Your right when you say we feel we are not coping but when I look back I think well I got through that so I must have some inner strength from somewhere x
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Hi, I’m the same. It’s stressful dealing with things on your own. X
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I’m so sorry. Only 61 and retired for just one week. I feel so sad for you xx
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My husband was also 61 and we were together for 42 years. He passed away in May 24 and I just don’t know how to be without him. I find I actually feel resentful when I see other couples knowing I have lost that. Harder now than it was 8 months ago
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My husband died in May too. This time last year he was here and everything was normal. I miss him so much.
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My husband died in February
and I feel that the missing gets harder and harder, the further away it gets
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Me too. Coming up to a year since his death with his birthday the month after so a grim couple of months coming up. Its honestly just getting worse every day. We were both pretty young when this happened so i cant even begin to understand how to live through this for another 30 years. I just pray every day that i can go too.
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I’m so sorry. Yes you were very young
I’m coming to the year on Friday. Its actually the 23rd but he died on thr Friday so thats ehrn I shall feel it.
I’m realky struggling, reliving every moment in the Hospice
I was just starting to cope, hopefully I will again
X x
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Hope you have got through today x
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Thankyou @Cab
I have been a wreck all week. But after 1.15 today the time Roger died. I’ve been strangely calm.
I think I’m emotionally spent.
I hope this means I can start to cope again and get on with this new life I’ve got to make. The one I don’t want, I was perfectly happy with the one I had.
Thankyou for thinking of me
X x
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Spent the day at work pretending to be normal. Spent the last two hours curled up in a ball crying. Exhausted. Same again tomorrow.
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Try and get some sleep
Grief is exhausting
X x
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Thank you, bad day x
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Don’t apologise. We all have bad days.
But gradually, very gradually the good days get more and the bad ones less.
As you know I’m just through the first year. I’m still up and down but I’m coping.
We have to cope.
Roger wanted me to carry on with my life
You lost your husband so suddenly but I’m sure he’d want you to carry on
Its all we can do for them now
Love and hugs
Liz x x
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Will be the one year anniversary no one wants this week and then his birthday next
month. Honestly don’t know how anyone gets through this, it just keeps getting worse every day.
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I know how you feel. It is our wedding anniversary on Wednesday, would have been 37 years married and 42 years together as we started going out together on the same date as we got married. It’s so hard to navigate all these things and I miss my husband so much, we should be celebrating together. I feel cheated and I am terrified of years ahead without him as he was only 61 when he died and I am 59. I could quite happily not be here, preferring to be with him rather than without him.
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Totally agree. My husband was 52 when he died. We had many happy years together so I’d be happy to call it a day and say we had a good life let me go as well so we can be together again. Nothing on this earth for me. Just a waiting game.
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I understand how you feel, my husband had turned 50 in june.
Like you I’m just waiting until I can be with him again, im not living anymore just existing
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I don’t want to be here either I know I have to wait but I just hope he’s there waiting for me and we are together for eternity.
It’s tough trying to be strong because we are not, we are trying and hoping to heal n no one really understands because we try to be brave in front of our loved ones and friends. We shouldn’t, we should be honest as it’s freeing to grieve but it’s very tough.
My loss is only five days in and I actually laughed when I looked at myself in the mirror today and looked a complete n utter mess with bulging frog eyes and I could imagine my John saying’ I’m here, try to stop crying, look after yourself and I love you…
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