I lost my husband 10 months ago. He was only 63 completely breaks you. Just take one day at a time and see how that day pans out. Grief a funny thing one day you can be absolutely fine and then it can absolutely engulfs you. You take care of your self.
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So sorry for your lost my hubby died in october i miss him everyday but his ring will always be on my finger
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Never, it’s a bond
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When my mum died back in 2006, for some reason I could not understand, they were going to bury her with her ring without even asking me.
Luckily, I was quick enough in making my wishes clear and since then I have proudly worn her wedding ring. Importantly, the ring has my father’s name and the date of their wedding engraved inside the ring (an Italian tradition).
The ring is most precious to me (without sounding like Lord of the Rings!).
The choice of when to take the wedding ring off is a very personal one but please treasure it along with the memories of your wife.
All best wishes,
Sonia
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Hi Glenn 54 I lost my husband 18weeks ago today and I’m still wearing my wedding ring and his also I still class myself as married I don’t like the tag of widow I don’t think there’s a right or wrong answer
Hope this helps
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It’s been nearly 5 years since I lost Clive and I still wear my wedding ring, I don’t think I’ll ever take it off permanently. I wear his ring on a chain around my neck. I’m thinking of having them twisted together into one ring so I can wear them both at the same time but the thought of taking mine off makes me shudder.
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Andrew never liked wearing anything metallic. However, before he was created I cut some of his hair and beard and the plan is to have a pendant or bracelet made that incorporates some of his hair/beard. The rest I am going to put in a little bag that is going to go into a cushion with his face on it.
Anything really to feel him close to me.
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Hi, @SSTC22, as you said (Italian tradition - I live in Italy), our wedding rings have each other’s names and wedding date engraved. I’ll never ever take mine off, and my husband’s ring will hang on my gold chain around my neck forever.
rever.
I have (very nicely) sprayed my wedding ring Black, which really works for me. My daughter in law’s Mum has made a beeline for me, one of Sharon’s friends saw her do so at my darling Sharon’s funeral (which went totally over my head although I did realise the hug was different) which is disgusting.
So, my ring will never come off, but I can say when questioned why it is black: “my ring will never come off, my Sharon is gone, but the black ring is a message to everyone that I will mourn forever and never ever have another partner”. On top of this, I’ve been set up for this Saturday, going to my sons for a bbq and to give my grandson his birthday presents, and now Hollie says her mum will be there. So yesterday, I’ve been touching up my ring and on top (on advice from Sharon’s friend) will be saying: “my Sharon was the most beautiful, sexiest, funniest woman on the planet, and NO ONE ELSE COULD HPPE to match her - I’m married for my whole life”. Hopefully, that way I won’t have to be rude.
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This is what I’ve done… I’ll let anyone else know the details if they want.
And Sharon’s rings will hang round her pot of ashes, which I’m picking up from the funeral director this week.
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@DennisS, what an emotional gesture about your wedding ringyour darling wife loves you for this, like she always will. I understand your decision and I’m sorry to hear you now have your DIL’s mother to deal with, that’s all you need right now! How can she behave that way? Of course, she can’t possibly understand, I hope she will get the message soon. Like you, I’m still my husband’s wife, always will be, that’s what I said when I visited a neighbor yesterday (she’d just lost her husband) and her daughter whom I d never met came to open the door, I introduced myself as my C’s wife, using the in the present tense.
Thanks for listening.
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Must admit as time ticks by I don’t think I can move on as she wants me to , even in time .
The words above about being the most sexiest gorgeous woman who just got me , I don’t think anyone could match up . I will leave it open in the future but I won’t go looking for it
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@Solost Your first sentence brought a lump to my throat. Yes, she loved me so much that she told me 2 weeks before she went that I should have another partner, it totally breaks my heart she loved me so much. I told her then, I will NEVER EVER have another partner, and whilst I may possibly at some stage in the future have different concurrent girlfriends for socialising etc - I really don’t ever see it.
The other thing is that our daughter in law wrote a letter to Sharon, saying how she loved her and regarded her as another Mum (Sharon replied the same) - then 2 months later she spits on her memory. But… she has form in the past for isolating Sharon and I from our grandkids if she’s been offended, so I need to be subtle - not my nature.
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That is very nice.
Yours? I wouldn’t… Not for many months if ever.
(Unless you are one of those lucky ones who feel they can one day move on and form another relationship then at that point maybe…)
I wish I had had a ring myself now. It would feel like a comforting ongoing presence as I’m running out of her perfume now…
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