I agree nothing prepares you, I was told in May last year that my wife had a few months left, she died two months later in July, and four days after my wife died her brother died suddenly, it changed my life and our daughters
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@Helena1 such beautiful words and so very true. I am just over 9 months down this very bumpy road. I lost my partner to a very short battle with leukaemia on Jan 6th. Such an emotional rollercoaster but I know he would want me to move forward and I’m trying so hard to do that every day. 
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Oh, I’m totally with you. I feel that every knock, struggle etc offers me the chance to become wiser and observe more of what’s happening. Consider this an opportunity to embrace change.
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Yes our parrners would not want us to be sad to live on in their memory. Life is precious and although we are now on rhis part of the journey on our own we must try to live the life we would have both wanted together and enjoy what time we have left to do this.
Remember we are never really on our own as they are wirh us somewhere in spirit and presence. Lynne x
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Yes, we have our beautiful memories
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That’s such an inspiring message to leave. I hope you do and I do too, and we all do. To hurt this much is to have loved so very deeply, and feel grateful that you have. A heart that can feel that much for someone. Wow, I have had a great chapter, I miss my husband so much, I wish I could just hold his hand and touch his face one more time. He would have struggled if it were me. Now I need to live for him too. That’s what we all need to do. Hugs and love xx
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So true. I know my husband would want me to do that.
He wouldn’t have coped at all. I try to think positive and do that, sometimes it’s just hard.
It will be our Wedding anniversary end of next week, know it will be difficult but I have book myself into a hotel for a couple of nights. I know that he would want me to live for both of us.
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I am so glad to here that people are able to beg on with life. I managed to get through our wedding anniversary on 28th August which would have been 36 years. It was not easy and we would have been abroad and had a nice meal out. I went out with a friend to lunch not the same but thought of him on the day and always will but i got through the day. There are always extra special days we will not forget but everyday we had with them was special and although they are gone never forgotten
Take care and look after yourselves live for today one thing i have learned we do not know what tomorrow will bring x
Lynne
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@Helpme1 I was so pleased to read your message about booking yourself into a hotel for your anniversary. Although it will be a sad time I do hope you will enjoy it. I am going to do the same thing next year as it would have been our golden wedding anniversary. I am going to try and book into a sort of retreat hotel and get pampered as I know my husband would have liked me to do that. He was always treating me to pampering days for our anniversaries. Sending hugs. Ann
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Such beautiful words. I’m sure you will find love again. 
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It’s will be the second time that I have done it since I lost Howard in February this year. He was only 64 and we had only been married for 3 and a half years.
I’m fortunate enough to live in Cornwall. The first weekend was for 3 nights staying in St Mawes, I did struggle emotionally but I got through it. The last time I was there he was with me. I know that he would have enjoyed the things that I did, especially the river cruise up the Fal to Trellissick Garden. He loved being on the water and I felt like he was sitting beside me on the boat.
Next week I am going to Newquay for our anniversary, another place that he liked.
I have to try and have things to look forward to, it would be extremely easy just to sit at home feeling lost and tearful. He made it quite clear to me the day before I lost him that he wanted me to live and get on with my life.
Sometimes I have to force myself to do things but sometimes of course I can’t and I stay home with my cat and memories and cry.
My thoughts are with you. X
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Good to see that you have made move to go on holiday.
I am hoping next year to be able to travel myself to Fiji to scatter his ashes where he was born in 1960. Then spend some yime there remembering good holidays spent there and future ones for me to make in his memory.
Take care x
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My darling man , passed with a sudden massive heart attack.
I think not being able to say good bye is the hardest. Then the sudden change in your whole life , seems to be unbearable .
But 8 months down the line , I still miss him and want my old life back , I do feel his love and support surrounding me . This gives me comfort .
I talk to him all the time and I know what he would say as we had been together for so long .
I’m determined to live my live for the both of us until we meet again .
Stay strong and live to love
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Amazing Elowen. Bless you and you will be reunited I am sure 
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I am 4 months into this journey too.
Reassuring words of comfort from you.
Take care x
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Lovely words … xx
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I lost my husband, Howard 8 months ago too.
My heart is broken, every day is a struggle but I know that he would want me to carry on and live my life. It’s hard tho.
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So sorry for your loss, it is hard I know, I lost my dear wife just over 14 months ago
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Hi @Helpme1
So sorry for your loss.
I know how your feeling it has been 4 months for me and i miss him every day and find nights weekends long.
I have tried to keep occupied with things during the day but nights are long and lonely.
I am now finding my health is suffering.
My cholesterol is very high according to my doctor could that be due to the stress anxiety not eating and not sleeping well who knows but i dont want to be on tablets for the rest of my life. My husband had tablets to control his cholesterol and he died suddeny at 63 with no other underlying conditions.
Anyway try to look after yourself and take care Lynne x
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That’s what find hard the nights and weekends, and now we are coming into the winter season, (the second one for me) I don’t see anyone I live quite remote it’s very lonely
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