Hello after two good nights sleep and no anxiety had an iffy night and anxiety is back this morning. Missing Chris and wish he was here with me sensed his presence near and yet so far away . Going to Kirby Lonsdale tomorrow for a long weekend then coming back to Seascale on Monday Take care x
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Two good nights Shirley, think whoād thought we could even have one a few weeks back. I hope the sunshine this weekend for you. I go to Derbyshire on a walking holiday for a week on Saturday and feeling a bit iffy about that.
Take care x
Your right Griff a few months back if we had 3 or 4 hours sleep we thought we were lucky. Enjoy your walking holiday and I hope the company is good. These baby steps feel like giant leaps into the unknown sometimes donāt they? Going to get up and face the day head on and go with my friend when she takes her dogs out for their morning walk x
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Two good nights with anxiety is a step in the right direction. Iām finding I have some better moments and my sleep is improving. As Griff says we wouldnāt have thought these things possible only a little while ago. I find I sometimes feel like its a kind of betrayal to have some peace from holding my girl in my mind 24/7. Our āfeelingsā tell us one thing, our head another and our heart something else. We are pulled in more than one direction. Iām trying to tell myself what I would say to a friend in grief - you deserve some peace and itās ok to let yourself enjoy it. It will help you and those around you who care about you. Hope you have an overall peaceful break, you deserve it. Hugs xxx
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Thank you for your comments another early morning wake up. I go off to sleep ok and sleep deeply but am wide awake at 5am and cannot settle back off to sleep. Anxiety kicks in and itād hard to pinpoint the triggers. I 'm stopping with a friend so Iām not alone, missing Chris and being away seems to have brought those feelings to the fore these last couple of days. We go away for 3 days today so fingers crossed the anxiety will subside and I sleep through. Any tips to help break this sleep pattern would be gratefully recieved xx
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Meditation is good I thinkā¦ Like deep breathing etc. Good luck
Thank you Rachel and welcome I hope you find support ,empathy and friendship on here as we all have as we walk this path together. Meditation and deep breathing has helped but there are times when that doesnāt work particularly when the body says sleep and the brain says no way. At home I get up and walk around or move into another room but itās not so easy in someone elseās houseā¦ Take care and please keep posting x
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Thank you Shirley
Shirley, I have the same problem as you, sometimes I start dropping off in front of the TV but when I go to bed, I sleep a little and if Iām lucky I suddenly wake up at 5am and thatās it. But more often than not, I wake up at 3am or 4am after just 3/4 hrs sleep. I find that when I have many nights like this consecutively, I finally achieve a seven-hour night of sleep(like last night) . I even take some anxiety drops sometimes, but donāt always work. Iām sorry I donāt have any successful remedies as Iām in a mess myself, the only thing I can suggest is not to go to bed too late (not later than 11) and I ve also come to realise that if Iāve had a hectic day I just canāt seem to relax and calm down.
I hope others here may have more advice or suggestions.
Take care.
Thinking of you today enjoy your holiday ,hope the company is good and try and relax xx
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Thank youSolost. Relaxing both body and mind is the hardest partā¦ Take care x
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Thank Shirley Iām feeling nervous, Iām with 3 other friends and being in company and a strange place is like you said not so easy when we wake up early.
Shirley have you tried reading a book when you wake up early. I found it helped me after I thought about my day look at what I wrote down to do then read a book, I also do wordle on my phone and visit this site . If I occupy my mind I find the physical symptoms of anxiety go away quicker (except the tiredness).
Iām taking a flask to make a tea at night to take to my room so if I wake I wonāt disturb anyone making a drink. I hope you can enjoy yourself Shirley the weather looks good for us. Take care xx
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Good morning Griff. Like you I donāt want to disturb others my concentration is not good these days so I come on here and I write to Chris about how I feel and my day etc. Being with people who know you will help this week so enjoy the scenary and the walks xx
Thanks Shirley same to you x
Hi Shirley
I have always read my book for half an hour or so before trying to go sleep. It used to work all the time and I would sleep straight away. Now it takes me ages to get to sleep and I wake up at 3 or 4 o clock and then fall back asleep but not properly waking up every half an hour or so. I started taking sertraline for my anxiety a few weeks ago so I think they have had an effect on my sleep pattern as well as everything else. If I donāt fall asleep in an hour or so I read some more. Sometimes it works sometimes it doesnāt.
Take care and hope your sleep improves soon xx
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Thank you Barbara. I hope you see an improvement in your sleep pattern soon too. Iām hoping that when I go down to my sonās next week that I sleep better and longer Iāve decided to buy a smaller double and decorate my bedroom hopefully that will help particularly when I wake up in the early hours and the bed feels so big and empty. Sleep well x
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A better night went off to.sleep ok woke just after 3 but managed to settle myself back off and slept till after 6am wobbles are back always worse in the morning but ease off as the day goes on. Sundays are the worst but then Iām not saying anything you donāt know already .Enjoy your walk Griff and make the most of whatās left of the weekend Barbara and take care all you fellow travellers on this rocky road x
Hi Shirley
I had a bit better night too. Took me about an hour and half of tossing and turning before I got to sleep but I didnāt wake up as often. Like you mornings are awful especially if you have nothing planned as you just have the thought of the whole day ahead of you alone. Hope your day is ok xx
Agree the days feel long if youāve nothing planned Iāve gone back to volunteering in our local musuem at weekends knowing I 'll be busy and have company helps pass the afternoon and the evening then feels less daunting. Taking steps out into this new world takes time and a lot of confidence but we will get there and make new memories all be it in a different setting. Enjoy your day too Barbara x
Itās nearly 3am and Iām awake travelling to my sonās tdy from my friendās in the Lake District. Axious and missing Chris the last time we were up in the Lakes was one of the last holidays we had before his health started to breakdown. I wish he was here to share it with me. Sleep evades me and I really donāt fancy that train journey today Take care all of you x
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