You have endured a lot too, and it is no small thing to go through for either of us and no one is the same afterwards,
I take comfort from being able to grant her that last wish, to die at home with me by her side, us all the main family are gone it fell to me to do it, she was my mother, I was available, and it was the least I could do.
Also she was a very good age at 95, this is still her house, and as long as I live there will always be a place for her, if only her ashes.
The house has been left so I can live in it ‘in perpetuity’ if I sell it half after cost goes to my sis in law and Niece, I am lucky to have her living near by, she could easily be living at Church Stretton, then I really would be alone.
My dad was 60 when that photo was taken, he retired slightly early in those days and had worked 40 years and was able to claim his occupational pension, know he would not get that until 66, state pension age.
With a loss like that part of you dies with them, you do not get over that, you learn to live with it and you grow around it, and yes, it was the worst moment in my life, but I was so exhausted I just shut down.
It fell to me to call the undertaker, her body was removed from the house just 3 hours and 10 minutes after passing and I just went into my sleeping bag, I would have died had I not been found a week later.
Bereavement kills thousands of older people every year and is as deadly as pneumonia, this is NOT suicide, the one left behind just sinks into despair, turns over and gives up, my mother and myself virtually lived as man and wife, and since my dad died in 2008 I have lived with my mother since christmas2010, and hotel and shop staff have at times mistaken as as a couple, and I use to play jokes with them about it, much to our amusement and there embarrassment.
I am so glad we had those good years together and am grateful for them, we went to Norway on a tour once. 2015 I think, £5 a cup of coffee, trise what we pay hear know, and until her final years we were always away at Christmas.
‘That was then, this know, get on with it’ my mother used to say, and she was rite, we only have the present and must make the best of that, and I have probably had the happiest years of my life and what I have been through has probably shortened it, I do not care about that, she was my mother and grief is the price we pay for love.
We have both been through the meat grinder.
Blessings to you, try to enjoy your day, I will probably be on antidepressants next month, you are on a good site, we have all been through it and are going through it.
Tim