If my husband saw me he would call me a big soppy tart, put his arms around me and say baby do you need a hug and to cry and let it all out
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That’s what hurts so much, the fact that they are not here to give us a big cuddle xx
Yes, I miss having his arms around me, he knew how to cheer me up, I really could do with him lately, Ive given up and just can’t be bothered with anything anymore.
@Poppet1973 You sound very down today and you need that big hug. I never knew hugs were important till I met my John and his strong arms just took over and calmed me.
I’ve just had a meltdown because I couldn’t find his first present to me, a beautiful silk scarf, which I want for the funeral.
I was going round the bedrooms searching and asking him to show me where it was because in my erratic life he was the calming voice of reason. I looked in a cupboard where all the grandkids old teddies are n lo n behold there was the scarf…!!! Why I ask myself would I put it there.
I miss him till it hurts and probably will forever but today just 6 days in I laughed because of the scarf calamity and know he would be thrilled.
Take a breath and remember he’s watching you and many times you and I and many others will break inconsolably but our partners/ husbands will be hugging and lifting us again.
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@Flints . I like many others wrap myself in his dressing gowns. He was 6ft 3” so long arms just right for that hug. I wish he was in that dressing gown but I can dream n believe he is…
Yes, lately ive hit rock bottom, and just want to give up. I think if I open the front door and wait maybe a car would come. Ive given up, my kids have their own lives and don’t want to bother them.
I really could use my husband right now, he knew how to cheer me up.
The only thing keeping me going is the complaint thats going on that I promised him I would carry out for him.
I am practically the same, its hard to be bothered with mundane things when your heart is aching so much, I know if I didn’t have my two youngest here with me, it would be so hard not to give up.
I really hope things start to feel better for you soon, the thought of having them not physically with us hurts, but please keep going, there are lots of people on here who care. Sending you lots of love xx
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I sleep clutching the necklace I bought Mark twenty eight years ago, he never took it off once, since the day I gave it to him.
@Flints i sleep with two dressing gowns belonging to John n it gives comfort cause I can smell him. I also open his fave aftershave n that helps too. We have to do whatever to find solace…
I sleep with his t-shirt, and cuddle up with it so I feel like hes with me.
I wear my husbands clothes more than my own now. I know I look a state but so what!
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Hi
I’ve just joined this community. I know how you feel aabout people telling you about going away on hols with their partners. I never had feelings of jealousy before but now they’re really intense. It’s not fair, people don’t understand how intense it feels to see them on hols with their partners who are still here when we have lost ours. I feel so guilty that I’m so jealous…
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@cab really doesn’t matter what state we look as long as we get some sort of happiness and calmness and if wearing your hubbys clothes does that then absolutely fine.
I sleep in John’s t shirts and wear one of his dressing gowns but look a state cause he was 6ft 3” n I’m 5ft 4”. You can imagine the arms…!!!
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