Morning @Kitcat
i totally agree with what you have said.
we are all suffering this pain and enormous loss of our loved ones.
its been 17 weeks for me since i lost my husband so very suddenly in a tragic accident.
i miss him terribly 
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Like you I meet a friend every week for a coffee or a lunch, she lost her husband just 5 months before me.
We find great comfort in one another.
So sorry for your loss too its heartbreaking.
Glad you have found a friend on here that is giving you comfort.
much love and hugs
xx
Thankyou so much ,so sorry for your loss too ,god bless you ,ive found so much comfort by meeting this lovely lady and i hope its the same for you ,sending you love and hugs x
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Thank you @Kitcat yes it really has helped me too.
Someone who understands exactly what its like and how we feel losing our loved ones.
im so pleased you have found a friend you can share this with too, it really does help.
sending you a big hug 
xxx
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I wrote the below this morning.
What do you see when you look at me?
Do you see someone living a normal life?
Do you see my broken heart and my pain of losing my soulmate?
Do you see my shattered life, dreams and future?
Do you see my sadness, loneliness and emptiness?
Do you see that I am struggling to get through each day?
Do you care enough to ask me how I am?
Do you see me struggling as each birthday, anniversary approaches?
Do you remember my loss?
When you see someone going about their life remember that you do not see all that is going on in that person’s life.
This is how I feel this morning.
Thinking of everyone on here in the same position. xx
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People don’t see all the above that we all encounter.
They just see the person, and if and when I am not I tears they wrongly assume I am ok, like most of us I will never be ok just slowly accept that she is unable to be with me at the moment, but is simply waiting until I join her.
I may if god decides go on for many more years guiding our children through this word but I will never fear death knowing she will be waiting for me.
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People think i m okay and doing well, but they have no idea how i feel inside all the time. Cry a lot every day.
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@Debbiea i can relate to that, i cried all the way home from visiting relatives today. They say how well I’m doing…… but I feel like saying “I’m really NOT doing well”, life is just sh*t. I would have my old life back in a heartbeat 
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Kathy6,
I agree life is just Sh*t now and I can not see how this can get any better.
Like most of us it’s like I am lost in a maze that you just can not escape.
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Hi i lost my husband 1 year ago and the pain doesnt go ,i just get up on a morning and get through the day the best i can ,i am part of a bereavement group which has helped me a lot ,i also meet up once a week with a lovely lady who lost her husband last September, i also attend a bereavement cafe once a month ,there are lots of people who attend the cafe who have lost loved ones whether it be a husband ,wife ,partner ,mum ,dad etc ,if anyone of you live in the South Yorkshire area and you think it would be for you give me a shout .Like all of you i pray everyday for the stregnth to carry on ,sending best wishes to you all x
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Stargaze
Everything you have written is exactly how I feel, it’s been Ten months since I lost my Bob sat here crying and feeling a bit sorry for myself. But reading your post reminds me that there are so many people in our position and feeling the same pain as us. This forum is so important
Take care
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@Avis1 Sorry for your loss and I understand how you feel. It will be coming up to 11 months since I lost my husband. I am glad that my post helped you to know that you are not alone on this awful journey we did not choose. Take care. xx
Thankyou so much for your reply ,i pray for a time we all find peace and the pain lessens ,as i said i do go to a bereavement cafe once a month and i find this really comforting x