Hi Shirley - I know what you mean about crying. I find that I can cry when someone (anyone) is with me, but when I’m in my own I can’t cry. They just don’t come. Maybe subconsciously it feels ok and safer to cry in company. I’m not sure the reason why. Sending you hugs xxx
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Hi so i had my hospital appointment today and i was a nerbous ball of energy. I knew it would be a operation id just didnt want to hear the words. Then had to go for a xray and whoa i was so glad my daughter was with me she had to help me breathe and follow the shape of the door as i did so . I eas getting angry at first as my anxiety was taking over but she spoke in a firm voice and calmed me. Had my xray and the guy realised i onv had issues and he was brilliant. Glad thats over but got to go back on fri for pre op which makes my bp rise and i know il
Be panicky. Also have anxiety lady ringing me which id rather it was face to face . I hate anxiety it sucks 
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I hate anxiety too . I’m back home the house is empty and quiet and I’ve had abt 4 hours sleep I’ve screamed ,cried and writen but nothing seemed to help calm me down so am sat in the living room writing this in the hope that it will relax me enough to doze for an hour. Take care xx
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I also put candles on and iv been listening to podcasts . I find it helps but not to the level
I want to be at. That makes me feel
Naff but little steps. I dont slp properly either. Have a pj day and curl up under a blanket and binge watch tv just because you can . Xx
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Hi Jak/ Shirley - am currently reading Anxiety relief by John Crawford. He suffered with severe anxiety for ten years. He has learned to cope with the anxiety and lives a full life. I am on chapter three. The first two chapters explain the brain and why we are the way we are. As the book goes on it will show how a therapist helped him and how he has helped himself. He is no a qualified counsellor in anxiety and has been for the last twenty years. You can buy from Amazon. I have a two fold problem anxiety and bereavement both feeding each other. I am hoping I can get a handle on the anxiety I’ll let you know how I get on. We will have to support each other with how we get on with our anxiety. My counsellor said look at it this way. Hi anxiety old friend your here again. I don’t need you today as I am not in a scary situation I’m sat in my living room and I am safe. I seem to get anxious in normal situations. This is because I am hyper vigilant and living my life as such due to all the sad things that have happened We need to learn again to be calm I’ll keep you updated on progress. I will still feel that pain and sadness of my grief but being less anxious may help me to cope better x
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That sums it up totally! I do find it crazy how the brain works xx
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Thank you. My anxiety is grief related too and I get the hyper vigilant bit as I cared for Chris through lockdown and then up to his death last November here at home. The edginess is the hardest pattern to break and it the one that comes out of nowhere and when you least expect it. Well I’m going to get my coat on and take myself out for a walk and then catch up with my cousin for a cuppa and chat . Take care x
Yes I have. It’s been 6 months since my mum passed. Went to the doctors in July and they put me on antidepressants. Had to go back to docs yesterday as my anxiety has gone off the scale. He upped my tablets and he gave me the number of my local mental health team as I feel I need some counselling.
Look after yourself. Sending hugs xxxx
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Slept through the night woke about 5am and managed to get back off to sleep. Anxious now and unsettled it would have been Chris’s birthday tdy and am not sure how to mark it which isn’t helping me with dealing with those anxious thoughts. I’m going to my son’s in Paris tomorrow catching the train from here to London then Eurostar so it’s all a bit daunting to say the least. Today is not going to be a good day so a walk and fresh air might be the order of the day x
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Hi Shirley,
Thinking of you today.X
Thank you. It’s been a strange day Have now got to change at Crewe and Eurostar have informed me that there’s a National rail strike in France tomorrow but Eurostar are running as normal. Took flowers up to the Breakwater park and scattered them into the lake and into the rushes . Perhaps he’s trying to tell me something . Will wait to see if there are anymore updates before making any decisions re travelling tomorrow . X
How are you Sarah?
I was just the same with anxiety,I’m fact I am still suffering quite badly from time to time.
I’m taking antidepressants and they are helping especially with my sleep.Please let me know how you are getting on.It’s such a terribly sad and lonely time for all of us.
I’m sending love and support your way,take care.xx
Anxiety is bad tonight not looking forward to today’s journey to Paris will be alright once I’m.there and my son has met me off the train but it’s the anxious feelings about what could go wrong that go around and around in my head and won’t let me relax and rest. I just wish Chris was here and it would all be ok
Well I got to Paris ok had a good weekend and then whamm bang I tested positive for Covid this morning. All I can think of is I caught itnon the journey over here. Now in isolation as per ftench covid rules. That’s my holiday up the swanney. Anxiety levels are not good at this present moment Take care
My wife passed on the 10/09. I think I might have anxiety but not sure. I have constant chest pain, feel sick, not eating and not sleeping. I managed to get some sleep when I take a sleeping tablet, still it’s not much! Is this normal?
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It is absolutely normal and grief and shock. I’m sorry to hear of your loss anytime you need to ‘chat’ we are here and I have found it comforting to know what I feel is what everyone else feels to all to different degrees.
It’s a complete change to our lives and not one we would choose we learn to adjust and live a different life knowing our loved ones are proud of us.
Take care Deano
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Oh Shirley what an awful thing to have happened on your holiday. Hope you are not too poorly with Covid and you get through your isolation ok.
It’s not surprising your anxiety is bad.
Mine was bad this morning as yesterday there was a dead rat outside the front of my house and today there was another one in the same place. I couldn’t deal with it but my lovely neighbours did.
Take care xx
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Bless you…What you are feeling is normal…I would ask for the chest pains to be checked out though.
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Thank you Barbara
I’m feeling a bit rough it’s like having a really bad head cold the coughing is worse at night. I’ve woken up anxious this morning after a strange dream about Chris’s daughter and it has unsettled me. I think I would panic too if I found a rat on my doorstep too. Take care Barbara xxx
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Bless you Deano .it’s hard going somerimes and it’s early days for you. Have a chat with your GP about the chest pains and whether they can give you something to help with the anxiety. It’s perfectly normal to feel the way you do. Keep posting on here there’s always someone around to offer support and a friendly word or two xx
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