Helen, please let us know how your doing, we haven’t heard from you lately. Worried about you. xxxx
I am here but in a very dark place have started medication and counselling being rushed through x
My counsellor today suggested that I wasn’t making much progress and broached the subject of anti depressants,I didn’t really want to go down that route so my brain is even more scrambled tonight,I hadn’t really thought that I was ever going to feel any different now,and just expect to live in this blackness .I don’t know,so exhausted can’t think straight.Love to you all out there xx
Just out of interest did you have a clear expectation as to what you wanted to achieve. Did the Councillor tell you what his/her expectation might be. Did he/she tell you how that might be measured or evaluated. Can you identify progress. Has the counsellor contributed to that.
At the end of the day the question is always “was it worth it”.
Hi Corinna, I chose bereavement counselling and therapy, still ongoing, rather than medication. Like many of our friends on here have said, we have our own journeys with grief and all travel at a different rate. Maybe you think differently to your counsellor and have felt better for being able to talk to someone outside friends & family. Any bit of comfort is worthwhile. There may be other taking therapies that you can consider for the future. Please don’t be too hard on yourself. Seeking help as you have takes a lot of courage and is seen as a positive. I always find myself exhausted after one of my sessions. I hope you can try to relax and manage some sleep now. Take care, kind wishes, x
My counsellor is brilliant and such a support ,and i’m definately getting much comfort from her and she say’s she will not stop my sessions till she thinks i am ready,.but i don’t know anything now,brain not working!Feel worse than ever tonight, But i have a fabulous sister who lives and works in India,she obviously thinks i am in a mess because she is flying back for a few days to spend some time with me.I am really trying but it is so hard and i feel so so black.Loads of love everyone as i know you all feel the same xx
Thankyou so much,i am so exhausted yes,you lot are keeping me going through these terrible days,much love xx
Hi Helen, so pleased to hear from you. Hope your counselling works for you but be careful won’t you. My friend went for counselling and found that it made her worse. She was forced to divulge or accept things that she wasn’t ready for and ended up having a breakdown. Her brain just couldn’t take it. Personally I wouldn’t consider medication. Nothing is going to take away the pain. My choice is that I know I have to grieve and get through it as naturally as possible and find a solution that suits me, it’s so hard I know. Tablets will only push it to one side for a brief moment then face the pain all over again, they won’t cure this problem. Take your time but do try to find a natural route. Sorry shouldn’t preach but I dislike drugs, legal or not. Not had a good morning myself but will go for a walk with the dogs. Listen to birds singing, look at the sea, etc etc anything to make my brain think of something else other than my grief just for a moment but this is my way of coping. Love to you and thinking of you all.
So hard Helen, I tried the counciling but I think I will go ahead on my own. Going over the same situation was so hard for me. Perhaps I will regret it later, but for now that’s how I’m going. I don’t think anything will take away the pain and sense of loss. I’m at my grandsons school at the moment. I pick him up Tuesdays and cook his tea etc. The mums must think I’m a right misery. When my wife and I did this it was fun now it’s so hard. But I will carry on for her. Xxxx
Bloody broke down in the playground couldnt believe i was standing there alone. We should be together. He should have taken me
Oh hope you feeling a little better now Stevie,sometimes it just gets too much and it’s overwhelming xx
If you had been taken, leaving your Denise behind, she would be left feeling like you are now.
I feel that I am taking the bullet for Eileen. I wouldn’t want her going through what I’m going through. I would have readily died for her at any point over the last 52 years; living on for her is harder, but I’ll try, for now, to do it.
Apparently it was blue Monday yesterday. I am having Blue Tuesday as well. Nearly 8 weeks on, and I think I cried more today than I have for a couple of weeks. I feel as though reality is now beginning to set in and no amount of wishing, pleading and praying is going to bring my lovely husband home. This is it for the rest of my life. My children are really trying to be there for me, but it is the hugs and kisses I miss, the snuggling up in bed and just sitting together in the evening. I miss him so much and it is getting worse.
Yeah.
I know.
You aren’t alone.
136 days for me.
163 days for me. Not even 1% of the time we had together. It seems like it stretches out endlessly. I’m in no rush to die but I would like to live in the light again.
Me to mate. What’s the point of living like a ghost
I’m on 313 days,a bit further down the road,i would like to say i’m living in the light but got to be truthful,haven’t found it yet i think i’m just getting more used to the way it is,sad,tiring and the hardest journey ever,still holding on to hope by my fingertips x
You always give me hope. I like it that you’ve got so much worked out and don’t seem like little setbacks will blow you too far off course.
I’ve been to Tennants Auction House today. Fantastic day out. There was a selling exhibition in one of the cafes by a photo artist. Couldn’t resist and bought a lovely photo of a Dalesbred tup. Would have bought a couple more but already sold. Can’t have it until end of Feb so have to make do with a photo.
Fantastic place.
feeling for you,and feeling the same,loads of love xx
Thank you Corinna. I feel for you too, this is so awful, I just miss George so much and feel so upset tonight. I think I am going to take myself off to bed and try to get some sleep, maybe I will feel better tomorrow xx