Dear Carolina,
Consider that your husband is there, in you, with you in spirit and heart. Mine was also 63. It seems far too young but I think of all the amazing things we did together and the positive footprint he left behind for others.
Sending you my warmest, heartfelt wishes.
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A send you both best wishes and hugs.
My husband was 63 too when he passed away suddenly no illness so shock when it happened. I am 14 weeks into this journey and it is hard somerimes but i try to be positive most days but the odd one i give in to the grief but afterwards i carry on.
Your journey now will be varied and i hope you can get support from others here and your families and friends to get through the hard times.
Take care of yourself. x
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My husband was also 63 when he went in February. I’m a few months in and still have bad days, but I am learning to cope with it. Having people, either on here and nearby, certainly helps.
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Goodness - 63 seems such a poignant age, or is it? Great that you’re managing to cope.
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Yes my husband had the vaccine !!! And he was only 60 ! What i am finding very disturbing is how young these men are ??? What.the heck is going on ? People in the 21st century are supposed to be surviving longer with “supposedly” better health care ! Something has gone very wrong you know !!!
I think the government know but not letting on myself cos have you noticed all the adverts for cancer now !!!
They did say when we went into the pointless lockdown that there.would be lots of knock.on effect with cancers in particular … never dreamed in a million years my husband would be one of them !!!
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What did people say to you about the vaccine ? know it won’t bring them back but interested to.know …
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Yes exactly my husbands care was woeful too ! Went into hospital on 2nd august for 2 weeks … took them 2 months to find damn bladder cancer … he was told by his specialist in september … its nothing bloody sinister !!! By november he was on palliative care 
passed in december … my poor hubby xx
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My husband died of cancer a week after his 62nd birthday so not that much different to many on here. I’ve had both my jabs today, or should I say yesterday looking at the time, but it does make you think! J x
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Im not having mine ! No chance !! Not cos im scared but cos i dont believe.in them anymore ! I think its all.propaganda ! Had them at beginning but no chance now !!! Xx
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Same here !!! .i think a lot of people feel like that now … .i caught it before vaccine came out and i survived ! Surely we should have enough antibodies by now all jabs we had done !! Anyway i don’t care ! Still wont be having it !! X
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Beautiful words i read your message in the night as i was awake for five hours and it gave me hope…thanking you for sharing
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What a wonderfully positive post. It’s just over 7 weeks since I lost my soul mate and rather than getting easier it seems to be getting harder. I’m in tears so much of the time. I never knew what heartbreak could feel like, The loneliness is the worst, my life feels empty
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Hi your husband musted have passed the same time ish as mine this is my first day on line to kev passed 31st july age 67 but young after 8 weeks off agressive stage 4 secondary cancer …im totally devastated like you the pain is so heavy on my heart but i do try so hard to b positive 
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I’m totally with you. You are not alone. Know that one day, the despair will pass. I promise. Have faith. Keep going. You’re doing great even though you may not recognise it.
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Mine passed on the 29th July following a massive heart attack and a week in ICU. He had just had his 69th birthday. It was so unexpected and I still can’t believe it happened
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My wife had the jab and still got covid in hospital twice, I have never had covid as far as I know, I got the jab because of my wife’s poor health and also for the care workers who came to help me with Norma, I have thought about the jabs did they make my dear wife worse in getting them, she was ill before she got the first jab and health went down hill quite quickly after her first and second jabs, I just don’t know
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Thank you for this. I lost my husband, Howard in February. Every day is a struggle but I try to get out and do things. I know that he would want me to.
He told me before he died that I was stronger than I think I am and that he knew that I would cope better than he would if things had been the other way around. I don’t always feel that strength but I keep those words close to me. He also said that he wanted me to do things that we wouldn’t have enjoyed together, it’s not easy.
Your husband was very wise.
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Helena 1
I lost my partner last year and I totally agree with you. I think he would not have coped as well as I have with loss. He would not have looked for support or asked for help from family and friends. I don’t think he would have found it easy to talk about his feelings. It has been so hard, so painful and I feel so sad for much of the time. I would have hated for him to feel like this.
Val
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Hi Val
Gosh yes I agree with you. I too feel sad a lot of the time but am trying to find little pockets of positivity to enable me to keep going.
There’s nothing that can prepare us is there.
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Helena 1
Nothing prepares you for the turmoil and sadness, but it is good to hear your positivity. I am sure we will all get through this sadness in our own ways. I am trying to accept that my life is going to be different, not what I expected or planned for with Simon. Try to look forward as much as possible; you will have many sad days but hopefully, there will also be “brighter” days. A big hug from me. X
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