Like you I find it hard to be motivated. So much of the time I think what’s the point but I suppose we have to carry on or sink and I don’t want to do that
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Small steps small steps forward Day by day week by week. Xx and most of all at your pace x
Yes I agree.
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How very true. 2 years have passed since the love of my life passed after 55 years of marriage. I will never be the same happy person again
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Do you have better days Liz? It’s only 6 weeks for me. We were together since I was 16 and I wonder what happiness I might have at some point.
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I totally agree! I’ve lost my husband very suddenly 3.5 weeks ago, he was only 57 and I am 54. But it wouldn’t have mattered if we were 87 and 84! It’s your soul mate, 50% of your life partnership - gone, that’s what I’m grieving. Age doesn’t come in to it
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@Liro
This is so true, my husband died 13 weeks ago and he was 75. I’m 67 and we were second marriages.
You are right that people think well you’ve had your lives but their death is equally as valid as anyones.
In some respects it’s worse as friends and family can be fewer, particularly if you are no longer working.
We should all feel valued no matter what. x
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Thoughts are with you all x
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I would like to add that we all grieve in our own way and at our own pace.
There will be many similarities but overall there will be a few differences.
So however you are trying to get through this and wherever you feel you are on this ‘journey’ (sorry couldn’t think of a better word), be kind to yourself.
Don’t put extra pressure on yourself, there’s more than enough on us already.
If you think you need help, reach out.
I know it isn’t always there but you can reach out on here.
Here endeth the lecture 
Big hugs and much love,
Rose xx
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Well said 
Xx
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Youre so right. This is the one place you’re not judged . A safe place.
Thanks to you all
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Near Blackpool.im never goin settle i dont think,its a bad bad year everything seems to be going wrong,im so depressed,tired of lying to myself,i miss him so much,i still think hes goin walk in,6 mths now and i speak to him and hate going out,i just get up when i see fit,dont bother anyone.clean up everyday,probably back in bed after tea,home cooked meals are history,am sure you guys know what i mean,but times no healer,just one day follows another,you cant get on with your life when you haven’t got one.its so lonely and quiet without him,
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My self been 7 months horrid just started going out on Tues dancing jive an boogie it’s ok gets me out x
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You are doing well. I lost my husband 22 months ago. I feel as though I m doing ok then mainly at night I still get so upset. I have joined different groups and it does help but I ll never be the same.
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Night times and mornings are terrible i cant sleep my mind just wont shut down,i go over things in my mind then i have nightmares,i look at the clock and theres only couple of hours gone,wen i feel likeim sleepy its time get up,i can lie in bed till all times.thanks 4 the chat its comforting knowing youre all out there and listening
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my husband died 16 weeks ago and tonight i am feeling so sorry for myself i have just realised i will never see him again and i am just heartbroken
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It’s horrible I no we all lost some one very special to us .we said are goodbye .but it’s left us with a hole in are harts . I have pictures of tina on the wall I talk to here as she listen only wish I hear here talk back only in my mind . Tell me self tina would not won’t me to be miserable upset crying .witch I did for 3or more months to get me out of my misery I talk to here tell what I’m doing and have done And I’m surviving now .not saying it gets better it does not . But I feel better xx take care all hope it helps a bit what we going through xx
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I do the exact things i talk to him all the time,kiss his photo by the bed every night,we use to have a little kiss every night before we settled to sleep.i tell him im going shower,and what im feeling,what im thinking about for meals,everything i do i talk to him,ends in tears,its all tears,he was my life ,i was his,the last day of his life became the most worse day of mine,i dont post frequently on here but feel better when ido,thanks xx
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