@RoseGarden
She is. These people strike when you least expect it.
I dunno … im bad sometimes i am … if they ask me around here how i am i start crying sometimes ! God im such a wimp - especially people who knew my husband - i think its cos it makes me sad xx
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I saw someone today who had known Steve for years. She asked if I’m OK, I said no. She then asked “Why, what’s happened?”.
Really???
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Oh no … 
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No way!! 
Ive just had an upsetting argument with my 34 year old son who lives with me . I was crying and really upset (i try not to in front of him) and he said whats the matter? I said what do you think, i wasnt snapping, but he said i was and he was really horrible to me. All i want is some sympathy and understanding and even a hug but all i get is criticism and confrontation. My sister says i should write him a letter and leave it in his room, basically saying its my home and i shouldn’t be treated like that. Im not good at words and i know ive let him get away with things all his life, so ive really made a rod for my own back. When its the evening i cant really ask someone to come and see me i expect they’re fed up with my misery!!! Help!!!
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I live with my 22yr old son. He goes to work, then the gym. Then hides in his bedroom.
I might aswell be living on my own, rattling round the house!
My daughter is 34 and has her own home.
When i see her she talks over me, so i can never tell her how i feel.
I think try and see your friends more and confide in them to get your frustration out x
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Aw … its not fair is it ? He should give you sympathy… ive had same trouble with my kids ! They cant cope with emotion these days … theyre about same age as him xx
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What!!! I think I would have.
That’s shocking 
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Kind of you to give it context. But I still think it’s shocking
She should be letting you talk about your wife.
Makes me feel so privileged that I had beautiful kind people that looked after my husband in his ‘funeral home’.
I’ve been back a few times , like at Christmas and on his 1st anniversary to thank them , and one girl in particular always remembers me, and even details about things I’d told her about him. A special person.
I was lucky. (It was the coop )
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Dear @Blake
I’m really pleased to hear that.
Funeral directors have a really special job to do.
I hope you are as okay as possible this weekend
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My Nick passed away 20th April and this is the 1st time his twin brother came to see me yesterday!
All he did was look round asking for things of nicks that are sentimental to me.
He was going on about Nicks old will which favoured him.
Nick married me 15th January. Weve been together 12 years. Nick did another will after we married… in my favour.
Not looking forward to the new will reading but i was bubbling inside, so angry 
the funeral isnt until 16th may… just cant cope 
missing Nick
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Aw … really what a thing to say when you just viewed your wife cos its really that easy isnt it ! Xx
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I really feel for you Mandy,I had the same with Peter’s son as regards the will we had been together for 38 years but never married but had a much longer life together than his wife who he had divorced when I met him.Luckily Peter had left a will with everything in my favour too he had given his children money a few years ago and made it clear that was what he was giving to them.But after the funeral the son came to my house demanded to see the will he actually photographed it,then he contacted the solicitor wanting to contest the will she told him he hadn’t a leg to stand on but it sickens me he could be so greedy.
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I don’t think the will has to be read these days unless it’s a very large amount of money.It’s my belief that the executor sorts everything out in my partners case that was the solicitor,she just contacted the people that were beneficiaries.
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I think his brother will contest the will.
Nick & I knew eachother from school. Then lost touch after school until 2012. Then started going out together… living together.
Only married 15th January 2024 and Nick passed away 20th April 2024
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Mmmm … people tend to think that don’t they ? but still totally tactless… im 16 months into this journey not really gone looking for anybody else … got a male friend but thats about it really … i dont think its as easy as everybody says to get over this … but maybe for a man i dunno… depends on the man ? x
Haha, spot on that, I have lost count of how many people I want to punch their lights out lol… I know it’s a lonely journey but sometimes people make that loneliness worse, I prefer my own company much of the time and an now selective who I confide in
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Yeh you have to be very careful who you talk to dont you ? Rather than wanting to punch some people lights out i tend to just tell them to p**s off which i have done with quite a lot of my family … missing him today … been poorly and its soooo hard without him here xx
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Oh no … thats not long is it to be married :(. So sorry for your loss but its hard whenever or however we lose person we love zx
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