I feel the same . When the few people that have asked me how am i how am I doing . I just say ( oh I’m ok) but I have decided to tell them just how I feel at the time and not just what they won’t to hear me say . I sorry if that makes them feel uncomfortable . So like you I’m done with the people pleasing bit . Al the best x
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Hi
Sometimes, if you tell them how you really feel they dont know what to say. The reply i got from my daughter here who stays about 1hr away - was so sorry to hear that but you really just need to deal with it as she said she has here own life and things
to deal with - so like i say people sometimes cant cope.
Life is tough but my husband would have said move on look after yourself when i’m gone you will be on your own.
Now i am without him how right he was.
X
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If you do decide to learn definitely an automatic. No pesky clutch and gear changing. All you then have to concentrate on is steering and brake. If you get too close some cars will even brake for you.
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Thanks
But dont think i would use a car.
Anyway, dont think the roads would be ready for my driving
Did some about 30 years ago wasn’t good then !!
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Know what you mean. Was told by a professional police driver that I was a safe driver but that is not a good driver. Couldn’t park. Reversed into a fire escape and a good sized tree. Only ever had three accidents and one wasn’t my fault. He drove out if a side road into the side of me. Other 2 slow speed.
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I’m so sorry to hear your daughter’s comment to you . My daughter on the other hand has been a absolute rock . She is her mother’s daughter no mistake . She has been looking out for me we have always had a rock sold relationship . She is also starting her fourth year studying to be a councillor she has her mother’s compassion and I think she will do well in helping people . It must be hard for her seeing me cope with my grief as well as her own as she was very close to her dear mum . And keeping the councillor perspective in mind . She is very vivacious a bit like me . My son is a good lad but very different in temperament to his sister . But he is a closed book regarding the lose of his mum I have tried to get into his head about his feelings . He was very close to his mum as well but think he finds it difficult and upsetting to say how he is on the inside . I try not to ask but I hope there both ok and not just thinking of me . All the best
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Had driving lessons at 18. Could not do it. Had driving instructor aftetwood. Took my husband and 3 instructors and I passed at 32, failed once. My Auntie passed at 57 after falling 6 times. X
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Shows it can be done 
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How I got through Xmas day I just don’t know. Spent it on my own, with my cat! Went a walk to break the boredom and nearly broke down with cheery people calling out Happy Christmas. I had a quick cuppa with kind neighbours but it only emphasised the aloneness. No-one can replace your life partner.
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Its so true. No-one can replace your life partner. I lost my husband after 54 years of marriage and although i have family nearby when im on my own the loneliness engulfs you. Ive been on my own for 2 days now after a nice christmas, but still feel lost when i come home on my own. Dont know how to move forward. Thinking of you and sending best wishes and hugs. Debbie
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I fully understand how you are feeling. I spent Christmas morning on my own, but went to my brothers and sister in law’s for dinner and spent an hour with my late husbands brother and sister in law on the evening. I just get exhausted trying to pretend that I’m fine. I only sent cards to immediate family, but hate only having to write my name. Funny thing is, Tony wasn’t really a Christmas fan and I would have to badger him to open his presents, I even miss that. Sending you love and support
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I lost my soulmate in October. Its the most unimaginable pain. I to am on sleeping tablets antidepressants and suffer panic attacks. I feel lost without her by my side. You are not alone
A weekend trip would be fantastic with people who completely understand and will support each other x Diane
So true - no one can replace our soulmate X
As you say they can’t be replaced . And you can’t replace a ( sole mate ) only my opinion mind !! but when I hear term my second wife I don’t think the heart was in it the first time . I lost the love of my life and she will never be replaced by wife 2 !! All the best
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Hi @ lost 13 Diane
I’m sure it would be good to meet up eith others like ourselves who have lost someone special Sometimes we just need to chat to others who are going through the same thing about anything in general.
We can never replace them nor would we want to but talking to others does seem to help temporarily in supporting each other
Take care
Lynne Xx
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@Angel1309 @Jeff007 I agree with both of you that you can’t replace your soulmate. I believe that you only have one soulmate in you lifetime that is the half of you that completes you and makes you whole. The heart wants what the heart wants. My heart wants my Tony and always will. xx
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bless you take care x
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We all have to carry on and hope things will get better. I am going for a walk this morning even though I don’t really want to. I know I will feel better if I do something but it does feel so hard. My husband loved walking so I feel like I should. I think getting some fresh air will help. Love to you all.xx
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You are so right Billie - I go out every morning even if I don’t feel like it and I always benefit especially if you can find some green spaces. My hubby and I used to walk our dog which I sadly had to rehome with a close friend - heartbreaking. My bereavement counselling advised making an effort to speak to people you meet - even if it’s just a smile it does help. Xx
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