I know,no-one to buy that special gift for,my wife always got me a small silly gift last year it was grow your own money seeds which were actually sunflower seeds,I just rolled my eyes and smiled,not this year.
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I know. I got through last Christmas thanks to my kind neighbours who insisted on me spending the day with them; tbh, I was still in shock and donāt remember much of it. Dreading this next one more.
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With you there, I/we loved Christmas, with me not being allowed to touch the tree, Sueās job and she loved it, I canāt even think about putting the tree up this year, one of our daughters snd the grandkids always have Christmas dinner with us and I just donāt want to spoil it for the little onesā¦ actually in tears now thinking about that one 
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That is probably the hardest and most true statement ā no body to do nothing withā x
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I refuse to think about Christmas. I will cross that bridge when I come to it. There are already too many things to contend with, Christmas is four and a half months away. That is twice as long as he has been gone. I hope and pray by then we will all be feeling just a tiny bit less desolate, or at least more accustomed to our losses.
I still use the one day or hour at a time mantra. Xx
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Its not silly at all Swift those are the memories we will carry foward no matter how life changes the one thing no one can taje is our precious memories. These are the things we will always treasures. Xxx
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Likewise Willow mine is 1 minute 1 hour 1 day at a time. I struggle day to day the hrs are so long the nights are so bloody lonely . Xxx
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My hubby Andy loved Christmas. He had Alzhiemers for 11 years . Christmas afternoon my son and I helped him to his bed in his care home. We were going to have Christmas dinner together. He closed his eyes and never opened them again. He passed away 3 days later. Christmas will never ever be the same. I did try this year. But im oh so glad when its over
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Christmas just gone was the worse period of my life, I was in a dark place, completely alone and I swore I would never spend another one like that ever again, so on the 3rd January I booked the whole of Xmas 2024 in the Lake District, it will still be hard and especially as the Lakes holds so many memories of me, hubby and our beautiful dog but I canāt bear to be at home by myself again. It was pure torture
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Like you all im so dreading Christmas this year My husband passed suddenly with no warning 23rd December 2023 Still canāt believe it and really being truthful it gets harder every day He loved Christmas and weād just arrived 22nd on holiday to celebrate This year i think ill just close doors drink and sleep for 2 weeks Everyone is now on a horrible journey we never wanted to be When im feeling sad i try to give myself a telling off and say its about him not me He ws only 57 Thinking about you all x
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Ive thought all these thoughts as well. Its only beeƱ 9 weeks since my husband of 39 years died. Ive come to the conclusion we can only live one day at a time and cant see our future. We may never have that special person in our life again but we can remember how great it was when we had it, and hope we can make a different life to come.
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Hi,
I lost my wife after a three year battle with cancer in April this year, rather than living one day at a time I think right now,itās surviving one day at a time.
Sending you peace and strength Ron.
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Ron11. I think Iāve got exactly the same āwho willsā. It is depressing. Makes you wonder just what is the point of anything anymoreā¦
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Iām dreading Christmas. I donāt think there will be a Christmas in my house apart from one special decoration that my husband bought for me last year.
My husband would probably disagree. Tell me to decorateā¦ But heās not here and thatās the problem.
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Well Ime not doing any celebrations,no decorations no cards no gifts going to daughters for lunch,and itās not just Christmas Ime dreading the whole of winter.
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Itās the shops that get to me; all that jingly happy Christmas music and decorations. Last Christmas I just couldnāt bear it.
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Yep me neither,think Ime gonna do the squirrel ,stock cupboard fridge freezer and hibernate until spring.
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I got Tesco deliveries in the end, which meant not having to face the shops.
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spot on there Ron11,
This just how i feel. at the moment just sitting here at home on my own, and saying please come backā¦ But i know she will not.
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Wouldnt it be lovely if we could magic them back. Even if it was just for short whiles. Xxx
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