@Bluecatmum77 that is awful, there is nothing worse than heaping more troubles on someone who is already struggling.
If you use online or mobile banking you can set it up so that you get a message or notification on every single transaction. Whilst it is possible these fraudsters can “work around” this, I do find a level of reassurance that my phone will ping on every transaction and hope this will ensure I can stop any fraudulent transactions very quickly.
I hope you have a better day today
That’s hassle none of us need.
A friend of mine has just been scammed by making an enquiry to Mind My Bills website looking for cheaper energy deal. They managed to set up a DD and signed her up to a Green Energy Company , even though she never gave them bank details they got them somehow. SCARY beware all.
Yes Comfortably Numb is good , I seem to be in that state mostly now, and wander round supermarkets buying stuff I don’t need and forgetting things I do need .
I got call up for Covid jabs yesterday Start no 1 on Sunday I’m pleased but sad it came too late to save my Venetia .
Take care all, stay safe , and muddle on somehow xx
Urgh @Bluecatmum77 there really are scumbags and no fairness in the world. This is no picnic for sure.
One of the companies I phoned (cant remember which one) told me that being scammed comes with the territory of losing your other half as they sell lists of the dead in the criminal underworld… the unwanted gift that keeps on giving.
I am at least glad the bank was decent about it, phew. Sending a hug x
Dear all
I have been inundated with attempted scams since losing my husband - three attempts yesterday with one at 10.20 at night. Shocking low lifes.
I had one midnight recently. That late night ones are from overseas when they don’t realise the time difference.
As you say praying on the vulnerable lowlife scum.
No one hardy calls my landline theses days so I’ve unplugged it.
At least with mobile I can block that caller.
its horrid.
Oh god aswell as emotional pain i have got severe abdominal pains. Don’t know what to do when on my own…its so lonely with no one and don’t want to call someone out of their life to come.
Call 111 you have emotional pain where that has to be self healing if that is possable but physical pain can be sorted with a doctor. I watch the messages and realise we are lamb’s to the slaughter with low life scams pain each second with bereavement and the challenge of carrying on when you do not want to. I can’t know the pain you are in as we are all in our own nightmare but all I can say is one day at a time and that is easier said than done with love to you all
Ron
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@FleurDeLis
Definitely call 111 if you have abdominal pain.
If it turns out to be nithing serious, then so what?
We all have to start putting ourselves first.
I know its hard to do, but noone else is going go do it for us. Xx
Keep us posted. Let us know you are ok. Xx
thanks a lot. I hadnt thought of 111 . It is getting a bit less so hopefully be ok xx
I lost my husband 15 days ago. My heart shattered the day I lost him but each day I try to grow stronger. I cry, I cry some more but then sometimes I stop.
Im so sorry for your loss x
@Misty1972 I know your pain , we all hear about grief and mourning but until it hits you . I lost my wife on November 22 nd to Covid . We too had plans to travel and a bucket list still to do but all that’s gone now.
I’m empty and numb and feel permanently sick.
I hope you find the inner strength to keep going as best you can. Theses are unprecedented times and when we all need help unfortunately there’s little to be had out there. But this ,here, talking and sharing feelings and emotions has been good for me. I realise I’m not alone and some have been given good advice which has helped.
I’m truly deeply sorry for your loss
Stay with us on this god awful journey and together we’ll help one another. We’ll never forget , just learn to cope somehow.
Mick x
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@Misty1972 and hello to the gang. X
I am so sorry for your loss.x
I lost my Husband on 15th November.
The first few weeks are a complete blur.
I cannot remember them.
The shock, the overwhelming grief. Disbelief.
Incapacitated to do the basic tasks.
House full of people.
Wanting to be on your own, but not alone.
I was at my lowest ebb when i posted on here for the first time.
Im so glad i did.
The support and words of comfort from people who are going through the same things has been a huge source of strength.
I cannot believe how many of us are going through the same heartache.
I put gang, because there are so many of us that are conversing.
