@AnnR Yes I will change but will pay even larger penalty for early termination.
They sent be one of those survey emails yesterday had great pleasure in slating them.
Beware,when a price pops up that is too good to be true,it probably is, this is where they make money.
And apparently I’ve learned today that becoming a Widow (hate that word) can increase premiums with some companies.
As well as everything else we have to endure this is pants !
Take care xx
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I know what you mean. Everyone wants to kick us when we are down.
My ins. Co is the RAC and they are pretty good. I don’t know if you need to have a car to join, but you could ask. They haven’t charged me more for being a widow. (Like you, I hate that word but don’t know what else to say)
Good luck, and I am here if you want a chat.
Hugs, Ann
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Hi gang. Xx
@Juli69. Thank you. Xx
For me coming on here has been one of the most important things i could have done.
I have never felt so alone, frightened and misunderstood in my whole life.
Then i found you all. Xx
Every single word by every single one of us is from the heart.
We all know the pain each other is suffering.
We all just read and respond.
Who knew that first post would create such a wonderful thread of kindness?
I too loathe the word widow.
Its so harsh. So final. So sad.
Another box on a survey to tick.
We are all more than that.
We are surviving. Getting through each and every day as best we can. Do you know what?
We are still here. Doing it.
Crying hysterically. Talking to our lost ones as if they are still with us.
But we are doing it together.
Every post on here by every one of us is, as my counsellor puts it, “emptying the bucket”
I think we all have skips to empty rather thn buckets, but thats what we are here for.
I am going to get in bed and aim for 8 hours sleep.
I wish everyone a good nights sleep.
Xxxx
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@Bluecatmum77 Nicely put as always .
I’m so thankful I found all of you in this wilderness .
Together we will find a way through.
Sleep well
xx
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Goodnight. Sleep tightX
Hi everyone, I had to renew household contents insurance and was told that they had to update my new details such as being a widow and that there is 1 less person living in our place. They said if I had had to make a claim with old details the policy would have been invalid! So updated and then went on a comparison site and got a brilliant deal with another company.
Hi.
I contacted my insurance company and I actually had a refund on the contents/building insurance as just me now living in the house. As for the car they just updated the policy until renewal and will transfer it to my name and give me my husbands no claims. Really great to deal with and I cannot fault them , Direct Line for both car and home insurance. I have been really lucky with them and my bank on how easy they made things. Who needs to have hassle at this time , it hard enough trying to get your head round all the admin you have to do.
Hope everyone is still asleep, I’ve been up since 4.30, another sleepless night!
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Morning All
I slept well I assume because my daughter slept with me, I do not like being on my own never have. My Tim used to sit on the toilet and chat to me so I could have a bath.
I seem to be having the most overwhelming longing to see him, hold him just be with him, the longing actually hurts inside.
I don’t shake anymore, but still have the pain in my heart and knots in my stomach and the sobbing comes from no where and overtakes me.
My youngest daughter and two baby grandchildren are coming for the weekend so I will not be on my own.
Friday was our favourite day both finish work and the whole weekend together. How our live can change just like that.
Love and virtual hugs to you all,
Julie
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Hello
I know what you mean. Being alone is a terrible thing.
I am on my 4th month of losing my Gary.
It sounds like you are working which can help
I am not.
The feelings of utter emptiness is awful.
I hope you feel better soon.
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Hi Gary54
I hope you also start to feel things are easier I have been signed off by my GP not sure when I will be ready to go back to work.
I am in two minds with the lifting of lockdown as we will be able to meet friends and family but I am happy locked in at home.
Virtual hugs
Julie
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Hi everybody,
Fridays are also mine and Christine’s day. Last day of the working week. Cleaners come so everything is spotless. Dogs are at their grandpa’s so us parents have a night just to us. Takeaway. Watch a movie. Zoom quiz with the parents. Christine also passed away on a Friday and had her funeral on a Friday ( this time last week). So I’m trying to keep Fridays as our special day. Play her first funeral song, do something every week on a Friday that she like, think of memories. Even though that happens every day, memories, at least these Fridays are something to ‘look forward to’ and make sure I actively do something positive for Christine.
I also noticed this morning when had a long lie just thinking and crying that the one thing that keeps me going is to think of the fact that although Christine lost her life, I’m grateful to have mine and I’ll give her and my life the respect it deserves by making mine count and doing things for the both of us.
That’s the one thing that helps me right now.
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Hi
So your dr. Says you are ok. No longer need visits?
Do you get out into the garden to get some sun?
I read that staying indoor depletes our vitamin d. Source.
I dislike being alone.
Take care
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@EllaRobb that’s beautiful. I’m with you on that. I owe it to John to live life. I’m not sure how yet (just over 6 weeks) but I will.
The pain of losing him hits me suddenly and is overwhelming but remembering no matter how painful is so important. Christine would be so so proud of you. I love your special day idea. I hope today is kind to you x
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Hi gang. Xx
Well my day was going ok…
Just finished on the phone to the mortgage company.
Received a letter asking me to complete an income and expenditure form to check whether i can afford the mortgage.
Am in absolute bits.
I made a lump sum from his death in service payment to bring the balance down
I screamed that down the phone to the poor girl in the mortgage centre.
I have literally halved the mortgage.
Why isnt that good enough?
I am crying hysterically.
They said its to help them help me, not to worry.
Had one letter
So just putting it on here, if you get similar letters, dont panic.
F*CKING BANKS.
Absolutely ruined my day.
Sending love and hugs. Xxxx
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@Gary54 Im not working either. We were enjoying early retirement together then lockdown hit. I think not working is good for me, less stress but definitely need to be busy x
Yes I have this coming so thanks for the warning 
@Bluecatmum77 Banks ! I agree Heartless faceless bar stewards !
I had some cash around the house from selling off some of my tools. So I took it to Bank to pay in. Without a thought the teller looked at me and said “ have you considered using our on line services sir “ to which I replied well until you’ve perfected a way of paying cash in online then NO !
She looked at me gone out .
I left shaking my head.
Don’t care what she thought she just picked the wrong day to mess with me !
Don’t let them get to you.
Rise above and tell them to swivel !
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@Mickp. Thats funny. Xx Thank you.
Feeling very drained now after all that crying.
2 hours to go before i log off work for the weekend. Roll on Prosecco…
Xxxx
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