Thank you for your kind words . And I wish you the same X
@Misprint same here. Had the 4 year anniversary on 20th & then the 5th Christmas without Derek & it doesn’t get any easier. As much as it’s been wonderful to see our young grandson it also breaks my heart that he never met his grandad. I spent Christmas Day with my Mum as we always did, but she has been diagnosed with dementia & it’s been so hard trying to be happy. Making memories with Mum is important but she doesn’t remember it’s Christmas. She often asks where Derek is as she forgets he’s passed away & that’s so difficult too. But Derek loved Christmas & I do try and enjoy it for him but it’ll never be the same 
Take care & sending love & strength x
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Sending that back to you 2 fold x
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Hi . Thank you for your reply. I have found getting through Christmas very hard, but the love from my family helped tremendously. I am so blessed to have such a beautiful family and my family are all grieving together at the loss of a wonderful husband/ father and granddad. I am determined that in the New Year I will book a holiday, but need to get through memorial dates first.
Take care everyone.
I am so sorry for you loss and the pain you are going through. This site gives us to platform to reach out to others . I hope your pain eases after the Christmas. x x
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Hi Lynn. It is really hard. I have been trying to get out for a walk everyday but the weather doesn’t help. I am hoping once we get through Christmas things will get a little easier but the pain can come out of nowhere and really floor me. Sending all my love to all of you out there. We will get through this. Xxx
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I feel for you . I have also experienced this lack of caring when I would be the exact opposite. Don’t loose heart there are caring people out there . It’s so sad that at times of great need we are forced to go it alone . I wish you strength to get through the worst days and that there will be other days of respite for you . Xx
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Thank you for sharing. It is so hard during holidays. I booked a cruise as I couldn’t stay home and somehow Christmas i managed to block it out as it wasn’t like a family gathering, however yesterday broke me completely. I couldn’t get out of bed let alone the room. Ive cried so much devastated, thinking how happy and in love we were a year ago, making plans and feeling blessed and how cruel and devastating 2023 has been
So difficult to know what to do or how yo start healing. Just take solace knowing my soulmate is no longer suffering
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Hi EtiM,
I think sometimes it is better to cry and get things out rather than bottle it up. The start of a New Year is really hard. Please take care of yourself and I hope you have a better day. Xx
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We said goodbye to cruel and devastating 2023 now entering, hopefully peaceful and positive 2024 for everyone X
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Yes hope we can all move on if only a few steps at a time . My thoughts are with all you for 24 X
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It’s a very difficult time for us all . I wish you can all get through today . Xx
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Thank you @Billie7
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8 months? Try 42 months! Sorry for your loss and I’m afraid it doesn’t get much better. I don’t know what the answer is, if there is one. I am getting on with my life, but I can’t say it’s great, just manageable.
That’s the price I have to pay for 57 years of happiness. I am grateful for those, but it doesn’t make it easier.
Hope everyone else is managing to make a life.
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I know how you feel. My husband and i were on a cruise last year and this yeaŕ he is not here. I knew he wasnt well but things got worse and he died on his birthday 25th September. I feel lost and alone and remember last year. We loved our cruises but wont be anymore now. Got through Christmas day with family, but since then and new year have felt very upset and sad, hope 2024 will help to start healing but dont know how. Love and best wishes to you. Debbie x
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I hear you . Year 2 for me . The first year I was in such a mess I didn’t know any different . Year 2 has been bloody awful . I was dreading Christmas as I lost my darling girl a week before . Then the new year . I hope it will get better for all of us . Bless you all f
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Thank you Sarlyn. Of course I want it to get better! You are right though, and I think perhaps I painted a picture that is blacker than it actually is.
I have made new friends, I have a new hobby and I go out. I never have been a person who likes clubs so I have drawn the line at that.
I think what I was trying to say is that, for some people, however much you try and whatever you do, there will always be that cloud that stops you being really happy.
However you are handling grief, for me, I will never be happy without my husband. That’s how it is, but if it isn’t the same for you, then I am pleased for you.
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Hi Sarlyn,
I am 4 months in so know it is early days but I hope things do get better. My husband was 44 when he passed from a brain tumour and I still feel very angry but I know he would want me to be happy it is just really hard at the moment. All we can do is keep trying. Love and hugs.
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I hope very much but don’t believe it will get better anytime soon or ever!
I am trying to manage the best I can everyday to accept the new normal getting on with day to day things while constantly grieving deeply inside.
It’s devastatingly sad but there’s no other way. I will cherish the memories we shared throughout our 37 happy years together for the rest of my life 
The price of happiness- that’s so true! I can’t imagine how devastating it must be for you - 57 years of happiness, I am so sorry for your loss and hope 2024 brings you peace and comfort.
Take care everyone X
Thank you Jeff. I am so sorry fo your loss. I always think, rightly or wrongly, that it is worse for a man to lose his wife than it is for a woman to lose her husband. In all the people I have known who have lost partners, the women cope, the men not so much. I think women are born copers. Not fair, I know.
That said, it’s thanks to my wonderful husband that I am able to live some sort of a life. I was quite weak and useless when we met, then he taught me how to be strong and I bless him for that.
It’s a new year (as if we didn’t know!) and time to take stock. We can either go up or down and I know that I am tryng to go up. I hope you all can do the same.
Thanks for all the support I have had/am having from loads of people on here. I don’t know how we would all manage without each other.
Bless you all x
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