Twenty weeks today,I really hate Sundays now,trying to avoid looking at the clock,hoping the phone doesn’t ring.
I am struggling trying to adapt to my new life,I do try to soldier on but feel my life is on a giant elastic band,I take a few steps forward and then it pulls me back.
Hope everyone has a good a day as possible.
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I was wondering who would start the Sunday thread. What is it about Sundays? 15 months for me and I have loathed every single one of them. My neighbour has been widowed for 7 years and she volunteers on a Sunday as she also finds them difficult. If we are lucky this thread will go the way of last week which made the day bearable.
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Morning all. I find Sundays usually the same as every day but this week will be quite lonely as my daughter will be working all day in her new weekend job. I’m going to have to find something to do as like you Ron I am finding it hard to adapt to this new life, but feel quite stuck as I feel I am limited to what changes I can make as I still need to be here for my daughter who is still at school.
Just to lower the tone ( sorry ) , as I was writing this my dog just farted so hard she jumped up out her bed in surprise. 
Did make me smile 
Hope everyone’s day is as good as can be xx
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Only 4 weeks without my paul. Sunday was our day together. We always did something, a trip out to the coast or the garden center. A pub lunch or a walk along the river. I feel so alone today. I know s friend will be round later as they take it in turns to make sure im not on my own but my heart yearns for my hand in his. Here come the tears again. I cant see a way forward without him
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Morning Ron, like you I don’t like Sundays. Our Daughter is going away today for a week so will miss seeing her. I have so many things I should be doing I really should give myself a good shake and get started. Hope you have the best day you can.
Love Jane
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I lost my Sandie on a Sunday…a surprising number of us seem to lose thier person on a Sunday…
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I was like that. I made a list and just made sure I did one thing. Didn’t matter how small. I am a great advocate for lists.
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Did she jump or was she jet propelled?
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Hello,
28 weeks today.
What can I say?
You all understand.
How I wish he was still here.
I will probably go out later but it isn’t the same by myself.
I went out by myself earlier in the week and I suddenly thought that it is
starting to feel familiar. My next thought was ‘What a sad realisation’.
Perhaps, I should think of it as a positive step, I don’t know.
I will be lighting candles later.
Sending love and hugs to all of you 
xx
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A bit of both I think 
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@Rosiejack Sunday was our day for planning the next weeks meals, Ray had a spreadsheet of what was in the freezers and we would choose what to use as a base for our meals that we cooked from scratch. He would be horrified at me eating ready meals. Are you going back to work on a phased return or jumping straight back in? I will be thinking of you.
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This morning I sat down with a coffee and a notebook and pen.(I know old school)
On the left I wrote what’s happened,on the right my plans,
On the left I wrote,my beautiful wife passed,she’s not coming back,family and friends have gone back to their lives,I now feel irrelevant.
On the right still blank and I think it will remain so.
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We were spreadsheet mad. I still maintain them. Investments. House accounts. Freezers what is where. CDs. DVDs. Meal plan. As my carers cook for me I need the meal plan to make sure the meat is taken out if the freezer and defrosted.
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Thank you,yes I did I am seasoning them in the shed.
I am going to make an attempt to try and cook something,don’t know what yet.
But the intention is there.
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My Figen died at 1 pm on Sunday two weeks ago, and I feel like a fish out of water without her. I used to tell her I loved her every morning and every night and thanked her for being with me. She used to say …but what can I do? I told her …you are my reason for living you give me purpose.
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I think we all associate weekends with family/partner’s time, especially if both of you worked during the week. It was together time. My husband died on a Saturday so I have now had to reframe the weekends to ‘my time’. I am still working so it’s a time to catch up on housework, shopping, friends, etc and for me football. For a long, long time I felt so alone and lonely at weekends but I have slowly adjusted as I tell myself it’s me time. The more you tell yourself something over and over the more the mind believes it. I have stopped focusing on anniversaries, birthdays, death day, etc because to me personally there was no point in making myself sad, anxious and miserable. I can’t change what has happened or bring him back. I find little things to do and look forward to and I find that helps me. I hope you all find a little joy today in whatever you do
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I am planning to make a (or should I say heat up) a beef hotpot for tea, I know I must eat even when I don’t want to. I am just walking around the apartment looking for things to do.
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Talk to your Sue Ryder friends
Rose x
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Hi Nuggets
I noticed your profile photo, I am an Arsenal supporter too 
I will be watching our game with Spurs at 2pm so there is something to look forward to
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I grew up round the corner from the old arsenal stadium. Didn’t have to go to the match to know the score. One of my school mates married a player. I’m afraid my family support the O’s. Leyton orient. Went to a few arsenal matches through the school boys entrance but couldn’t run up and down alongside the pitch like you could at orient.
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