Do antidepressants work I am doing counselling I am doing everything I can think of but I am still in such pain my face is sore from crying, I will try anything to ease this hell. I went to see my daughter and grand sons this weekend and loved the time, talked to my daughter and she said it was nice to see her dad back as I was not breaking down as I was doing over the phone, but when I got home I realised how empty my house and my soul is, getting fed up with these feelings so maybe the depressonts are my last hope. Do they work?
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My understanding is they take the edge of stuff. I do wonder with grief if they just suppress the emotions we need to work through. I have no personal experience of them myself though, esp with grief
Maybe speak with your GP
All the best
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I am wary of them thatās why I thought I would ask the question I know some people are taking them so I thought I would try to get some advice.
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Hello Ron
Iāve been on tablets for five weeks as I was a wreck when my Tim was taken into hospital and couldnāt sleep. I do find they help me go off to sleep and sleep within bad dreams for five hours or so.
Not sure how long I will need them but the GP is staying in touch with me and I tell her how Iām coping,
Hope this helps,
Julie
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Thankyou I think you have given me wise words. Very much my thoughts but I thought a GP can give you things to help but do they? I thought I would ask as I know there are fellow sufferers who are taking them.
Regards x x
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@Ron and hi gang.xx
I have been on anti depressants for years and they have been an enourmous help. To ME.
Anxiety and Manic Depression is in my family.
My lovely Dad suffered throughout his whole life. He didnt get help. Too proud.
Ended up being sectioned, so when i got poorly 10 years ago, i did something about it.
Go and see your G.P.
What works for me, may not work for others.
Some people swear by C.B.T.
Some people swear by mediation.
Everybody is different.
But please do not sit on this. Make sure you ring your GP.
They know what is best in a situation like this.xx
I HATE Sundays. 14 weeks today i lost him.
I always wake up Sunday morning with dread.
Was wide awake till gone 3am.
Today, i have been busy in the garden, housework and before i know it, its 6pm.
I am in a numb phase again wh8ch is fab.
I knowbits borrowed time.
Will be hubbys birthday on weds.
Just the thought of it is making me want to retreat to my bed.
I have got to be strong for him.
Wish him a happy birthday.
The next hurdle will be september, that would have been our 7th Wedding anniversary.
Hopefully i will be a bit stronger by then?
Sending hugs, love and light. Xx
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Listening thankyou.
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Hello Ron
My personal opinion is that anti-depressants numb you to feelings you need to experience and merely delay the inevitable.
Thatās just my opinion. You need to find what works for you x
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Thankyou I know the answer is not in the bottom of a
bottle, so I guess taking a pill is not the answer I needed to know if it helped anyone. as the GP is not taking them but they prescribe them, my thoughts are with the ones who take them, does it help?
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Or does it delay?
I know you are not doctors but if the ones who are taking the medication do they think it helps? Or delays or gives more problems does it help ease in the long run,??? I am asking before I will oproach aGP
I have had a bad week with a good weekend I am getting fed up with pain and numb family to me family is everythingā¦ I just miss my wife.
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Hello Ron,
When my husband died, I tried to deal with it myself. That didnāt work - I just cried all day and half the night. I told my GP and to my surprise, (and relief) she didnāt prescribe antidepressants. Instead she prescribed pills for anxiety, which is a different thing altogether. She also prescribed me a mild sleeping tablet.
These pills have helped me calm down, but still let me grieve, but in a less intrusive way. I do still need the pills though.
Hope this helps you to make up your mind. Hugs, AnnR x
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@Ron and gang. Xx
It really is a tricky topic of conversation. Xx
No right or wrong and we will all have our own opinions and beliefs. Xx
I have been on anti depressants for years, due to the horrific divorce i went through 10 years ago. Xx
For me, the dose has been increased by my GP and they are enabling me to function through an even worse time than my divorce.
Before you consider that route, please speak to your G.P.
They know what is best.
They will monitor you and advise you.
I didnt go on anti depressants until 3 years after my divorce.
I spent 3 years being the lowest i have ever been. I was utterly ravaged by anxiety and depression. My hair was falling out. I was underweight. I was very very mentally unwell.
