Except me, that’s probably because the internet ? The internet has done a lot of damage to society. Pandora’s box, but too late now, we opened it. Internet police have removed two of my post, even though they were truthful well I thought they was to reality. It’s like at the birth of the internet people were given special internet glasses, but on them was a warning tag. By wearing these you agree to the terms - may warp and change the fabrications of time and reality. Things will never be the same again, opinions and honesty are void in cyberspace.
I had a old memory while washing the pots, when I was a child. All these memory’s keep coming from time to time. I had to take of washing gloves to wipe eyes.
That’s why the past is magic, we had more freedom to communicate, music was far superior, same with films that captured the heart and mind and left you giddy with excitement.
Who wanted a hoverboard as a kid ? gaming was more fun easy to get into and easy to put down.
We wasn’t ruled by stupid laws!
Police was approachable and more friendlier!
I didn’t but you could send a Valentine card to a someone you liked or send a letter. It wasn’t a crime back then, and we did it because there’s was nothing wrong with it.
Recently I had the Jehovah Witnesses usually people don’t answer the door to them. My mum like don’t the answer the door, we won’t be able to get rid of them. I remember the past and I wasn’t religious, I’m not sure now what I am. I do believe religion plays a bigger part now then it used to be. They gave me a leaflet that I did read and on that leaflet was who really controls the world ?
God ?
Hamankind ?
Someone Else ?
If I’m truly honest it’s someone else!
If we knew back as kids what life would be as adults, we would of chose to die as kids. No one would want to live in today’s world, only a fool!
Chose to die as kids?
You have blinkers on? You only comment about a few bad things in the world… The Internet is amazing… A click away you have all the information you could possible want or need… A click away you’re connected to a, relative thousands of miles away instead if bk in the day sending a letter once or twice a year… Now you can face time everyday. Mobile phones are a godsend all these things makes life so much easier. You’re ill and can’t get out… A click on Amazon and the same day you get what you need. I’ve seen some great movies in recent years… I’ve heard some amazing songs… You seem to want to focus on all the negative and ignore some of the amazing things we have… Cancer treatment I’ve had a few people I know survive when bk in the day they wouldn’t have… Mental health is so much easier to get help… Without the Internet Sue Ryder wouldn’t have been here for us to connect… So no I’m no fool for wanted to live in this world today.
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@Brokenhearted2022 I know what you are saying I lost my Sue after 43 years. The last ten years she was wheelchair bound. The first time I saw her she was on a dance floor, and took my breath away. I lost her 15 Jan 2023 after a long illness. Since then I have meet two woman they both ended it by telling me to get over it, Sue is gone. Now I realise and accept the fact that I will be alone untill the end. Sometimes I wish I had no family and granchildren and let this pain end. But I could never put them through this pain. Its so hard living in an empty house and wearing a mask when family arrive… take care Dave
I lost my husband after 41 years of marraige and knew him all my life. My family moved away but we visited his family twice a year and when I left home to do nurse training he was doing evening classes nearby and we met up.
I can never replace him and don’t want to but I think I could make a new friend to continue life with. Have to be at my pace. If the women didn’t understand then they were not right for you. So don’t give up. There’s only one Sue but that doesn’t mean you cannot make a new friend.
@Cooki I have enough friends, my best friend and two of my sisters told me I am turning our house into a shrine my Sue’s ashes are in the living room with a lit candle. I worked hard to build this house for us, and I can imagine her in every room i can still smell her, and hear her call my name. Its my imagination because I dont believe in heaven. After death it is just a void of forgetfulness. To think once I die all this love and pain of life will be forgotten forever like we never existed. Now thats sad. What I feel inside is private lol. … I tell you because we will never meet. I do hope you find what you need. Thank you Dave.
@Cooki hi again I just re-read my last reply to you. It sounded a little abrupt and rude, sorry I did not mean to be. I just have so many things in my head. Sorry Dave.
Hi. Hope I can give a little perspective from my own experience. I lost my husband 13 years ago, I was obviously devastated, and incredibly lonely much of the time. After a year I couldn’t bear it any longer, started dating, I was 53. I don’t even know what I wanted, just company maybe, I don’t know. But in 12 years I had one unsuccessful ‘relationship’ after another. I even settled for unfulfilling physical relationships. I gave up eventually, thought I would manage on my own - no relationship is better than a bad one. Then a year and a half ago I met a wonderful man, genuine, kind, caring, and we developed a close loving bond in quite a short time. I am on here because in October I lost my beautiful daughter which has pretty much broken me. But I do believe Doug was sent to me from above somehow, the timing, cannot have been a coincidence. This man has been by my side throughout all, my daughter’s illness, trips to hospital, hospice, helping out with whatever he can. My daughter was amazed that this lovely man was so devoted to me, and everything he did for her, she loved him for it. Doug was widowed too, 9 years after me, so we had that in common, which helped. Divorced men will likely have ‘baggage’, inevitably, possibly bringing issues into future relationships (especially an ex or ex’s, with some not quite as ex as they should be), but sometimes things do work out. My poor Doug, after all his support, and everything we have been through, has ended up in hospital after a fall from the ladder whilst doing something for me. He sustained fractures, but he is slowly in the mend and will be discharged soon. My point is, there will be someone right for you, and you will know it when they come.