Hope you feel better soon
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Thank you … had one thing after the other the last few weeks ! 
hopefully it will turn around … makes you wonder how much of a toll this grief takes on our bodies doesnt it i must be run down i think because i never used to get poorly but thanks for your good wishes xx
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Hope you feel better soon Deb, it’s unsettling being alone and poorly as well xx
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It flipping is … its been awful. Im hoping im turning the corner a bit today :(?feeling bit better … so hard when hes not here to help me and look after me x
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I don’t think he would have a leg to stand on if he did ,what would be the point of making a Will if people could just have it overturned if they didn’t like it.Don’t worry about it you were his wife ,I wasn’t even Peter’s wife but we had been together 38 years in a very happy relationship and he wanted to provide for me which he did .Some people really disgust me they are selfish greedy vultures.But I know from experience it’s very upsetting even though I knew Peter’s son didn’t stand a chance it really shook me up.You look after yourself.x
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His brother has his own house!! In 2018 we were told Nicks tumour had shrunk.
We were so happy. Nick asked me and my son to move into this house. Weve lived here for 5 years and ive paid the bills.
2020 we were told Nicks tumour was growing again. We were going to vegas and was going to get married in the little white Chapel… but covid happened and everything was cancelled.
Then life got in the way…
I sold my home to do Nicks up with the proceeds.
But, we were a couple and i never thought anything of it at the time.
Nicks mortgage was paid so it made sense for me and my son to move here.
Nick lived at mine for more or less 7 years before that.
I know, i sound stupid.
Nick had a tumour for 10yrs… it was controlled with chemotherapy tablets and seizure medication.
I never thought we would get to this…
He was a keen cyclist. I was more worried he’d get knocked off his bike!
Im spilling our private life out on here because i dont have anyone to talk to.
One close friend who i see once a week because she has her own family problems.
Totally lost within Nick, he was my best friend x
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I read that grieving does affect our ability to fight off infections.
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@Deb5 im sorry to hear you have been unwell hun . Yes it does take it out of you . Anything that becomes a problem seems exaggerated now . I imagine it’s the same for others . I am always here if you need me . I bought some berroca but forget to take them
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Whats berroca ? And thanks yeh honestly i had one thing after the other last few weeks … im gonna send you a PM if thats ok xx
@Deb5 yes Hun . Berroca are vitamins in a tablet you dissolve. They are supposed to boost your energy and health
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Oh right … sound good idea might get some myself …
Sent you a PM. Xx
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Yeh i agree every problem seems magnified. I panic making decisions without him here … i bloody hate all this ! Its crap isnt it ? Theres just nothing good about it in any way xx
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Doesn’t matter how long you were married in your case because you lived together long enough to be considered married in common law.
If others were not ‘dependent’ on you both then they can’t contest what is laid down in the will.
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If he had made a will that provided for you there’s nothing his brother can do about it don’t worry .It’s really upsetting though especially when you have everything else on on .Peter’s son came to my house and demanded to see the will I was so upset then he photographed it I was feeling very vulnerable at that time with everything that had happened with his sudden death and me finding him so had no fight in me.although I did know he had no chance of getting it changed we had lived in our house for 24 years and I had bought it jointly with him but the son was after half of it even though Peter had left his half to me .The solicitor told him he hadn’t a led to stand on ,besides married or not it doesn’t make any difference if there’s a will.
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Thank you xx
Its horrible isnt it. Last thing on my mind.
His brother has his own house too!!
Just greedy, petty, nasty behaviour.
Ive got to go and get Nick ready in the Chapel of rest tomorrow 
thats all i can think about 
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Money was and still is the last thing on my mind.I hope all goes well with the funeral and it’s exactly as you want it to be.I will be thinking of you.x
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You can talk all you like on this site we are here to help each other
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I had a great comment today, from one of Mum’s friends who had met Steve last September. She said, “Sorry you’ve had a sad time recently, but wasn’t he ill, anyway?”
Yes, I said, does that make it any easier?
These people!
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What???
Words fail me!
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