Just believe in yourself. All problems can be overcome somehow. It is just very early for you.
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I lit this candle for other much missed loved ones.
Please view this lit candle as a way to remember the loved ones you miss and mourn.
Sending love and hugs xxx
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Thankyou so much Rose
You are so kind
My heart is with you
Love and hugs
Liz x x
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Me too supported them all my life even though I live in Birmingham. I went to Turkey in June on a cruise, Atlayna, Bodrum and Marmaris it was 46c I was thinking god I couldn’t live here in this heat 
Thank you so much Rose
So kind and thoughtful as ever.
Love and hugs 
xx
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I never liked Sundays when I lived where there were a lot of Blue Laws. Moving out West helped, as there aren’t that many here. Now after my husband dying, I hate Sundays again .I lose whatever equilibrium I had tried to gain from the week’s structure. When life seems totally empty, any decrease in a day’s structure can hit hard. TY for listening.
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Hi Hollyrose.
Most people in the uk don’t know what blue laws are,having spent a good while in the US I am aware of them,welcome to the pain pad.
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Sunday has become my archenemy too. Getting close to the four month mark the absence keeps growing. We used to have a ritual of playing oldies music in you tube in the living room large screen, ordering take out to relax and then spend time in our backyard which was our sanctuary. I don’t even spend time in the yard anymore as his absence is too much. Friends and family are too busy with their lives and the day becomes a heavy burden to carry. It’s the Sunday Club we don’t want to join but a membership we have been forced to accept…
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Thank you Rose your thoughtfulness is appreciated.
I hope it brings some comfort xx
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I hope it brings you some comfort xx
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You are welcome.
I hope it brings some comfort xx
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Ron, try and think of one simple thing that you can put on the empty side and aim to achieve that this week
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Thank you Rose. 
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You are welcome.
I hope it brings some comfort xx
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@Rosiejack, I only found this site yesterday and your words and many others here have given me the push to register and post. I am so sorry for your loss, I understand completely how you feel, I lost my wife and partner of 27 years to cancer in July after a short battle. She was 54, I’m 57. Life now changed irreparably for us all on this forum, the future not what we expected. I too had to take time of work and am starting back at work a week tomorrow after 14 weeks off sick. I’m hoping that it gives me structure and routine and most importantly a distraction from the ongoing pain, as much like yourself my brain keeps going over and over the horrible events of what happened in just a short period of time. I wish you all the best with going back to work. Please be kind to your self, I will be thinking of you.
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Hi Rosiejack, thank you. I’ve also decided not to talk about what has happened with work colleagues. It will be too triggering and I know I’ll get emotional and probably cry and I don’t think that would be a good idea. We’ll stick to talking about the usual stuff like football and the weather. I don’t really have many friends outside of work as I was in the forces for 12 years and then moved around before coming back to Southampton 2 years ago. I do have a sister and brother in law who are really supportive though. My wife really liked this part of the country, she was from Colchester and we met in London when we both lived there. She also loved our little house, everything is the same as it was before she went into hospital, I can’t bear to change anything, I know I will do one day but that’s going to be further down the line on this unwanted rollercoaster that we’re all on. Take care.
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Oh, sorry about that, and glad to hear of your U S. connection. Blue Laws require stores to be shut on Sundays or offer little for sale, with the rest of the aisles taped off. As a result, Sundays tended to be dull. I lived in a city where the Blue Laws extended to the radio stations (back in the old days of radio), and only religious music could be played, and downer hymns at that.
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I don’t, and never have gone out much on Sundays, it was a day that we spent doing g family stuff. Since my husband died my son has been very supportive, taking me and his younger sister out. Today he took us out for breakfast. I was amazed to see how many shops were open, even the outdoor market and charity shops were open. All the cafes and restaurants had tables outside. It looked like a busy Saturday. The last time I went out on a Sunday everything was closed apart from garden centres.
Xx
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