Hi Ashleys mum , thanks for your kind words about my post and actions
to me it was the right thing to do, because this lady didnt know what day of the week it was , or what she should do next ?
i did a similar thing to a lady, who had just been told by a consultant, that she was going to loss her sight completely. she was sat in the hospital restaurant and didnt know what to do or how to get home.
to me the consultants actions were completely y wrong and he should have got the lady some medical support and transport home, AS to me she was completely in a state of shock.
talked to her and tried to point out some positives, that i had learned in my life and from my education. we chatted for awhile and it didnt matter to me how long it took, or even that my shift had ended. this lady needed support and i was going to support her ?
i managed to get her ambulance transport home , as she wasnt fit to use a taxi
to me when another person neds help and i have the skill and capacity to help i will do my best
i am not doing anything special, i am just doing what comes naturally to me, in my over 35 years of voluntary work, and how i hope others would act towards me
have a lovely day
mr chipps the poet man x
Mr chips
I hope to encounter people like yourself in my lifetime, I will know then that I am in the company of a beautiful compassionate person, thank you, I love reading your posts. You have a big heart , I think the world would be perfect if it were filled with like minded people, take care Mr Chips, I wish you every kindness that you have shown xx
Hi Ashleyās mum
Thank you for your very kind words.you have brightenedmy life tremendously. I never used to accept compliments, as I didnāt have faith in myself.
Nor did I love and believe in myself.
But now because of me having counselling, and cognitive behaviour therapy, I have completely changed my opinion of myself and am now proud of myself
I am looking for new adventures and new people to meet and possibly, become friends with?
Iām not specifically looking for affection and a?relationship?
It would be lovely if you wanted to meet me in person, depending on where you live
I live in south Yorkshire, between wakefield and Sheffield
Iām not sure what the rules are on this site in regards?to
To exchanging personal details
Thanks for writing to me .
Because of rules and the actions of admin on this site, I no longer rely to ordinary messages and will only reply to private messages
Best wishes
Keith the poet x
Iām proud of being compassionate and caring and as you say the world would be a much better and happier place if more people were a little like me?
But I must point out that Iām simply a normal Virgo and nothing special , ir unique
Keith xx
When I say private messages. I mean those that are sent specifically to me and my name.
What Iām saying is?that I wonāt pick up messages that are open to eveyone.
I hope that several members Will answer them compassionately. As i used to do
Love to everyone Keith xx
Hi mr chips,
Iām glad I brightened your day, I really am especially as you have gone through such negatives about yourself. If youāre kind enough to do such amazing things for people in their time of need then you are an amazing person because so many would walk by. I will private message you at some point because it would be lovely to talk to you. Iām quite far from you and with family commitments would find that tricky, however, next summer, who knows, we have a van and can travel. You deserve to love yourself as you show it to others, you have a beautiful soul xx
Hi lovely person . Thanks for your kind words . I am slowly learning to love myself and become more positive about almost everything!! I have found it easier to be kind and caring towards others instead of myself?
But because of some of the lovely things some people have said to me. As well as hearing words from a Christmas film , that made me think hard and realise that i needed to love myself.
Now that i am beginning to love myself , i believe that in time i will be able to love myself and hopefully show a happier demeanor when with others ? I look forwards to your private message .
Mr chipps
I hear you and I agree 100% I found it so strange and equally heart breaking at a time in your life when you need people the most they make you feel even worse. I lost my baby last year and at first I got the poor you looks then I got the look the other way looks. At first I thought I was imagining it but. It became apparent when my so called friend was always too busy to spend time with me and my neighbour stopped talking to me. It just added to my heartbreak I felt I was being punished and never felt more alone. I came to the harsh realization that ALOT of people donāt really give a shit and you really are alone. I maybe isolated myself even more as I thought people would reach out to me through Facebookā¦or even ask how I was or was coping. No one did so I deleted my account. I thought why live in the false pretense that people care. There too busy and life is pretty cruel. Thatās when I came on here I thought Iāll seek people out in my position and it helped alot
When i ran our bereavement support group i or the secretary welcomed new or prospective members and counselled Ć¾em and helped them to speak their feelings and then we would decide what they wanted to do socially . If members wanted to grieve . I listened and they moved on by sharing a long caring hugs . It lasted 18 months and closed because some members family and friends used their vulnerability to stop them attending , or moving forwards but to me it was a success. Because a lady in her early 20s attended and told me that . This was the first time she had gone out socially in 5 years.
She continued coming for 6 months
. I accept that some may not like the idea of me sharing hugs. But where i live hugs are a normal part of our lives, plus they can bring peace and break stress?
So sorry this happened to you. Sadly Iāve experienced similar that made me see that most people including family turn a blind eye rather than offer practical support. Itās a lonely place when you are grieving and feel abandoned by those close to you.
Hi, so sorry for your loss but unfortunately it is so true. It is one of the biggest surprises when you are going through this. I understand that life goes on, but I found either people avoiding me or did the obligatory one call with āif you need anything let us knowā, never to be heard from again. The worse is when it is family. I recall telling a family member that I was struggling, and was told in an abrupt manner āwell you should open up and then we can helpāā¦ I was thinking isnāt this is what I am doing! I gave up, it was pointless unless you have been through this they just wonāt get it. We are all friends on here, just wished we all lived near each other x
I found that when my wife died my 2 youngest kids simply thought of themselves and not me and nothingbi did would wver be right.
My 2 youngest kids went to the pub with friends and left me alone.
Worse was that home loans came to collect my late wifes wheelchair, even though i had asked them not to.
They walked out on me within a few weeks and monthās, blaming me for eveything.
Dont think im a moaning git, because after 30 years im still alone my daughter and i are estranged, her fault and my youngest son committed suicedjust over 3 years after my wifes death.
My daughter says i drove him to suicide. And once told me to hurry up.and die. Then wonders why i disowned her. Thereās worse which i wonāt mention as its to.painful
So basically i deserve to be alone people according to my youngest kids.
My oldest son and i occaasionanally meet up, but he lives 190 miles away and has a very ill wife peace folks.
, I think the world would be perfect if it were filled with like minded people, take care Mr Chips, I wish you every kindness that you have shown xx