Thats why you need to speak to a professional.
Maybe counselling is something to consider?
In the depths of despair, we reach out and search for a quick fix.
Amything to take away the pain. Heartache. Racing thoughts in our minds.
Im not on here to advocate anti depressants.
Im just saying, for ME, they have been a lifesaver.
Anti depressants didnt stop my hubby from taking an overdose.
Every person is different. Wouldnt it be a boring world if we all liked the same thing and acted the same?
We are individuals. Precious. Just like our beautiful , lost loved ones that have brought us all here together in the first place. Xx
Stay strong. Xxxx
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Yes they work but have many terrible side effects.
They can cause suicidal thoughts.
It happened to my late husband.
It was sad
Gary54 is correct that sometimes antidepressants can lift mood, but they can also cause suicidal thoughts and irrational behaviour. They affect individuals differently.
I will never take antidepressants, after seeing an adverse reaction with one of my family members, but it is up to individuals what they wish to do. They do really seem to help some people. My GP, years ago, offered antidepressants, which I turned down. He then prescribed a course of Vitamin tablets. Think it may have been a B vitamin, but it was a long time ago and my memory fails me. Whatever the vitamin is called it lifts mood but is not addictive. I was going through a very traumatic close bereavement at the time, was suicidal, a complete mess, and didnāt think I would ever get through it, but eventually I lived a new normal. It wasnāt a quick fix, and sometimes that earlier loss can overwhelm me and still knock me for six. I am now in a similar mess after close bereavement, and feel very lonely and lost, but know that I got through before and this time I have the courage and knowledge to know I will get through again somehow, but it will not be instant, life will not be the same, and I need to find yet another new normal. My salvation when I am really down is to either go and look at water which I find calming (lakes, rivers or sea), go for a long walk, or to do gardening. The best tonic, though it is difficult with covid, is to interact with my grandchildren. They give me more reason to carry on than anything.
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I agree, I have no doubtā¦ Itās just so hard and we are all so different it boggles the mind x From how our childhoods were to how much we have had in our lives and what we may not have had. I had diazepam early on because of the trauma and shock x Iām so sad but I will be x x Iām.hoping the sunshine and spending more time with my daughterās and little people will help me x My mum and dad are elderly and Iāve had limited time with mum ā¦ my dad is over seas so that is scary, the last time I went over was April 2019 to see him x He said to me today, we may never be in the same room again x There is so much more to contend with right now x @Ron xx read up or Google Grief v depression and see if any info helps you x x do what is right.for you x
Anti depressants should definitely be handled with care or not at all.
There are many herbs and extracts that do a fine job and do not damage the body.
Try looking into alternative therapy, much safer
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Hi Ron
Some people take an antidepressant for a couple of weeks then ween themselves off of it with doctors instructions.
My sister in law did that.
It seemed to have worked for her.
My husband didnāt have it so good.
Though at first it worked for him.
He was having bad side effects after a while.
I think he was o it too long.
I hope you get your answers
Take care
G.
Dear Ron, I went on anti depressants when my husband was first diagnosed with terminal pancreatic cancer, I was blessed to have him with us for a further 3 years. But sadly he passed away in June last year. The pills helped to keep me grounded, Iām only on a low dosage. Of course I still mourn and find the grief devastating, the pills donāt interfere with this. I find they do take edge off a bit and Iām thankful Iām on them still. Consult with your Doc. Iām so sorry for your loss. Take care, Margarita
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Dear Bluecatmum77
I, too found a sort of peace when I brought my husbandās ashes home. I racked my brains to think of a place where he was particularly happy and decided it was with me in his home he loved.
I just wanted to share something I read somewhere which really touched me.
Grief, I have learned is really just love. Itās all the love you want to give but canāt. All of that unspent love gathers up in the corners of your eyes, the lump in your throat and in the hollow space in your chest.Grief is just love with no place to go.
I found some comfort in that statement because I am so full of love for him but I canāt express itā¦it has nowhere to go.
Another day, another step forward.
Sending love.
Ellie
xxxxx
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