Reach out to us all on here. Nothing you say will be judged. We are all nodding as we read.
Be kind to yourself.
There is no time limit as fo how long it takes.
When you want to sleep, sleep.
Cry when you need to cry.
If you need to scream at midnight, scream.
Just make sure you eat. Thats what i stopped doing. The weight has dropped off me, but im sure it will come back on again.
One night i couldnt sleep. Couldnt ring any friends/relatives, so I rang the Samaritans at 2am and they were wonderful.
Accept all avenues of help.
I know right now, you wont believe me when i tell you it does get easier.
But i promise you, it does.
Sending love and light to all. Xxx
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To all of you who are hurting these words may help. They are by Kahlil Gibran.
‘The ardours of the heart spread out like the branches of the cedar. If the love-tree loses a branch, it will certainly suffer, but it will not die as a result. Instead it will breathe all its vitality into the neighbouring branch which will grow larger to fill the empty place.’
i hope this helps. Love and light. x
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@Mickp @Bluecatmum77
Thank you both. I’ve only posted a few times on here but as you say, the support is amazing. It saddens me that so many of us are grieving but also gives me hope that we can get through.
For me its still raw. I’m still in shock.
Your words and advice mean so much and I just hope together, on here, we can all help each other heal just a little
Xx
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@Bluecatmum77 @Misty1972
Sound advice on the eating. I’ve lost 3 stones Although food isn’t still high on my list of priorities. I do now perhaps eat sensibly and try to have protein in my meals as I’m not good at eating too much fruit.
At least now thanks to all of you out there telling me it doesn’t work I’m buying more food and LESS alcohol. The Booze yourself to sleep phase has passed and I now wake up felling less depressed and Dr refuses to give me more sleeping tablets.
Finding it hard to shop for one .
Oh for a real hug ! But for now virtual hugs to you all.
And thanks and love
Mick x
thankyou for caring last night when I didn’t know what to do. Ron/Bluecat I did 111 online and it said to phone for ambulance but I really couldn’t stand that (just hearing ambulances or seeing them gives me panic now and takes me back to that day. I’d rather die). luckily overnight the pains subsided to a normal level and I slept. This morning feeling well enough to work from home enough to give the illusion I’m doing it though tired/weak at least now I can sort the cats out and cleanup a bit from last night.
Thanks again. That was hard last night I was screaming in agony but no one could hear me and I didnt feel like phoning for someone to come even though I should have… weird I know but hopefully I’m on the mend now.
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@FleurDeLis.
Thank you for checking in.
Probably wise to give G.P a call today. X
I hear you regarding ambulance sirens.
I go cold now whenever i hear them.
Flashbacks to doing CPR in the garden.
I know you just want to burrow away, but you need to get this sorted.
When you live alone its bloody hard when you get poorly.
You have to look after you more than ever.
Those furbabies need you. Xx
Take care. Xx
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Hello guys, the siren of an ambulance unsettles me as well, wish i could afford to install some soundproofed window, it turned out you can hear it even from the 15th floor…
It’s been almost a week since I started a new job…On the train heading back home now after work, all these commuters I see always make me think what’s the point of working and living without your loved ones. It’s so lonely everyday 
and there’s nothing to look forward to besides paying bills and not being a burden to my family.
It’s really awful…
Sending my daily hugs to you all.
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Hi Mickp
Your right. I also had two calls one to the landline claiming to be BT, the other to my mobile claiming to be HMRC. Luckily I igno
@Riley
You are not a burden!
Grief makes us think in ways we wouldnt normally think of. X
I know how you feel though.
You have to talk talk talk.
Even if it is the same thing, it helps the brain store whats happened.
If people tell you to change the subject, DONT.
Ask your GP about seeing a grief counsellor.
Phone the Samaritans.
You have to keep talking.
You havent lost your purse.
You have lost everything you ever knew.
I liken myself to a vase that has been dropped on the floor and im glueing myself back together piece by tiny piece.
Stay strong. Xx