I’ve also had family that are too busy with their own lives and quite a few who have just disappeared, along with some friends. Sad really but I suppose that’s life. I’ve just got to get on without them. Its hard sometimes but nothing I can do about it. Take care. Ann xx
@Sam25 Well done for fixing it. It’s reassuring when we manage to do things that we never had to do in the past. I had a panic last week after I defrosted the freezer. I switched it on afterwards and then realised that some electric things like lamps weren’t working. I remembered about the trip switches but twice it happened. I immediately panicked that I now had a major problem with the electrics in the house. I always seem to get things out of proportion. I was waiting for a neighbour to come and help me when I realised that I also had the washing machine and dishwasher on, and guessed that I’d overloaded the system. I too was in tears dreading how many more silly mistakes I’ll make. The awareness that we will face things on our own that we didn’t ever think about is overwhelming but every time we solve our problems we will gain more strength and confidence. Xx
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Hi @ Sam 25
Glad to see you got through yesterday.
Also you managed to fix your towel rail
My husband always doing DIY just before he died he built raised beds for vegetables
Just cant being myself to use them.
He left me with electrical tools he had a tool for everything however dont think ill use 6 drllls !
Still either sell use or leave in garage.
Another task for next year to sort
Life is so changed for each of us.
Dont thing i will tackle the leak i the garage roof though.
Taks care
Lynne x
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Hi @ AnnieG1
Family and friends looks like we have to get on with life and little support and help now.
Guess we just have to learn new things now however i am not very hands on so DIY and gardening but now ive got time to learn.
Anyway have a good day
Lynne x
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At least we are all here for each other. We have to support each other and keep in contact. I am determined to reach out more instead of isolating myself. Love to you all. Xx
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Yes I second that motion . I have just had a roast dinner cooked by my good self . Sat and eat it through floods of tears . I wouldn’t dream of taking the enjoyment from anyone . But for me it is just a bloody awful time of year it’s just so bloody awful . Glad there is only a few hours of it left !! All the best to us Grievers hope the coming year is better for us all x
Hi @ Jeff007
Dont know what it is today.
I also have been in floods of tears
Managed to heat up something from freezer.
Now like yourself will be glad when the festive period and New Year is over.
Planning on going to bed this year usually we would have stayed up had a drink and wished each other happy new year.
New tradition stay in bed this year and wake up its 2024.
Take care x
It just gets under my skin when we hear about poor poor Jeremy Clarkson and all his problems . When we in the real world are dealing with this ton weight of grief . Just go count your money JC . Bless you all x
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I’m a coach builder by trade . All I can say is ( WELL ) done you 
bless you x
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Most people have heard the term you don’t know what you had got till it’s gone . But I new what I had in the most amazing human being I have ever know before or since . You just don’t realise the impact another person can have on your life . 2 years now . And inside I still feel just as devastated as if it was yesterday . I truly feel for you all . And wish you well for 24 x
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That’s a shame so sorry to hear . As a coach builder I always planned to convert a van into a camper but never got round to it . But then I lost my darling girl so I bought one and joined a camping club called (new companions ) with contacts and meets all over the UK . For people that prefer to camp on there own . Here’s the friends bit . I have made new friends in the club with like minded people in the same boat . And said goodby to people I used to call friends . Bless you all in 24
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Hi @ Jeff007
My husband always wanted a campervan.
We planned to get one when he retired but he passed away before that happened.
I dont drive so not much good for me now.
When i was at a christmas blues and jazz show in November i met a lady who said she had a campervan and had joined a group that met up in the UK.
Lynne
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Today my son goes home and I am dreading it. I got a bit tipsy on Christmas Day which was just a way to avoid things again. I am determined to belt up now and really try. I love the idea of a bucket list. There are things my husband wanted to do but never got the chance so I feel like I should at least try. I just wish I could pull myself out of this hole but I am going to try. Thanks to all of you for being there. It really does help. Hope you all have a peaceful day. Sending hugs. 
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Hi @Billie7
Wishing you a peaceful day.
It will be hard to see your son go home after spending Christmas together 
Now nack to our new normal of handling things on your own.
Hopefully a time for reflection of things you want to go next year going forward.
The weather here is very wet and windy think its like that all over the country.
Maybe so tidy up of my clothes that no longer fit or have never been worn to go to charity shop later today
Whatever your doing today have a good one
Lynne
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Can totally resonate with you - 8 months in, still devastated as ever!
Take care x
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Hi Lynn
That was what I was thinking. The house is a tip so thought I would do some serious cleaning. At least I will have done something productive. I am also going to make a list of things I am going to do. I know I have to keep busy. The weather is horrible here in the Northwest. It is just constant rain. Hope you have a good day. Xxx
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Well never to late to learn . Grasp the nettle . It’s incredibly difficult to put it out it out of your mind . When you have been with someone for so long but you have to look to the future and it’s in a way celebrating the love ones life we have lost . That is the way I have to look at it . But every day is a struggle at the moment even 2years since I lost my darling girl . I wish you all the best Jeff x
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Thanks Jeff. I can do things in short bursts and then my mind goes into overdrive. I am no good with time on my hands but have a tendency to overdo things and then get exhausted. The one thing I am going to do is learn to say no and stop people pleasing. Thanks for reaching out. It really helps. Makes me feel a little less alone. X
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Hi @ Jeff007
I think at 66 it might be able to drive but dont think the roads would be ready for my driving.
Maybe i will just travel book short breaks.
Planning Belfast next year and maybe even Paris then further afield funds permitting.
Anyway something to add to bucket list
Lynne
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Just think of the independence it would give you . And at 66 your still a youngster !!
And you may think you couldn’t do it . And maybe not at the moment and it’s not as hard as you may think . I just hope I may at least have planted a seed !! . Take care x
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