad, I do hope life gets a bit easier but I can’t imagine it does. Keep strong x
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I was wondering if a puppy might be a good thing, it makes you go out for walks and it’s another being to care for, I hope you can move forward bit by bit x
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There a right pair of little monkeys. But i wouldn’t be without them now. We only went for Teddy and came back with George as well. They have different personalities
They look very cute, I have 2 cats so would have to introduce a pup very carefully. Enjoy your pups they need you
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There coming up to 5years old now.ones a chihuahua and other one Is a malchi. Love them so much.sue and myself considered them our kids lol
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Hi, I fully understand how you feel, nothing seems to help us walk down this lonely,heartbreaking path. As you say friends don’t understand and widowed friends are sometimes depressing. Keep going and at your own pace, it doesn’t get easier but we do learn to live with this sadness. I go for long walks to help me escape, try and find something to help you escape, please take care x
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I know how you feel…my dear husband died almost three years ago, and the loneliness is the worst part of being a widow… Like you, l sometimes speak to no-one all day.
I have married friends, but they dont seem to realise how lonely life can be, living alone after your husband has died, and missing that feeling of belonging…!
Just a suggestion…but perhaps you could try again with online dating to find an honourable male gentleman friend? There are widowed men too, who will understand how you feel. It wont be easy to find the right male friend but a good dating site will give advice on how to protect yourself as a woman alone and if you decide to meet, it could be during the daytime at a cafe, or other place where lots of people are around.
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Yeh good advice. I find walking good too 
its lovely to just de- clutter your brain xxx
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i lost my wife two and half years ago i have been told the same but they don’t understand how hard it is i’m 62 and don’t fancy going out dating again who am i going to find at my age we were together 37 years and your life is built around that person so starting over for me just doesn’t seem right to me as far as i’m concerned i’m still married to my karen i dread the winter the days are long and cold there is only so much tv i can watch i had a really bad breakdown when she died and lost my buisness so i’m used to working but just seem to have interest any more how about you
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I understand your pain…
Lost my wife a month ago …
Hate the thought of living too long without her…
The thought of meeting someone new…?
I don’t think I ever will.
Dark nights and dark days ahead.
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Hey dont say that ! My dad found someone after my step mum passed away and he was 80 ! Lol So there is hope you know xxx
Im same age as you and i was married for 35 years so i feel your pain - very hard isnt it ! xx
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When I go for a walk all I do is cry x
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I don’t feel lonely at all. However, I do feel that a very important part of me and my life as it once was is missing.
Living alone isn’t the problem for me. Living without the love of my life (together for 57 years) is.
I couldn’t bear the thought of anyone else coming into my life. I had perfection and will live with my happy memories.
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