It’s truly awful when people and especially family treat you as if you don’t matter, a simple phonecall never hurt anyone and we can all find the time to make a quick call. You feel like you are on nobody’s priority list. It’s really inexcusable. I would rather be on my own than accept crumbs from anyone
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They know, my daughter is causing issues with us all and i wont play along with her games. She likes to be centre of attention all the time.
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@Punto this is about her dad…why would you not remember your own dad’s birthday? and if it’s done to hurt you that’s even worse?
I have learnt I won’t and don’t accept bad behaviour from anyone anymore. I would rather walk away than tolerate anyone disrespecting me or my feelings
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I am the same shes always wanted attention and because i wont side with her shes become unbearably rude. I told her not to contact me if that is how shes going to be and got abuse for that. I live near her but I am thinking about moving away as I feel like she wants to control me.
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Huh you would be amazed @LynT … have you got grown up kids ? Theyre completely different to our generation you know … xx
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@Deb5 2 stepsons who I now have nothing to do with as I wouldn’t tolerate their bad behaviour. Their dad would be horrified so disowned them a few months after he died. I don’t care if it’s family or not, I wouldn’t accept intolerable behaviour. I treat people with respect, kindness and compassion and if it’s not reciprocated I walk away…
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Fortunately my middle daughter who just had a baby has come round a lot but ever since she was born she has always been the easiest child … i love the other 2 but bit like @Punto daughter , they try to control you dont they - they think their in charge and they call the shots - i dont think so !! Xx
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Yep, we can’t afford to be upset any more than we already are. Blank them.
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I wonder why the kids change as soon as their dad not their. Me and my dog walker friend were saying this a few days ago ! They wouldn’t dare behave like they do if our husbands were here would they ? But thats not progress ! Thats not equality !!! They gone backwards !! And im afraid to say that there is a complete lack of respect in the world today … just shocking really xx
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So true … its really not fair is it ! We been damn well through enough ! I sometimes think do people wanna crucify us or something ?? How much crap can a human being take 
we are only skin and bone at end of the day its awful isnt it how things are now it really is ;( its shocking really …
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I’m fortunate I have a few very good friends but I have only ever surrounded myself with people who have my back. I have never tolerated either family or friends who disrespect or ignore my feelings. I have very clear boundaries. It’s an effort and hard to find good caring respecting people but they are out there. When my husband died I chose wisely and carefully my support team which has helped enormously with all the grief and heartbreak. They built me up and I feel strong. They can’t fix the loneliness of my husband not being here but I can cope with that. I have so much planned this year so won’t be on my own much but being alone and being lonely are two different things…
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Good on you !!you sound like you got it sussed ! Its taken me much longer than you. But youre rught. But when its your own family i think its harder to protect yourself against xx
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I hate it… are you ok??? Oh my god what do people expect!!
My husband is dying from a brain tumour. He was in hospital then i cared for him at home. Now hes in a hospice.
I dont reply to ’ how are you?’ 
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@Punto I am so sorry . They should have done more than phone on this difficult day . I hope you feel the support on here . These days are very sad for us all . We got married on his birthday so at least that’s only one day to be sad . Small mercy . I hope you are ok
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Take care of yourself love. Poor lass … not easy is it none of this is easy ! xx
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Or how you doing? How do think I’m doing I feel like replying.
And I’m so sorry why you sorry what have you done
But best is your 44 your young enough to meet someone else
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Yeh cos theres no inbetween is there ? You gotta get over the person u lose first ! Its called grieving … Jeez … people are unbelievable arent they ! X
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Oh yes very inconsiderate that was 4 weeks after then again of someone else 9 months after very helpful words
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Yes those cuddles are so wanted, if only, we just have to keep going and survive. Take care x
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Luckily nobody said that last comment to me … they avoided it … you work it out for yourself dont you ? When youre ready … i think we’re terrible in this country at dealing with bereavment ! People are so rubbish at it … x
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