Its so true. No-one can replace your life partner. I lost my husband after 54 years of marriage and although i have family nearby when im on my own the loneliness engulfs you. Ive been on my own for 2 days now after a nice christmas, but still feel lost when i come home on my own. Dont know how to move forward. Thinking of you and sending best wishes and hugs. Debbie
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I fully understand how you are feeling. I spent Christmas morning on my own, but went to my brothers and sister in law’s for dinner and spent an hour with my late husbands brother and sister in law on the evening. I just get exhausted trying to pretend that I’m fine. I only sent cards to immediate family, but hate only having to write my name. Funny thing is, Tony wasn’t really a Christmas fan and I would have to badger him to open his presents, I even miss that. Sending you love and support
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I lost my soulmate in October. Its the most unimaginable pain. I to am on sleeping tablets antidepressants and suffer panic attacks. I feel lost without her by my side. You are not alone
A weekend trip would be fantastic with people who completely understand and will support each other x Diane
So true - no one can replace our soulmate X
As you say they can’t be replaced . And you can’t replace a ( sole mate ) only my opinion mind !! but when I hear term my second wife I don’t think the heart was in it the first time . I lost the love of my life and she will never be replaced by wife 2 !! All the best
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Hi @ lost 13 Diane
I’m sure it would be good to meet up eith others like ourselves who have lost someone special Sometimes we just need to chat to others who are going through the same thing about anything in general.
We can never replace them nor would we want to but talking to others does seem to help temporarily in supporting each other
Take care
Lynne Xx
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@Angel1309 @Jeff007 I agree with both of you that you can’t replace your soulmate. I believe that you only have one soulmate in you lifetime that is the half of you that completes you and makes you whole. The heart wants what the heart wants. My heart wants my Tony and always will. xx
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bless you take care x
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We all have to carry on and hope things will get better. I am going for a walk this morning even though I don’t really want to. I know I will feel better if I do something but it does feel so hard. My husband loved walking so I feel like I should. I think getting some fresh air will help. Love to you all.xx
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You are so right Billie - I go out every morning even if I don’t feel like it and I always benefit especially if you can find some green spaces. My hubby and I used to walk our dog which I sadly had to rehome with a close friend - heartbreaking. My bereavement counselling advised making an effort to speak to people you meet - even if it’s just a smile it does help. Xx
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Hi Lynne, thank you for replying. From my own perspective, I have found it really helpful speaking to others who have lost their soulmate. Not to be morbid, just to know someone understands and won’t just churn out inane thoughts xx Diane
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Hi Lyn
Like you I am trying to make a new life for myself and it is so hard. I have made some new friends and doing some volunteer work at Kiplin Hall. I also go to Zumba and out for coffee/lunch with friends. My daughters have been wonderful and we go dancing and visit places on my bucket list. But, it is not enough.
I just crave company and experiences. It’s as if I am constantly trying to fill this big hole in my heart. I want to travel and experience life which is hard on my own. What people don’t realise is that it is so exhausting making new friends and making events happen in your new life.
Take care Lyn
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Hi @ Lyn2507
We all find it hard to make new friends do new things travel etc. We are so used of travelling as a couple and most people we meet on holidays are couples.
Their are solo holidays but these can be expensive as usually supplements apply.
However i am determined to go on holiday on my own it will be hard but i am sure there are other people too who are doing the same.
I plan travelling to ireland next year and see how i cope.
Take care
Lynne
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Hi well I’m off to Vietnam for 3 weeks in March and the national parks in the USA in May . And as much as I am looking forward to it I am still filled with a little trepidation . It is with a group . I obviously don’t know if they will all be couples but hay ho . I have said my wife and I planned to go there so I’m doing it for both of us . Time stalks us all !! so go do it is what I say what ever that my be bless you all
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Hi @Jeff007
Need to let me know about your trip to Vietnam as one of my places to visit on list.
Take care
Lynne
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My dear wife would have applauded you sentiments as do I . Some days the grief I feel Is quite debilitating then I hear her say come on Jeff chin up . So that’s why I push on as best I can at the moment in the hopes it will ease . All the best in what you decide to do with your new future x
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Will do it’s a beautifully country . We only ever heard about it when the yanks where blowing the hell out of it !!
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Im hoping to go away next year, but dont really want to go without my beloved Lesley. We had some fantastic holidays together. I don’t want this new norm x
I think we all agree about the new norm . It’s not what any of us wanted . But it is now a fact of life . The saying what doesn’t kill us makes us stronger . I truly hope that is true for us all !! X