Thank you @Mickp So far the day is kind to me. All could change when I open the prosecco but needs must. John would want me to have fizz on our anniversary. Lightung threw candles was a wonderful thing to do, I hope it helped x
@Bubba it really did. Yes I still miss him but it has definitely helped me. I hope you get the same comfort if you do x
@Mickp. Sounds lovely . We have visited on a Sunday and itās always been very peaceful. Although we only live 15 minutes away . We have stayed at the Maids Head Hotel which overlooks the Cathedral . We enjoyed Saturdays doing a pub crawl in Norwich. Those are the days Iām going to miss the most . Yes that would be good to meet up . Itās a shame we all live in different areas.
@Misty1972. It must be hard for you today . Mine will be on the 27th of June . Iām sure your husband will be glad you are having a glass of Prosecco. I might even have a glass of wine with you xx
What a lovely thing to do mick. Such a sad time x
@Mickp that must have been very moving for you. I hope the experience gave a bit of comfort along with the sadness.
Mx
Dear Mick
What a beautiful tribute to Venetia, her daughter and her sister. Candles somehow make the distance between us and those we have lost more bearable and I hope it helped you a little to light them in such blessed surroundings. Take great care x
I knew the kind day would change eventually 
canāt even blame the prosecco
We are here, the pain is relentless but we are here.
Ron x x x
@Mickp the candles look lovely. What a beautiful candle holder too. Only been to Norwich Cathedral once. 44 years ago. My mum and sister were with me and we sat in the grounds by the cathedral with some sort of snack we had bought for lunch. I donāt remember going in though. I am glad it helped you and brought you some peace today. It was a lovely idea to light the 3 candles. Venetia would be pleased.
@Misty1972 thinking of you this evening. Xx
@Misty1972. Thinking of you . It must be so hard . I have stronger days and the tears still come out of know where but itās your anniversary today and youāve done well to get through the day . xx
Thinking of you - I know how hard it is. Sending hugs
@Misty1972 Ours was March 7 th I thought Iād survived it quite well .
Next day the wrecking ball hit me
So tonight was never going to be easy.
Hugs xx
Thinking of you.
Hi gang,
@Misty1972. Sending you big hugs.xx just cry and cry. Get it all out. Xx
@Mickp. Beautiful. Xx
Im still in numbland.
Think tooth infection has goneā¦
Throwing myself into work. Its hectic, but it gives my brain something else to think about.
I have been jotting things down for my statement for Friday.
Really apprehensive.
I never want to relive that night again, but guess im going to have toā¦
Our anniversary isnt until September.
We always made a fuss.
A weird thing happened yesterday.
I was putting clothes away in my bedroom wardrobe and the TV turned on all by itself. I was nowhere near the remote.
I came downstairs and i could smell his aftershave really strongly.
Im convinced he is knocking about.
It brings me huge comfort.
I miss him so much.
Anyway, late post, better get to bed and attempt some form of sleep.
Just thought i better do a quick check in.
Sending love and hugs.
Xxxxx
Hi Sheila
I had the same experience.
After my dad passed I was going through his things and he had an old spice deodorant, which was near me but it was not opened.
I could smell it all around the room.
I also had a friend told me that that she could smell a
Cigarette that her mom smoked. Her mom had passed some time before this.
They surely have their ways of letting us know.
Some people get their comfort from this, which is good for the living.
Though it was weird for me.
Blessings,
Gary 54
Hi gang,
Hope everyone is doing ok.
Just finished giving my statement to the Police Coroner.
Gah. Had to relive that awful Sunday morning.
Feel exhausted from crying.
What an awful thing to have to do.
Police Officer was fantatsic.
She was so caring.
I just want this inquest over and done with now.
I need to be able to put the bad stuff in the past and grieve for my Husband.
Not HOW he died, but the fact he HAS died.
Regardless of the circumstances.
I know heās at peace.
I will love him until my dying day.
Gone too soon.
But isnāt the saying āBetter to have loved and lost, than to have never loved at allā?
Sending love, strength and light.
Xxxxxxx
I am so glad you are the other side of what you have had to endure today on top of everything else, you are a very strong lady my thoughts are with you. And yes we are in unbearable pain with the loss of our partners but you would not change that as it comes with the love we have for them
Ron x x
@Bluecatmum77
Hi Steph,
So pleased that the statement is done .
If you anything like me I guess I would have rehearsed over and over in my head before doing it .
Really hope inquest date comes sooner rather than later for you now.
Yes better to have loved ā¦ā¦ā¦.
My daughter (46) has a new fella and is picking up the pieces of her life right now.
Iāve never heard or seen her so happy all I said to her was take your time,if itās right youāll know and if you can achieve half of what Venetia and I had then Iām happy for you.
Mick xxx
There will be a sense of relief now that you have written the statement . I had to do the same in February and re live every moment . It was so hard but like you I got through it and just felt it was another step forward once done . I didnāt go to the inquest or want to watch by video link . I chose not too.
It was hard on the day because I felt that I had let him down by not going but I also knew he wouldnāt of wanted me to be upset either .
Glad you have done it x
Take a big deep breath that itās done for now. Thatās a massive step . I need to do one for Grahamās inquest in September been chased up a couple of times by coroners office offering help with it but Iām with you it will be like reliving it all over again so what am I doing what I do well avoiding it. I will in the next few days be brave hopefully and follow your lead. Thinking of you having to go through thatš
Big hugs
Julie x